Damn this chick. need some insite

[Raikojo17]

so here's how it goes. Me and this chick jus recently split because of a fight we had. she was mad at me for asking another girl to the prom, then changing my mind and asking her. basically she told me she's no one's leftovers and is always first. then she told me to delete her number, aim, everything and that she didnt want to talk to me anymore.

so i wont here from her again right? wrong. i naturally moved on after tryin to save it and getting nowhere.

she doesnt want to talk to me? (As we all kno, girls always come crawling back, and i expected her to come back).she sent me a text message asking if i found another date yet since i didnt want the other girl (she assumed the other girl was my gf). i asked her y, and she said she was just asking.

convo:

Her: so did ya find a date yet?
Rai: y do u ask, stranger? (making sure it was her, cuz i deleted her # like she asked me too)
Her: i was just asking

after that i didnt respond until after prom.

Rai: man! prom was too fun!!
Her: that's good....so did u find another date or did ya girl end up goin wit u?
Rai: she not my girl, but yea i got another date. still tho, wish u were there
Her:yea...well im glad u had fun

i could tell she was kinda jealous and bitter from this, but hey i gave her a chance to go and she didnt take it.

now the thing i dont get is, if she so claims to want me out of her life. why does she insist on still talking to me? she even sends messages tryin to dog me. here's one

ur like the abc's
A-adorable
B-Beautiful
C-cute
D- dreamy
E-exciting
F-freaky
G-gorgeous
H-ha!
J-just
K-kidding
L-loser

I couldn't help but laugh at this. she must have been up all night thinking that one up.and that was out of nowhere. i didnt even say anything to her, cuz we're supposed to not be talking anymore.

Now i do still like her and feel sorry for her, but i have other girls too. My friends say that she wants me bad, but i dont kno wat's goin on. I would be open to rekindling the relationship ( used to really like her), but im kinda clueless as to how. and im sick of the stupid games. saying that she fine one minute, then being mad at me the next.

i was gonna call her and out right tell her that the games end now, and if she wants to date we can, but if not than she should just leave me alone and forget us.
wats do you guys think?

sorry for the length, but this situation has me all worked up.

 

[Obsidian]

It sounds like you're in pretty firm control of the situation and don't care about the outcome too much, so what you said actually sounds like a pretty fine idea to me.

You should get a second opinion, tho.

 

[Raikojo17]

thanks O.

bump, need some more expert DJ help wit this one

 

[Vypros]

My friends say that she wants me bad,

Your friends are smart, you should listen to them.

i was gonna call her and out right tell her that the games end now, and if she wants to date we can, but if not than she should just leave me alone and forget us.
wats do you guys think?

Don't give her the option. First of all, let me just say that you shouldn't date a girl who is playing these stupid games like this because you are in for an emotional ride.

That being said, I know you won't listen to that, so I might as well give you advice on how to score this girl.

DON'T ASK HER TO STOP THE GAMES. DON'T ASK HER OUT.

TELL her what you want and GO DO IT, and if she follows she follows if she doesn't she doesn't.

Your aloofness has gotten you this far, now don't go and blow it with some stupid speech about how you want the games to end and that if it's ok with her you all can date.

Screw that. You call her up and say something like:

"Hey, I'm going to X. If you're nice to me I'll let you tag along. But stay out of my way cause we're looking for chicks."

or even better:

"You know, i always sort of thought of you as a little sister. You're a pain in my ass."

lol

You ever been friendzoned? I have and I can tell you that it's TORTURE to get friendzoned, but at it's hard as hell to walk away from it.

The idea is not to have some serious discussion with her about playing games. The idea is that if she wants to be in your life, she can, but on YOUR terms.

Trust me, she won't say no.

 

[Obsidian]

well, I like the idea about being assertive

But both of your quotes just sound pretty obnoxious. I probably wouldn't mention the stuff about picking up other girls, especially considering that's the type of thing she got so insecure about before.


how about just, "Let's cut the games. I'm going to x, you come with me." or "You can tag along if you're nice"

trying to friend-zone her would be counterproductive


And yeah, I agree with your first point that this girl is probably not worth it.

 

[Vypros]

But both of your quotes just sound pretty obnoxious.

Heh, that's the point.

With a girl who plays silly games, you want to be obnoxious as hell.

Personally, I don't like being "obnoxious", so I don't associate with girls who play silly games. But that's just me.

 

[nonchalant]

That's some of the worst spelling and grammar on the board, and that's saying a lot!

 

[penkitten]

what a dog! you were dating her and asked another chick to your prom and when she found out, she told you off RIGHT!
then she has a weak moment and contacts you.
she didnt get all afc like and beg for you back, she just got nosy and asked for some details....
why? to torture herself and then remind herself why she hates you and should move on.
she did not get nasty with you by asking if the other girl went. she never called anyone names, started crying or became a whiner.
then you come to the board here, saying how you like her and feel sorry for her at the same time.
brother please, save the bs.
dont feel sorry for her, and for god's sake if you do like her, let her put this relationship behind her. let her stew in it and get it all out of her system.

no one deserves to have their thunder stolen on freggin prom nite and given to another chick and then asked second.

if you get back together, this molehill will turn into mt. everest until both of you fall flat on your backs. how can you rekindle a relationship that ended like this?

if you liked her so much, why would you ask another to prom first? if you want advise, i would leave this whole thing alone and move on.

 

[Vypros]

what a dog! you were dating her and asked another chick to your prom and when she found out, she told you off RIGHT!
then she has a weak moment and contacts you.
she didnt get all afc like and beg for you back, she just got nosy and asked for some details....
why? to torture herself and then remind herself why she hates you and should move on.
she did not get nasty with you by asking if the other girl went. she never called anyone names, started crying or became a whiner.
then you come to the board here, saying how you like her and feel sorry for her at the same time.
brother please, save the bs.
dont feel sorry for her, and for god's sake if you do like her, let her put this relationship behind her. let her stew in it and get it all out of her system.

no one deserves to have their thunder stolen on freggin prom nite and given to another chick and then asked second.

if you get back together, this molehill will turn into mt. everest until both of you fall flat on your backs. how can you rekindle a relationship that ended like this?

if you liked her so much, why would you ask another to prom first? if you want advise, i would leave this whole thing alone and move on.

Judging by this response, you're doing everything right chief. Keep doing what you are doing and she'll be like putty in your hands. lol

 

[ValleyDJing]

Dude, everything is playing out perfectly for you. I think you've done a stellar job, you have smart friends too. As for that ABCs thing, you should reply to that with exactly what you said. Let her know how hard you laughed at it and dog her right back with that piece about her taking all night to think that up. Tell her that sounds like something you're little sister used to do to you when you were 11 and pushed her in the mud.

I say just keep up what you've been doing. Stay aloof, if she tries to talk to you be like, I'm not talking to you anymore. If she asks why, give her the, what are you stupid? look and tell her you're not interested in playing games.

If you want her back, just keep it up...Right now she's cracking because she's talking to you and asking you about other chicks. Eventually she's gonna collapse altogether and you'll probably get the whole bit with waterworks, I love you's, I'm sorry's, notes, "take me back" presents, etc...should be a pretty good show. And then you've got her back on your terms.