TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
I got my shared parenting, and pretty much what I requested and more, but in the end, the scale is still tipped to her favor. It's still a victory for me.
What I've learned through this whole mess is good fathers get shafted left and right by the system. Want to get child support reduced? Yea right... want more visitation? ...you will have to fight for 3 years for 1 extra day. Get fair representations? ...not if she's a woman.
I joined organizations that support single fathers. I was researching my case, and was looking for tips and suggestions. I told one rep that I was going to go the Guardian ad litem way.. and was told that it wasn't a smart move. Costly, and a waste of time is what I was told. She was wrong, it was the right thing to do. Even though in the end, through the Guardian ad litem, and the case was awarded to me for shared parenting, the balance was still tipped in her favor. Forget that my son's mother is an alcoholic, and that she smokes pot like she smokes her cigarettes. Forget that she still cares more about partying, then brushing my son's teeth in the mornings, or happy hour instead of picking my son up after school. Why still would it be that it would tip in her favor? ...cuz the Guardian ad litem was a woman, and in the end, 'woman to woman' meant more than the well being of a child.
I remember going through Child Services to set up chil support, and was given the round around, and at times, treated like sh*t, until they realized that I was trying to help my son.
I had a home for my son and I, and my hrs at work changed so I went back to the courts to have my CS reduced so can I keep a roof over our heads. I begged the judge (who was a woman) and even stated that I was on the verge of losing my place... what did she do?
Reduced my child support $19.
We ended up losing my place. It was hard trying to tell my son, he won't have his own room no more, and that we will have to move away from his friends. Those were tough times. It meant that I had to move further away from my son too, since his mom lived in one part of time, and I had to move to another. But...
Another thing I learned was this.... all those struggles, all those fights.. are a breeze when I see the smile on my son's face every time he sees me.
...and since the hearing, it's all the time now.
Today, I'm blocks from my son. I moved closer, and even though we share a room now, I'm able to see my son, and he's able to see me.
Today, I'm putting him on my health insurance. He's already on my dental.
Today, I got up, got him ready for school, brushed his teeth, made him breakfast, packed him a lunch, and drove him to school. I can't pick him up tonight (not my night) but Lord knows I can now.
Single fathers.... never give up. The fight, is never ending.
What I've learned through this whole mess is good fathers get shafted left and right by the system. Want to get child support reduced? Yea right... want more visitation? ...you will have to fight for 3 years for 1 extra day. Get fair representations? ...not if she's a woman.
I joined organizations that support single fathers. I was researching my case, and was looking for tips and suggestions. I told one rep that I was going to go the Guardian ad litem way.. and was told that it wasn't a smart move. Costly, and a waste of time is what I was told. She was wrong, it was the right thing to do. Even though in the end, through the Guardian ad litem, and the case was awarded to me for shared parenting, the balance was still tipped in her favor. Forget that my son's mother is an alcoholic, and that she smokes pot like she smokes her cigarettes. Forget that she still cares more about partying, then brushing my son's teeth in the mornings, or happy hour instead of picking my son up after school. Why still would it be that it would tip in her favor? ...cuz the Guardian ad litem was a woman, and in the end, 'woman to woman' meant more than the well being of a child.
I remember going through Child Services to set up chil support, and was given the round around, and at times, treated like sh*t, until they realized that I was trying to help my son.
I had a home for my son and I, and my hrs at work changed so I went back to the courts to have my CS reduced so can I keep a roof over our heads. I begged the judge (who was a woman) and even stated that I was on the verge of losing my place... what did she do?
Reduced my child support $19.
We ended up losing my place. It was hard trying to tell my son, he won't have his own room no more, and that we will have to move away from his friends. Those were tough times. It meant that I had to move further away from my son too, since his mom lived in one part of time, and I had to move to another. But...
Another thing I learned was this.... all those struggles, all those fights.. are a breeze when I see the smile on my son's face every time he sees me.
...and since the hearing, it's all the time now. Today, I'm blocks from my son.
I moved closer, and even though we share a room now, I'm able to see my son, and he's able to see me.Today, I'm putting him on my health insurance. He's already on my dental.
Today, I got up, got him ready for school, brushed his teeth, made him breakfast, packed him a lunch, and drove him to school. I can't pick him up tonight (not my night) but Lord knows I can now.
Single fathers.... never give up. The fight, is never ending.
