Cutting the cord?

[Jokerlsk]

Well, i've been stuck in the LJBF zone for a while with this particular girl, and am ready to move on. The problem is that she thinks of me as her "best guy-friend" and i don't want to be a jerk about it or anything, but i just want to move on. So any advice on how to do this?

 

[someone800]

Hey,

I think I'm in somewhat of the same situation. I met this girl at the beginning of the school year as she moved in from another state and I started hanging out with her and we became great friends and she considers me her "best guy-friend" I believe too. The thing is, there has probably been two-three times where I would find myself so attached to her that I would want to go for her. I usually conclude not to go for her, but she's really flirtatious and stuff. I don't know how this particular girl you know is, but if she's like the one I know-mind over matter.

 

[HTownLunatic]

Same issue here. But recently, I have just begun to stop giving her so much attention, like walking her to class and such. So now I feel less attached and less of a need to talk to her as much as I used to. I used to look forward to seeing her everyday. She has even begun to say, at least on three occasions, "We haven't talked in so long."

So long story short, don't talk to her as often as you used to and you will feel less attached.

 

[Jokerlsk]

thanks guys, im glad you can relate as well

 

[Jokerlsk]

alright bump. The very same girl just got a new boy-friend so now im postitive that i should just move on.

 

[Munchking]

I have been in a similar situation. My suggestion is to let the friendship naturally dissolve: just put less effort into spending time with her. If you chat a lot on an IM, don't sign on as often, or be busy. Just change a few small parts of your life which enable the two of you to drift apart. You'll remain on good terms, but the "close bond" will wear away over time.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Thanks man, she is just starting to annoy me. She is the biggest flirt ever.

 

[antidonjuan]

if she is worth a friend, keep her as an honest friend because it's not all about flirting with women, sometimes we need some friends that are girls

if she is pretty, oh, that's a different story

 

[Jokerlsk]

She is def a hb7

 

[antidonjuan]

yea, hb 7 is what i look for as good friends, set ur expectations high like 8.5-10 for gaming, just don't treat the 6-7s too poorly and just be friends

a hb 7 for a friend maybe, def should not be a target