Dancing screw-up last night...how should I have handled it?

[One on One]

I was at the club with a girl I'm interested in and some of her friends last night. I was close dancing\grinding with the HB. Then, some other guy (she didn't know him) came up and started dancing with her from behind and grinding. I kept dancing for a little, but it felt weird as **** with 2 guys on her. Then, I thought she said, "let the other guy go" or something. I thought that was kinda ****ed up to say that, but she didn't really say it...I don't know what the **** she said because it was so loud. Anyways, because I thought she said that, I backed off. Two minutes later she is asking me why I let that guy do that. I don't know what the **** I could do there. Did she want to dance with both of us....was I supposed to be all possessive and tell the guy to step off, push him?? WTF??

BTW, this girl is weirding me out lately. She is this hot filipino chick, but all her friends aren't attractive at all. Usually HBs hang with HBs, but she doesn't. Also, I wasn't going to go to the club last night, but she told me she wanted me to come (I had planned to go, but my friend backed down, so I told her that and then she said I could go with them...so I didn't just make plans with her on a whim). So I thought she was really into me, but we only danced once and it felt weird being around her friends. I think I have bad ears too because I can't hear what she says and I always gotta ask her to repeat it. After I danced with her, she asked me to dance with her ugly friend. I decided to do it because I was just standing around like a loser. Now, I think she is just a good friend who didn't want her ugly friend to get left out, but who knows??? And, get this, while I'm dancing with her ugly friend, she is like squeezing my butt.

I'm getting the feeling she's just a club girl who loves to have fun and flirt, but I just don't know. She begs me to come out to the club, squeezes my butt all the time, but doesn't seem all that eager to dance with me any more than other guys. I don't get it.

 

[krd]

Originally posted by dave134
I'm getting the feeling she's just a club girl who loves to have fun and flirt, but I just don't know.

I think you're probably right.

 

[One on One]

Anyone else?

 

[iqqi]

dude, why don't you just ask her out on a date? How are you gonna know if she is interested in YOU, or not? Have you done this at all?
More info is needed here, about your status with girl.

 

[Mr. Mystery]

When you go to the club with her, dance with her, her friends, and other girls in the club. Have fun.

She is beggin you to come out and grabbin your ass...I think its high time you make a move of your own.

Take her to a couch in the club and start making out with her.

I can't tell by reading your post whether or not you were standing around just with her and her friends or if you were dancing and talking with other people in the club, but you should be doing the latter.

Mr. Mystery

 

[One on One]

iqqi,

I think you're right. I'm planning to ask her out (well, tell her I'm watching a movie and she should come) this week. I really have been spurned by her damn friends too many times. We have not been out alone. I'm very C+F when alone with her, but, truthfully, I'm still quite shy in groups and I don't want that to ruin my chances.

Mystery,

Good advice. I was basically waiting around and only dancing with her last night, which was not good. I was able to cover myself and even told her I had danced with someone else, though. I'm trying to open up and enjoy the clubs, but I'm still not there yet.

I'll ask her over to watch a movie this week and then I'll have a good indication of where I stand. No more guessing.

 

[iqqi]

(well, tell her I'm watching a movie and she should come)

well, this is not exactly a date, and you are still left with the question of is she interested in you, MORE THAN FRIENDS. What you are essentially doing is postponing possible rejection.

But you know, its not that bad. It's just you still will not know for sure if she wants you like that. And i guess atleast now you'll be alone, and you can feel her out. But you better work the seduction route, or you are risking LJBF!!!!

 

[aBAzLLnA]

just have fun when you go out, usually girls (i may be wrong) in the clubs arent lookin for anything serious. just a spontaneous hook up here and there...

if this is what you want then, it shouldnt be too hard to get it

anyway, i wouldnt worry about ur "screw-up" (please, u didnt screw anything up...). she got pissed for no reason at all

AND

do what you wanna do, im sure u know that already. (?)

ok hope this helps

~ivan

 

[DJ_Dork]

Dude, I would never take my date to teeny bopper/20s dance clubs. If she goes, let her go with her friends and try not to imagine anything happening because what happens in the club usually stays in the club.