Cumming too quickly

[anonymous12345]

My d is kinda sensitive, I can barely smash (meaning thrust fast and hard) and especially and not for long time, without cumming. I have to take breaks and slow down.

Advice appreciated.

 

[EyeBRollin]

What is considered a long time?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

What is considered a long time?

Well...average is 10 minutes so I would say most people consider 20 minutes a long time.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Well...average is 10 minutes

The research I’ve read cited average is 5 minutes.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

My d is kinda sensitive, I can barely smash (meaning thrust fast and hard) and especially and not for long time, without cumming. I have to take breaks and slow down.

Advice appreciated.

It's partially in your mind and partially physical.

Mentally I always think about how I am going to punish her in the bedroom and fvck her better than anyone ever has. This means that cvmming quick is not acceptable. You can't do that if you blast a load too quickly.

Physically you need to work on getting right to the point you feel like you are going to bust and then ease back...pull out if you need to and wait for about 30-45 seconds...kiss her body, suck her titties, rub her **** or finger her in the meantime.

Then go back at it again. Same thing if you are jacking off to porn...get right to the point you feel you are going to bust, then ease back off. Then start up again.

Eventually between jacking off and doing it love you will get to a point where this shouldn't be an issue anymore, but it takes some work to get there.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The research I’ve read cited average is 5 minutes.

That's pathetic...guys need to be better and take more pride in their abilities.

 

[EyeBRollin]

That's pathetic...guys need to be better and take more pride in their abilities.

Do they? Not everyone even wants marathon sex sessions. Those expectations were set by the porn industry. They are not even close to representative of what most desire in their sex life.

I encourage OP to first take a hard look at his own expectations. Is he trying to fvck like a porn star?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Do they? Not everyone even wants marathon sex sessions. Those expectations were set by the porn industry. They are not even close to representative of what most desire in their sex life.

I encourage OP to first take a hard look at his own expectations. Is he trying to fvck like a porn star?

I can promise you no woman wants a dude who lasts 5 minutes and rolls over and goes to sleep.

 

[anonymous12345]

Do they? Not everyone even wants marathon sex sessions. Those expectations were set by the porn industry. They are not even close to representative of what most desire in their sex life.

I encourage OP to first take a hard look at his own expectations. Is he trying to fvck like a porn star?

Yeah, I want to last longer so it's a better experience for the girl, I agree with @BackInTheGame78 here. I even think women prefer longer sessions if it's varied and brings her to the point.

Yeah, switching between "activities" is my current strategy, and it appears natural, but I can barely smash at all, I have to take it really slow.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Yeah, I want to last longer so it's a better experience for the girl, I agree with @BackInTheGame78 here. I even think women prefer longer sessions if it's varied and brings her to the point.

The question to you is what is considered a long time? We need some context as to your current baseline.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I enjoy just trouncing chicks, making them scream and freak out because they are O’ing repeatedly and are overwhelmed. Control is something you learn. Start by doing 100 5 second hold kegels a day.

Next!

 

[anonymous12345]

The question to you is what is considered a long time? We need some context as to your current baseline.

Last time our L session was about 50 min, but I can trust for maybe ten seconds, then I'm ready to explode. So, no smashing really.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Last time our L session was about 50 min, but I can trust for maybe ten seconds, then I'm ready to explode. So, no smashing really.

mate you wearing a condom? If so find another brand that has thicker latex. There are also sprays and ointments to prolong your stamina by desensitization.

The best thing to do is strengthen your pelvic floor muscles doing kegels and then learn to go right to the beginning of an orgasm and then back off. Edging in a coochie is much better than doing it manually. Takes some time.

You might also consider jerking off a few hours before you see a girl for sex.

But again kegels and learning to bear down to stop the orgasm is the only true solution.

 

[anonymous12345]

mate you wearing a condom?

Not that occasion. I consider to wear one for occasions even when it's not needed, to reduce friction.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Last time our L session was about 50 min, but I can trust for maybe ten seconds, then I'm ready to explode. So, no smashing really.

I figured. There is no real problem here, other than the expectation of prolonged jackhammer sex. Most women don’t like that stuff, mate.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I figured. There is no real problem here, other than the expectation of prolonged jackhammer sex. Most women don’t like that stuff, mate.

in my experience, women’s main complaint about men and sex is that they come too fast. Personally, I like a multi hour session so developing the skills to engage in it was a natural for me.

Not to say that every encounter I have is multi hour, but these women all know that I can stay up as long as it takes fue them to have a nice vag-O. They know it because the first two times I’m with a woman I make sure she understands my limits which exceed their’s. This makes them relax because they know they’re going to get theirs. It is conducive to even more pleasure for the woman - that gets me off.

Personally, I like the power play, and look, they get in their eyes when they rip into multiple orgasms, if her legs ain’t shaking when you’re done, you’re not done.

Also, OP, 50 minutes is respectable not holy fracking, ****, but way better than most guys.

 

[anonymous12345]

The expectation of prolonged jackhammer sex.

Yes, that is an accurate description of what I want (or maybe wanted) to acquire, what this thread is essentially about.

I figured. There is no real problem here, other than the expectation of prolonged jackhammer sex. Most women don’t like that stuff, mate.

I see your point, and I can appreciate that too, but there's also plenty of examples of women that want more than cuddling-sex, or what to call it.

Although I'm not one of the more experienced here I got anecdotes myself, and here on SS there's plenty of anecdotes of more wicked girls and stories. I think some disagree with you, but for me your answer is of course positive.

But sure, maybe a bit tainted by p0rn here (but I've more or less quit p0rn for almost a year). But that's also the depiction in regular movies, I think. The steamy, energetic, obsessed kind = kinda jackhammer.

 

[Stanley]

kegels

 

[AureliusMaximus]

My d is kinda sensitive, I can barely smash (meaning thrust fast and hard) and especially and not for long time, without cumming. I have to take breaks and slow down.

Advice appreciated.

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[Divorced w 3]

My baseball coach of all people taught me this on a summer traveling trip. Put your head somewhere else. Think about what you’re doing next week at work, get your schedule or something else totally innocuous in your mind. Run through something that’s going to take you a long time to work out. Kind of like if you’re out on a long jog and you have a problem to work through. The reason this usually works is , the girl is not looking at you the whole time so it’s not like you’re going to bust from any super seductive situation. If she is, please dm me her number. Secondly, Throw in a couple of changes while you’re at it. Push pull in the sack too. Smash and then go slow. Turn her around. Finger her for a second. Whatever floats your boat.