crying and girls

[Humble Young Man]

I went to a trip a few days ago with around 100 people. There is this day when a student gave a speech and almost everyone in that trip cried. I am in high school and is crying in front of alot of people a sign a weekness and unmanliness?

Will the girls think I am weak?

 

[Five To One]

It depends.

God forbid your father dies, then go ahead and cry infront of whoever you want.

But reading a sad story or hearing a touching speech I wouldnt suggest crying. You can be moved by it but dont cry like a b1tch that has no control over his emotions.


Some girls say they dont mind a guy crying but i have also talked to girls who say they think its weird when they see a guy crying.

 

[WalkingStick]

Well, I would avoid it in the future to the best of your ability.

That said, what's done is done. Don't deny or get all defensive if someone asks. That will only make it worse. You will not be viewed as a p*ssy by everyone for crying once. Deal with this situation (and in the future) like a man and you will be viewed as one.

 

[KontrollerX]

Generally high schoolers care about all kinds of trivial bullsh!t that should not be cared about at all so for that reason if you can hold yourself back from crying thats what I would do if I were you.

On the other hand if everyone is crying then you'll probably not be held accountable for your tears and considered weak by that typical high school moronic hyper judgemental mentality.

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

At the risk of being labeled a b*tch, I will go ahead and say that I do not like to see a man cry.

I am attracted to masculine men, and like men who are able to keep themselves together. My man is a pillar of strength I can go to when I'm emotionally unstable myself.

If someone close to him dies, by all means he should feel free to cry. That's a natural human response. But generally speaking, I do not want to be with a guy who cries at the movies.

 

[Darth]

No. You're a guy. You don't cry. 30 years ago in high school you would've been taken apart

I'll admit I've cried a couple times in my life, but it was always when I was alone.

Crying in public is just....yecch, don't do that again!

 

[jafyk]

At the risk of being labeled a b*tch, I will go ahead and say that I do not like to see a man cry.

I am attracted to masculine men, and like men who are able to keep themselves together. My man is a pillar of strength I can go to when I'm emotionally unstable myself.

If someone close to him dies, by all means he should feel free to cry. That's a natural human response. But generally speaking, I do not want to be with a guy who cries at the movies.

I am sorry to say but you're full of it. It is this kind of thinking that has men become cold hearted because they shouldn't show their emotions except when their father dies. Why don't we take it a step further and suggest that men not cry even when their fathers die after all it's all a part of life (dying that is). Now it's one thing if a guy is sobbing uncontrollably over a paper that was read. It's another if he looses a tear in the process. If a man cries that means he suddenly lost his masculinity. I can't blame you though, you're just another product of social conditioning. It's funny how women are always trying to dictate how a man should be. yet if a man doesn't show his emotions they say he's cold and stoic and want someone who's warm hearted bla bla bla. It's this kind of reasoning that men don't feel pain or should handle it that causes men to be subject to all sorts of abuses right from the home to the court system.

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

I am sorry to say but you're full of it.

Call me what you'd like, but I'm not attracted to men who shed tears without discretion.

It is this kind of thinking that has men become cold hearted because they shouldn't show their emotions except when their father dies. Why don't we take it a step further and suggest that men not cry even when their fathers die after all it's all a part of life (dying that is).

I'm not the one who took it step further here...that would be you. My point was that I don't want to see a guy cry unless it's over something serious.

Now it's one thing if a guy is sobbing uncontrollably over a paper that was read. It's another if he looses a tear in the process.

Crying is not the only emotional outlet, you know.

If a man cries that means he suddenly lost his masculinity.

He doesn't necessarily lose it, I just become less attracted to him.

I can't blame you though, you're just another product of social conditioning.

You're welcome to think that way if it pleases you.

It's funny how women are always trying to dictate how a man should be. yet if a man doesn't show his emotions they say he's cold and stoic and want someone who's warm hearted bla bla bla.

Where in my post did I say that? And why would I choose to be with a man who didn't fulfill my needs?

It's this kind of reasoning that men don't feel pain or should handle it that causes men to be subject to all sorts of abuses right from the home to the court system.

No, I just think that men tend to use other outlets to express pain/stress.

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[WalkingStick]

If a man cries that means he suddenly lost his masculinity. I can't blame you though, you're just another product of social conditioning. It's funny how women are always trying to dictate how a man should be. yet if a man doesn't show his emotions they say he's cold and stoic and want someone who's warm hearted bla bla bla. It's this kind of reasoning that men don't feel pain or should handle it that causes men to be subject to all sorts of abuses right from the home to the court system.

It's not society that tells us that men shouldn't cry. It's nature.

In fact, if anything, society is becoming more and more accepting of men acting like women (and vice versa).

Do you think it has EVER been seen as masculine to cry? No.

You're right in saying there's nothing wrong with crying at appropriate times. Any man who insists on NEVER shedding tears is ignorant and detached from himself, but theres a reason it's viewed the way it is.