Cruel women who deserve to burn

[thedarkpassenger]

I think it's unbelievably selfish, immoral and cruel when women lead men on. For whatever reason, purposefully or subconsciously, women that lead men on and give them hope that a relationship can occur, then crush them at the last minute. Having no idea where any of this came from, the man is crushed, the woman moves on with her life, and pretends like she did nothing wrong to make him feel this way.

Forget the constant text messages, phone calls and "accidental" meetings throws at you. Forget the arm holding. The flirting, the "calling you while I'm taking a bath" or any of that. At the end, it turns out she was playing out some sick fantasy in her head, dragging me along for the ride.

By the time I express my feelings, she crushes me, telling me I'm making her uncomfortable and that we shouldn't take anymore.

I'm not naive. I know when a woman is giving me STRONG signals. But to act dumb and pretend she had nothing to do with making me fall for her --- that's just CRUEL. And women like this deserve to burn in hell.

 

[chiraag2000]

Dang man u sure u werent too hard on her?
if not the just move on. i mean i know how u feel. but if she really is like tht then shes not worth getting mad/depressed over.

 

[acehole]

Yea dude been where you've been. They just got LSE and wanna be loved. They see you grovel then they get turned off. Just lay back be cool and never discuss relationship sh1t with them until they bring it up. When a girl does this theyre pathetic so all you can do is laugh

 

[evoken]

This is why you do the same sh1t to them. Lead them on with the implied promise of a relationship but never give it to them, and just use them for sex. :crackup:

 

[thedarkpassenger]

I really can't blame guys for using women for sex...after all, women can be SO cruel

 

[Poonani Maker]

I agree. There's One who's "playing" with my sentiments as well. The moment I reward her for being friendly and sweet to me, she *thinks* I'm now "wanting" her which could be nothing more further from the truth! She's way younger than me, and thinks that I'm some FOOL just like one of her plantation beaus.

 

[JCballin88]

This sounds exactly like a situation that happened to me this summer.

I met a girl who worked in a different part of the building than me. I would flirt casually with her, but didn't take it really far because I had heard that she had a somewhat-crazy boyfriend. She broke up with him shortly after meeting me, and that's when we started hanging out more outside of work.

She was constantly calling me to do things, telling me how we should go camping at this secluded lake, go to Cedar Point, etc. I had her over to the house I was staying at on a beautiful lake a few times.

One night I hinted that I would be home alone and asked if she would like to come over, to which she eagerly agreed. We were watching a movie on the couch, and afterwords I went in for a kiss. She didn't really reject it, but when I started to get up she called me back to the couch and gave me the "LJBF" speech. Basically she blabbered on for about 30 minutes about how her last relationship was so draining she's not ready for anything new yet. Apparently she was using me the whole time to "get back to normal" after being in this roller-coaster relationship for 2 years. Obviously I wasn't looking for a relationship (especially because I was leaving town in 2 months), but I didn't know how to "ask" to be f-buddies or anything like that.

She really messed me up...and on top of that it was embarrassing to be around her at work, because most of my co-workers were friends with her and were assuming we were having a fling based on our interactions. I definitely learned my lesson about getting involved with people at work! It WAS just a summer job for a college student in a low-key environment, so I didn't think it would be a big deal.

The best part of this story is that 2 weeks later I was at a party and she showed up hanging off the arm of this 19-year-old douchebag who was a serious loser. The kid got so drunk he threw up all over the basement and she still went off with him at the end of the night.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I think it's unbelievably selfish, immoral and cruel when women lead men on. For whatever reason, purposefully or subconsciously, women that lead men on and give them hope that a relationship can occur, then crush them at the last minute. Having no idea where any of this came from, the man is crushed, the woman moves on with her life, and pretends like she did nothing wrong to make him feel this way.

Forget the constant text messages, phone calls and "accidental" meetings throws at you. Forget the arm holding. The flirting, the "calling you while I'm taking a bath" or any of that. At the end, it turns out she was playing out some sick fantasy in her head, dragging me along for the ride.

By the time I express my feelings, she crushes me, telling me I'm making her uncomfortable and that we shouldn't take anymore.

I'm not naive. I know when a woman is giving me STRONG signals. But to act dumb and pretend she had nothing to do with making me fall for her --- that's just CRUEL. And women like this deserve to burn in hell.

You act like she had everything planned out the entire time. I would guess that she was actually being genuine with you most of the time. Her feelings changed. It happens, women are fickle. That does not make them evil. They are not in control of their emotions; it is the other way around. A woman's emotions carry her like the current at sea. And sometimes that current shifts. It is nobody's fault, not yours or hers. Accept it like the changing of the weather, nothing to be upset over.

 

[Warrior74]

Because having a victim mentality is manly and hot. Dude, man up son. What did you learn here? Next time you know what to do.

One of my old oneitis' came back around the last few weeks. Wanting to spend every day with me, wanting me to help her with her DJ career, wanting all of my time and attention. I just refused to give it to her. I knew her game off the bat. Eventually she just stopped calling when she realized I wasn't gonna play.

Live and learn.

 

[Ease]

By the time I express my feelings, she crushes me, telling me I'm making her uncomfortable and that we shouldn't take anymore.

hugely AFC thread. We learn from failure, this is definitly the wrong way to go about this.

First of all, realize your mistakes. You made mistakes which lead to this, not because the girl deserves to burn. Its about interest level and attraction, not about her sick fantasies.

First of all you dont 'express your feelings', and secondly you dont assume interest level. Dont look at what she says, look at what she does. Look for the red flags and your gut instinct to see her interest level.

Most importantly dont let the ***** get to you. When she rejects you in this manner, brush it off without ANY emotion. Then you have a chance of keeping her around.

 

[cola]

I think it's unbelievably selfish, immoral and cruel when women lead men on. For whatever reason, purposefully or subconsciously, women that lead men on and give them hope that a relationship can occur, then crush them at the last minute. Having no idea where any of this came from, the man is crushed, the woman moves on with her life, and pretends like she did nothing wrong to make him feel this way.

Forget the constant text messages, phone calls and "accidental" meetings throws at you. Forget the arm holding. The flirting, the "calling you while I'm taking a bath" or any of that. At the end, it turns out she was playing out some sick fantasy in her head, dragging me along for the ride.

By the time I express my feelings, she crushes me, telling me I'm making her uncomfortable and that we shouldn't take anymore.

I'm not naive. I know when a woman is giving me STRONG signals. But to act dumb and pretend she had nothing to do with making me fall for her --- that's just CRUEL. And women like this deserve to burn in hell.

Dude, this whole post screams neediness. Women dont like needy men. Really, no one likes needy people. You clearly give a fvck way to much. First of all, this is a cold hearted world. When it comes to there own self interest no one really gives a fvck about you or your feelings, accept perhaps your family.

Your self interest should be number one. Stop looking for "relationships"... Females like a challenge, they don't want a dude who makes it clear that he wants a relationship, they want a wild stallion who is out in the world banging as many chicks as will comply and treating this planet like he owns it. Not some sad pony who complies with there commands and gets upset when his constant needs for affection aren't reciprocated.

Be the stallion, not the pony.

 

[Nutz]

I agree. There's One who's "playing" with my sentiments as well. The moment I reward her for being friendly and sweet to me, she *thinks* I'm now "wanting" her which could be nothing more further from the truth! She's way younger than me, and thinks that I'm some FOOL just like one of her plantation beaus.

Dude, been there done that. I still don't know how to deal with that kind of situation. My ex and I went out to dinner once with our boy and she thought I was flirting with the waitress. No, I was being social. If I was flirting with her I'd have gotten her number and been way more forward.

She just assumed, incorrectly, that I was interested where I was not. Similar to what you experienced. Either way I don't know how to handle it in such a way that puts her in her place. Being logical isn't the answer. There has to be an emotional component of some type to get it to register or something that She's Not All That or... gasp... she's WRONG.

 

[Jean Valjean]

I think it's unbelievably selfish, immoral and cruel when women lead men on. For whatever reason, purposefully or subconsciously, women that lead men on and give them hope that a relationship can occur, then crush them at the last minute. Having no idea where any of this came from, the man is crushed, the woman moves on with her life, and pretends like she did nothing wrong to make him feel this way.

Forget the constant text messages, phone calls and "accidental" meetings throws at you. Forget the arm holding. The flirting, the "calling you while I'm taking a bath" or any of that. At the end, it turns out she was playing out some sick fantasy in her head, dragging me along for the ride.

By the time I express my feelings, she crushes me, telling me I'm making her uncomfortable and that we shouldn't take anymore.

I'm not naive. I know when a woman is giving me STRONG signals. But to act dumb and pretend she had nothing to do with making me fall for her --- that's just CRUEL. And women like this deserve to burn in hell.

Dude some women want to see if they have the power, for some it is a rebound or they love the attention or the feeling of fallin in love

you fell then came on too strong - woke her up and now she is scared of you and wants to back away

next time don't fall so easily - read my thread on "how not to fall" some good advise in there otherwise you are just a puppet

women are not evil just human and imperfect like all of us

 

[Ice882]

ALL WOMEN DESERVE TO BURN AHLHLGFGLLHDFGSAAAAAAAAGH WHY CAN'T I GET LAID I THOUGHT I WAS ALHPA.

here's a link: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/needy

 

[f283000]

Forgive me guys for siding with the women on this. We shouldn't blame the women for "leading guys on" when in reality it is the fault of the guys not the women if you don't get the p____.

Most of the time what you call "women leading men on" is them wanting to know if you are man enough to get their p_____. If a guy hits all the right buttons and projects his sexuality the right way he can have that woman riding his ___ that same night he met her. This can apply to just about any woman.

If you don't hit the right buttons and don't project your sexuality you can either
1. end up in being led on like the OP says and getting nothing
2. friend zoned

You gotta project more than just "good boyfriend" material, you need to get into their sexual state of mind and make em want to F*** you rather than just date you.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Isn't it all about Forgiving the woman 70 X 7 times as Jesus said? We're supposed to be The Source of all comfort, all happiness, all tenderness for these women. Be strong and live up to your manhood. Women need the strong pillar. I'll forgive a woman over and over, because I know she's just a child, like the weather, prancing about. Nothing fixed about her.

 

[Jitterbug]

We only burn women who weigh less than a duck, gents.

 

[omkara]

Isn't it all about Forgiving the woman 70 X 7 times as Jesus said? We're supposed to be The Source of all comfort, all happiness, all tenderness for these women. Be strong and live up to your manhood. Women need the strong pillar. I'll forgive a woman over and over, because I know she's just a child, like the weather, prancing about. Nothing fixed about her.

Agreed. I think we just have to accept women for how they are, and accept the dating scene for what it is. I was totally crushed when I went out with some girl and then she called an audible and decided to go with the safe bet of some other guy she was already going out with--all because of the way one particular night unfolded. At that point I thought that it was unscrupulous to pursue more than one person at once. I always thought if I'm talking to a girl, I should give her my full attention. Well that was a wake up call to me. Ever since then I've been spinning plates, because it's just what you have to do when you're single. I also thought, and still do, that it's ridiculous to judge someone one the basis of a limited sample. You never know, they could turn it around and end up being the coolest person ever. But I don't expect other people to give me the benefit of the doubt like that.

Most women are not inclined to think in the abstract. Sure they can do math, chemistry, or physics, when it comes to academia. But in the context of their life, most women think with their emotions. Therefore they can't be devoted to a principle in the abstract. They just do whatever is favorable to them and seems acceptable enough in their social context. Logic is used to rationalize their actions, rather than guide them.

Anyway I'm just rehashing what's been said many times on this site. I have long since given up on expecting women to have principles or honor, because it's futile. We just have to appreciate them for what they are. They can be very sweet and innocent sometimes. Their emotionality can be a good thing. It's nice to hang out with someone who's not exactly like me, in terms of the calculated way I think and react. The comparison to children is spot on. Children have some endearing qualities, and they have some qualities which are totally annoying. I think the same thing applies here.