Originally posted by stevera004
We are dealing with people, not robots. Of *course*, when we give advice, and use the qualifiers always,never, etc. we don't *really* mean always,never etc. We mean most of the time etc. But life if too short to waste going after the 1 in a million shot. To say otherwise is illogical (and 'romantic' i.e. very chick'ish).
If a chick says she's busy, she just isn't into you. That's it. No point in thinking otherwise. If she dug you, she would make time. Or, to state it otherwise for the slower members here, if she doesn't make time for you, she isn't worth *your* time.
Sigh, it just isn't possible for a woman to understand DJ.
It's just another case of over-analyzing. As an actual woman, I know that sometimes I say I'm busy because I don't want to see the guy. And then sometimes I say I'm busy because
I'm actually busy. (Normally if I
was really busy, but also interested... I'd offer a counter-offer or something... "I'm really busy with this, but I should be done with this work by Wednesday").
But you're missing the point stevera,
it doesn't matter if this is that '1 in a million' case or not. The action is the same.
Stop bothering her for plans. Go date some other women, etc. I'm not saying he should be sitting around waiting for her... Tell her "well I see you're so busy, so if you want to hang out you can call me". Basically let her know that you're not going to continue chasing her. That way if it was a game, she knows it's not working and will give it up. If it's not a game and she's actually busy, you haven't thrown away your chances with a nice, hot girl. Assume she's not going to ever call you.
If after a week and her responsibilities are less time-consuming, she calls you for plans then that's a nice little surprise for you. If not, well you're no worse off than you were before. Just because she's busy doesn't mean she's not into you... but I'm not saying you should be holding out on that chance either.
