For Lazy People, I'll provide cliffs at the bottom
Okay. First off, this is going to sound like a pretty bad idea, but it's been rattling inside my head for a couple of days now. I go to a very small college (it's a Maritime Academy) and our male/female ratio is something like 9/1. On top of that, most of the girls here aren't that attractive. You sort of need this background information. I go out with girls on the weekends... but I meet them mostly through my job (I'm a waiter). But I get really bored during the week.
So there's this girl here (my school), and at first I didn't really have that much interest in her. I thought that she was cute and all, but that's about it. She clearly is better looking that about ninety-five percent of the other ladies here.
One day I get an email from one of my friends asking me if I could give this girl a ride down to see him. I honestly didn't care at this point. I knew this guy was going to try to get with her. She would have had to have been stupid/naive to think otherwise. But since I have a long ride home every week (I work about ten minutes from my house, but go to school about three and a half hours away), I decided - what the hell, I could use some company.
I drove her down to see him, and she was actually pretty cool. I'm not going to say that I was really interested enough to make a move, but she was still nice to hang out with - in fact we hit it off pretty well.
Anyway, I went out Friday night, worked the weekend, and then picked her up on my way back to school. My friend did indeed try to hook up with her, but (from what she said) he was awkward and boring and yadda yadda yadda... so I'm assuming that even if he did, that he probably won't again. Pretty much, I figured out on my way home that she's a pretty cool chick. Still, though, I wasn't really interested in doing anything with her, she just had a good personality and was cute.
Here comes the part where I get really bored:
Fast forward like two weeks - I still saw this girl and had fun conversations with her, but at this point I really didn't care. Now enter Desperate Guy.
He starts to get pretty close with this girl, and it started to bug me. More or less it was because I was so certain that I could get her if I wanted to. Unfortunately for me, he also happens to be a pretty good acquaintance of mine, so I know the bull**** that oozes from his mouth. I thought to myself who the hell does this guy think he is? He sounds completely desperate when he talks to her. I don't dislike this guy, nor do I really hang out with him. He's kind of that guy that is just there with my friends, but isn't one of my personal friends.
He basically just oozes cheesy **** that shouldn't attract any normal girl. He's hardly known her for a week and is already fawning all over her. It just sickens me. But most of all, it hurts my ego. I could have had this girl. I didn't want her at the time, but now, perhaps, I do.
It may sound like an ******* thing. But for one reason or other, it stopped simply being a self-centered pursuit and became different. She is clearly interested in him, but I know if he maintains his current course, that interest will wane more and more. I've seen it happen; it used to happen to me, and it will happen to him in time (but it may take a few weeks). I'm definitely not going to wait a few weeks to see this through. I don't care enough about it to wait that long. But in the short term, it just seems challenging.
I'm more worried about any repercussions that could result from me taking the initiative. I would have to persuade her to ditch this dude, who does happen to be close to some of my friends. But the thing that pisses me off so much is that I know I can do it, and I really want to because of that. My form of "persuasion" would most definitely not give a flattering portrayal of this dude, which in turn might make me look like a dishonorable scum bag - which is my basic problem.
The big issue for me would be to go after this girl and not have this dude know about it initially. That may be impossible, and if I can't find a way of doing this, then I will not pursue this any further.
Cliffs
-I go to a small maritime academy with a horrible male/female ratio.
-I meet this girl and we hit it off, but I'm not interested in her.
-A guy I know (mostly through friends) just started to try to hook up with her
-Said guy is really desperate.
-I want to steal her from him now because I know I can, and she's a cool girl
-At the same time I don't want my friends to think I'm an *******, so I want to do it as low-profile as possible.
-I don't know if I should do it because then I really will be an *******
-I get bored during the week because there are very, very few attractive girls here
-Doing this would be fun for me
-I just really want to do it.
Okay. First off, this is going to sound like a pretty bad idea, but it's been rattling inside my head for a couple of days now. I go to a very small college (it's a Maritime Academy) and our male/female ratio is something like 9/1. On top of that, most of the girls here aren't that attractive. You sort of need this background information. I go out with girls on the weekends... but I meet them mostly through my job (I'm a waiter). But I get really bored during the week.
So there's this girl here (my school), and at first I didn't really have that much interest in her. I thought that she was cute and all, but that's about it. She clearly is better looking that about ninety-five percent of the other ladies here.
One day I get an email from one of my friends asking me if I could give this girl a ride down to see him. I honestly didn't care at this point. I knew this guy was going to try to get with her. She would have had to have been stupid/naive to think otherwise. But since I have a long ride home every week (I work about ten minutes from my house, but go to school about three and a half hours away), I decided - what the hell, I could use some company.
I drove her down to see him, and she was actually pretty cool. I'm not going to say that I was really interested enough to make a move, but she was still nice to hang out with - in fact we hit it off pretty well.
Anyway, I went out Friday night, worked the weekend, and then picked her up on my way back to school. My friend did indeed try to hook up with her, but (from what she said) he was awkward and boring and yadda yadda yadda... so I'm assuming that even if he did, that he probably won't again. Pretty much, I figured out on my way home that she's a pretty cool chick. Still, though, I wasn't really interested in doing anything with her, she just had a good personality and was cute.
Here comes the part where I get really bored:
Fast forward like two weeks - I still saw this girl and had fun conversations with her, but at this point I really didn't care. Now enter Desperate Guy.
He starts to get pretty close with this girl, and it started to bug me. More or less it was because I was so certain that I could get her if I wanted to. Unfortunately for me, he also happens to be a pretty good acquaintance of mine, so I know the bull**** that oozes from his mouth. I thought to myself who the hell does this guy think he is? He sounds completely desperate when he talks to her. I don't dislike this guy, nor do I really hang out with him. He's kind of that guy that is just there with my friends, but isn't one of my personal friends.
He basically just oozes cheesy **** that shouldn't attract any normal girl. He's hardly known her for a week and is already fawning all over her. It just sickens me. But most of all, it hurts my ego. I could have had this girl. I didn't want her at the time, but now, perhaps, I do.
It may sound like an ******* thing. But for one reason or other, it stopped simply being a self-centered pursuit and became different. She is clearly interested in him, but I know if he maintains his current course, that interest will wane more and more. I've seen it happen; it used to happen to me, and it will happen to him in time (but it may take a few weeks). I'm definitely not going to wait a few weeks to see this through. I don't care enough about it to wait that long. But in the short term, it just seems challenging.
I'm more worried about any repercussions that could result from me taking the initiative. I would have to persuade her to ditch this dude, who does happen to be close to some of my friends. But the thing that pisses me off so much is that I know I can do it, and I really want to because of that. My form of "persuasion" would most definitely not give a flattering portrayal of this dude, which in turn might make me look like a dishonorable scum bag - which is my basic problem.
The big issue for me would be to go after this girl and not have this dude know about it initially. That may be impossible, and if I can't find a way of doing this, then I will not pursue this any further.
Cliffs
-I go to a small maritime academy with a horrible male/female ratio.
-I meet this girl and we hit it off, but I'm not interested in her.
-A guy I know (mostly through friends) just started to try to hook up with her
-Said guy is really desperate.
-I want to steal her from him now because I know I can, and she's a cool girl
-At the same time I don't want my friends to think I'm an *******, so I want to do it as low-profile as possible.
-I don't know if I should do it because then I really will be an *******
-I get bored during the week because there are very, very few attractive girls here
-Doing this would be fun for me
-I just really want to do it.