The Duke
Master Don Juan
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Three weeks ago I started talking to this HB8 I met online. We were both texting back and forth one evening and decided to meet up later that night. Went to a casual bar for some drinks and light convo. She was a little closed off and definitely had some walls up so it was tough to build that connection plus she kept messing with her phone which was a slight turn off. At this point I really didn’t care what happened. We both have a love for cars so before leaving she let me drive hers which is a pretty sweet/expensive vehicle so that was fun. Afterwards she kisses me without being prompted and then asks when she can see me again. Years of experience tell me to take all this with a grain of salt.
The days following our date we talk/text randomly, she sends me a few pics of herself. I am busy and going to be out of town so I don’t have much time for her. She lets me know she really wants to see me before I leave and can’t wait. So she invites me to stay the night with her and lets me know there will be no sechs!!!! Lol. I agree to it, but 12hrs later she changes her mind and makes up some bs excuse.
That was a big turnoff, I understand chics are flakey/emotional but I rearranged my schedule to make time for her so I wasn’t impressed when she didn’t follow thru.
My suspiscions told me she had another guy or two on the side she was interested in and her interest level just for me just wasn’t there. A girl that is as interested as she should be won’t flake out and or put up road blocks. Right or wrong, I finally decided that all this girl wants from me is a “friend” so I withdraw attention.
A week goes by and I make a joke thru text about her putting on her bikini and coming over to wash my car for me. Later that night I get a sechsy pic of her modeling bikini! I ignored it until several hours later and of course she gets major insecure about it and thinks I don’t like her because she isn’t attractive enough! I smooth it over and all is good.
So late last night I get a text telling me how I was one of the few guys that didn’t treat her like a piece of meat, she thinks I’m awesome, and there is some chemistry. She explains she had to get some things figured out and wanted to know if I was still interested. After hearing this, I’m thinking hmmmmm she must have been out on a date and some guy wanted to go further than she was willing. So I call her out on it because I’m not buying the Howie is great story! She instantly denies it all and tells me I’m totally off. I’m like yeah right, experience tells me differently! Something is driving her to open up and spill her guts.
After she calms down she tells me what happened although wouldn’t admit I called it right. She was basically out with 2 guys(1 is a friend in town on business) and her “friend” tried to put his hand down her pants then was begging for her to come to their hotel for a 3some. So just as I thought, I knew something happened that lead to her telling me how great I was. They probably used to fuhk back in the day I’m guessing.
So now she would love to see me this weekend. I told her I wasn’t doing the friend zone deal because that’s what this looked like and she would need to convince me that she wants to be more than friends to which she agreed. Time will tell. I’ve got another girl on deck so I’m not about to put all my eggs in one basket. This girl has been way too flakey/emotional.
Although she didn’t come out & say it directly, this girl is basically wanting me to be exclusive yet we haven’t even had sechs yet and there really isn't a solid connection obviously……HELL NO. She is afraid of getting hurt, yet I know she has 10 guys ready at a moments notice. I’m lucky if I got 2 or 3 I’m talking to.
Hopefully this is some good insight into the female mind and helps somebody realize that take what they say with a grain of salt, its all about ACTION.
The days following our date we talk/text randomly, she sends me a few pics of herself. I am busy and going to be out of town so I don’t have much time for her. She lets me know she really wants to see me before I leave and can’t wait. So she invites me to stay the night with her and lets me know there will be no sechs!!!! Lol. I agree to it, but 12hrs later she changes her mind and makes up some bs excuse.
That was a big turnoff, I understand chics are flakey/emotional but I rearranged my schedule to make time for her so I wasn’t impressed when she didn’t follow thru.
My suspiscions told me she had another guy or two on the side she was interested in and her interest level just for me just wasn’t there. A girl that is as interested as she should be won’t flake out and or put up road blocks. Right or wrong, I finally decided that all this girl wants from me is a “friend” so I withdraw attention.
A week goes by and I make a joke thru text about her putting on her bikini and coming over to wash my car for me. Later that night I get a sechsy pic of her modeling bikini! I ignored it until several hours later and of course she gets major insecure about it and thinks I don’t like her because she isn’t attractive enough! I smooth it over and all is good.
So late last night I get a text telling me how I was one of the few guys that didn’t treat her like a piece of meat, she thinks I’m awesome, and there is some chemistry. She explains she had to get some things figured out and wanted to know if I was still interested. After hearing this, I’m thinking hmmmmm she must have been out on a date and some guy wanted to go further than she was willing. So I call her out on it because I’m not buying the Howie is great story! She instantly denies it all and tells me I’m totally off. I’m like yeah right, experience tells me differently! Something is driving her to open up and spill her guts.
After she calms down she tells me what happened although wouldn’t admit I called it right. She was basically out with 2 guys(1 is a friend in town on business) and her “friend” tried to put his hand down her pants then was begging for her to come to their hotel for a 3some. So just as I thought, I knew something happened that lead to her telling me how great I was. They probably used to fuhk back in the day I’m guessing.
So now she would love to see me this weekend. I told her I wasn’t doing the friend zone deal because that’s what this looked like and she would need to convince me that she wants to be more than friends to which she agreed. Time will tell. I’ve got another girl on deck so I’m not about to put all my eggs in one basket. This girl has been way too flakey/emotional.
Although she didn’t come out & say it directly, this girl is basically wanting me to be exclusive yet we haven’t even had sechs yet and there really isn't a solid connection obviously……HELL NO. She is afraid of getting hurt, yet I know she has 10 guys ready at a moments notice. I’m lucky if I got 2 or 3 I’m talking to.
Hopefully this is some good insight into the female mind and helps somebody realize that take what they say with a grain of salt, its all about ACTION.