Dancing with girls at clubs.

[AlmostThere!]

If a girl is just standing around, how do I dance with her?

If there's a group of girls dancing, should I attempt to penetrate their circle?

What's the most important thing to remember when going to clubs?

(I'm going alone)

 

[AlmostThere!]

I know that a guy should never ask a girl if she wants to dance.

 

[user43770]

If a girl is just standing around, how do I dance with her?

If a girl is just standing around, I wouldn't try to dance with her. Go ask her why she's standing around, then introduce yourself and initiate game.

If there's a group of girls dancing, should I attempt to penetrate their circle?

Your best bet is to single one of them out.

What's the most important thing to remember when going to clubs?

Don't get too drunk and don't give up. You're going to get shot down more times than not - don't let it phase you.


(I'm going alone)

Not a problem. If a girls asks if I'm alone, I usually tell them my friends are around somewhere.

Good luck out there.

 

[Allurre]

Yes, don't ASK the girl to dance.

Instead, ASK why SHE ISN'T DANCING.

If I was to see a girl just standing around glancing at the crowd, I'd walk up to her and ask...

"Mam, I am concerned."

"Is this how you always roll in the club? No dancing, just standing?"

From there, I'll continue with some more bantering to increase her comfort level with my presence.

After getting a clear idea of why she's here, what her name is, how she's feeling toward the night etc. (which should all take less than 5 minutes), I'll then excuse myself to the restroom or for another drink.

Tell her you'll be back.

When you return, you'd have already induced her to a state of comfort and curiosity/excitement to learn more about you.

From here, it'll be much easier to invite her to a dance, as opposed to marching up to a girl and asking her "Do you wanna dance?"

 

[Allurre]

Ah, and since you're going alone, try to develop some social proof first.

Meet the other fellas in the club, or look for lone club crawlers like you and befriend them first.

 

[YogurtSlinger]

Walk right up to her and try doing the lawnmower. When she asks about you being alone, tell her that all your friends are already mowing someone else's lawns.

 

[AlmostThere!]

Sounds good, will try.

 

[SBW]

Dunno if it applies worldwide but I'm finding that knowing a few basic "couple" or proper dancing moves works pretty well here.

Preferred lady & I dance like that, not very well TBH but as soon as she tires and finishes a dance, I'm often invited into one or other of the other groups of ladies to spin them round the floor a bit. Some get pretty flirty/touchy-feely when at it too. All you need is to get up once and you can be in demand for ages. She gets right jealous!

So I'm trying to talk her into going to a weekend dance class next month to improve things.