Crossroad

[dandellion]

Hi,

Not sure where to put this as it's not really girl-related, although they play their part, as always... But I guess Mature Man is the best as some of you might have been in a similar situation (please move if inappropriate).

I'm currently approaching a crossroad, mostly in my work-life, woman wise I'm doing ok. I've tried running a business with two friends of mine for a few years now, and it's sort of worked. But now it's really starting to nag on me. Not the business itself, but my colleagues are: they are complete and utter betas. And now they have started pulling that **** into the workplace:


Case #1:
Has sex with his gf once every two months; she's a whiny fat b!tch who pulls all the emotional bs on him and has im around his finger! Leaves work EVERY day at 5pm, unless she is working late... WTF? Ok he shows up at 5-6am because she does.

I've tried everything under the sun to break them up. And I even got him to break up with her once, which lasted a total of three hours (WOHO!).

The guy is alright, just a bit weird, but all in all a decent guy which I like.


Case #2:
Talented guy with a super inflated ego.

His gf is a useless piece of sh!t, shes lived with him for five years now, and not held a job for longer then two months. She's probably the most negative and pessimistic person I've ever met. She has NO girl-friends and is more interested in taking drugs all day then improving herself. And recently... he's been taking her into work, and well according to his ego shes going to work with us.

To me she is just useless crap, I can't really see any added value in having her there, and have thus far not paid her for being there. Basically she's just leeching on him! WTF!


The Dilemma:
The business we work in extremely geeky. I'm getting pretty tired of it, all the industry parties are full of fat geeks I'm not even interested in talking to. I consider myself a high-value male, but once I tell girls what I'm doing they roll their eyes. The money is not good compared to the hours I put in, and it's basically turning me into a lazy internet addict.

I'm also not happy with my colleges, although they seem to love it, and they are very talented guys.

But I'm starting to think I need to change direction, big time, and with it being a new year, I guess it's the best time to do so.

So I have applied to a few new jobs, without them knowing about it, I feel sort of like I am betraying them (although I'm just doing it as a tester). And should I land one of those jobs I would be very inclined to accept one of them.

Any suggestions?

And how can maneuver this without coming out looking like a complete assh0le?

Is that even possible?

Any feedback much appreciated, because I feel a bit lost currently.

 

[scrouds]

Apologies to Paul Simon.

The problem is all inside your head
She said to me
The answer is easy if you
Take it logically
I'd like to help you in your struggle
To be free
There must be fifty ways
To leave your business

She said it's really not my habit
To intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning
Won't be lost or misconstrued
But I'll repeat myself
At the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways
To leave your business
Fifty ways to leave your business

You Just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

 

[sodbuster]

Get the job offer and bail on them. You can't soar like an eagle when you are hanging with turkeys. I've read a study on it, you will make the average income of your closest 5 friends. So find friends that are making more than you are and move up to their level... don't stay stuck where you aren't happy.

 

[Warrior74]

My question is this, what about the business? Will you get your investment out of it? Will you continue to be an owner? Will they buy you out? I would tackle that and look for a job at the same time. As for your friends, well most of my friends except for one are pretty "beta". But they are good guys for the most part. I don't worry about it, they do what they do, and I do what I do. And they know that if I want to do X, I'm doing X regardless of if they are down or not. Their betas, what are they gonna do, challenge me? Change my mind? Not likely.

The stuff your friends are pulling with bringing women into work. You need to alpha up and squash it. You need to at least call it out for what it really is. Yah it will only stir up bad blood, symps gotta symp, but symps have to be told when they are symping. Nobody likes to hear the truth. That way when you leave they might learn something from their own behavior.

 

[don.dd]

Dude, I'm your age and facing a very similar situation. Not with my buddies in particular like you though.

The main point is, I'm not content with work. The pay is decent but I know I can do something else to earn more money while getting more satisfaction out of my work.

I think it's turning 30 soon that is f-ing with our heads, for the good reason btw. My house and cars are paid for as of the end of last year. So I'm very inclined to quit work, take a few months to explore other options around the country on a road-trip. Then see where that takes me.

I would suggest telling the buddies you're not on the same path with them anymore.