Cute Spanish Girl - Part 3

[harrison9876]

I spoke about this girl around 5 weeks go in another thread.

I basically asked her out, not knowing she was going back to Spain for 3 weeks. I knew she was single, but also “newly” single…her BF in Spain dumped her in a text about 6 weeks previous.

I saw her in class the first day she got back from Spain...a bit of chit chat. But after class, she approached me and took me to the side. I told her I was probably busy this weekend, but suggest we get together the following week.
At that point she told me that something bad really happened in Spain with her ex BF…and right now she is very hurt…all she really wants to do right now is cry…and does not really want to get involved with anyone.

I told her I understood, and if she every changes her mind, to let me know.
All this was during a convo as I walked her to her apartment a block away…we talked for a bit more…I told her I would see her in class the next week…and then she gave me a big log extended hug. I pulled away first on that.

The next week was a sort of “field trip” type thing. We were all carpooling, and having a smaller Mercedes, I conveniently made sure I “only” had enough room for 1 other person…ha ha…so she pooled with me in my car. I spent 4 hours with her on the excursion, having amazing convo, and realizing a lot more about her that I really expected. Funny, sarcastic sense of humor, intelligent, sweet, romantic…

4:30pm approached and I drove nearer to her place, I asked if she wanted me to drop her off and school, or at her place. She said she was hungry, and invited me to diner with her.

I couldn’t say no, so we sat dinner outside at an Italian restaurant…and had a great time with her. She revealed a couple times that she was very comfortable around me.

The bad thing that happened in Spain is that she needed some sort of closure with this guy…or one last attempt to get him back I guess…so when she was there, as he is basically her neighbor…she approached him to talk…he screamed at her and told her he never wanted to see her again…ever. Supposedly this was a guy she was in love with...and he was in love with her.

Anyway…

She revealed this story to me, so I would understand the emotional place she is in right now…not a “be the friend I can tell all my issues to”…

Again, twice at dinner, she revealed to me she did not want, and was not ready to get involved with someone.

I told her someday she would.

We were 3 blocks away from school…I was planning on driving her back, as I have to go that way anyway…but she wanted to walk there instead. She invited me along for this walk. I poked fun at the fact walking with her aaaaaaaaaaaaaalllllll the way back to school...means I have to walk aaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllllllllll the way back to my car…but after some teasing, I did end up doing so.

The first thing she said to me was.

HB – “soooooooooooooooooooooo…what do you think of me?”

I was taken bit off guard with the question.

ME – “uuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhh…what do you mean?”

HB – “you know…what do you think of me?”

ME – “do people really ask that?”

HB – “guys ask me that all the time…”

ME - “are you serious?

HB – “yeah…usually when I am out with a guy for the first time…someone who wants to be more than friends…they usually ask me what I think of them.”

ME – “are you serious? Guys actually ask you that? What you think of them?

HB – “yeah all the time”

ME – “wow…I never do that…simply because I don’t really care what people think of me”.

HB – “no, but seriously…what do you think of me?

ME – (jokingly)…so…you want a list…in point form?

I did not get into a “oh I think you are this and that…and oooo I like you…..” or any other crap…I just kept told her a few things and left it at that.

Now standing at the curb, across from the school…

HB – “sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo…”

ME – “yeeeeeeeeeeeess”

HB – “do you believe in signs? Like astrological, matches and stuff like that?”

ME – “Well…I believe that for the most part, people do exhibit the characteristic so of the signs they are born under…but not necessarily “who matches better with who”. You’re a Leo right?”

HB – yes…

ME – mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm…well Leo’s are always craving attention…and that is definitely you.”

HB – “ha ha…yes…it is exactly me. Haha…You are a Taurus right?

ME – yup…

HB – “how old are you again? I knew you told me, but I cannot remember.”

We then chatted for a bit…there was bit of casual silence…

I then leaned over…and gave her a HUG…told her I would see her in class next week…and left it at that.

When I got home, for shyts and giggles, I looked up Taurus and Leo Compatability….so I texted her:

ME – “hahahahaha…turns out Leo and Taurus a completely compatible because we both have MASSIVE egos! SHIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIITTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!”

HER – “You make me laugh…”

The next week in class she approached me from behind, and rubbed my hair a bit…said “hi”. We caught up for a minute…

One of my friend’s needs models for a fashion shoot she is doing…wanted me to ask girls I know who may be interested…asked HB is she was interested…she said yes, and I then told her I would text her all the info.

Then it was back to where I was at 6 weeks ago…we both got distant to each other…she was distant, not too talkative…I did not want to approach her during the break as she seemed to want to be with her girlfriend…

I left class early and did not have the opportunity to say bye…but I did text her the modelling info later in the evening…she never responded to the text…not that it is a big deal…but felt a bit crappy.

She has told me numerous times that she does not want to date anyone right now…and me calling her I think would give off an impression of me pushing for something…so…believe it or not…I actually deleted this girls number a couple days ago. Not out of anger or anything like that…but because I really wanted to call her.

Do I think she likes me…yes. BUT…she is an emotional wreck right now, due to her EX…I don’t want to be in the “friend” position by being there for her. I see guys in class hitting on her in school, which she seems to get annoyed by…so I keep my distance.

I do regret deleting her number…I think it was an impulse rather than logical thought…but hey…she has mine…and I see her in class once a week…so probably not that big of a deal.

Not really sure how to proceed.

She wants to be alone right now, so she can deal with all the emotional ****…I want to keep my distance to give her that space…but at the same time…all I want to talk to her, get to know her, etc…

Sort of a crappy position to be in.

Any thoughts on this?

 

[Çharismo]

Friend-zone.

Ask her out on a date and you will have your answer.

Your in the friend-zone. :flowers:

 

[harrison9876]

ahhhhh...but I did ask her out.

Little did I know that at that time, her serious LTR BF had dumped her 6 weeks previous.

I knew she was single, but I didn't know that the relationship end was as big as it was...I thought it was just "some other guy".

And this guy has was her first and only BF.

In class last week, I did not approach her...I let her approach me...which she did, and she also initiated physical contact.

Do I think she likes me...and there is a mutual attraction, yes. I thought there was something there from the first moment we met.

However...my feeling is that asking her out again is only setting myself up for rejection...due to the fact that:

1- she is emotionally wrecked right now
2 - she has told me she doesn't want to date anyone, due to "1"

So...the only option I have is to not ask her out...back off...take all the attention away, and let her decide.

Would you not concur?

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Dear god this is all over the place and a freaking wreck. At this point, if I were in your shoes, I'd invite her out for one more date somewhere. While we're out, I'd look for a somewhat secluded spot that I feel confident we won't be disturbed for at least 5 minutes. When we get there, and she's still standing, slowly pull down her pants or skirt or whatever, and start giving her oral right there. She either wants it or not and thus she'll have given me a definitive answer.