This is my first tip ever, here goes
This is definitely more useful to the entire lot of us who haven't been DJs, but here goes:
Many people here advocate a date notebook or journal, where you categorize the girl and the dating experiences. I've just started mine and found it to be very useful, not to mention cathartic. If anything, it allows you to monitor your mistakes.
Here's another thing I've done which I've found useful:
a log of all the girls you had opportunities with but lost in one way or another: not making a number close, not seeing the signs, too scared to approach (if a number wasn't needed), kind of interested but "standards too high" so didn't at least try it, didn't think she would go for you after all when a year later you realize hey she was interested, even worse, she asked you out and YOU screwed it up.
I made my list.. just off the top of my head there were 20 odd opportunities over the last 10 years or so. Beside each name I put the situation, why she was interested, and why I screwed it up.
In doing so, I've done several things, one gotten these things off my chest and into writing so I can remind myself never to be such an idiot again.
Two, whenever you're in the dumps and you think nobody will ever like you, look back, chances are you'll find that at many times throughout your life there have been girls you didn't have to do a SINGLE thing for and they would have been yours with just the simplest move. Yes, you are desirable!
My goal: to not have to add on to the casualty list on the "Journal of Lost Opportunities."
This is definitely more useful to the entire lot of us who haven't been DJs, but here goes:
Many people here advocate a date notebook or journal, where you categorize the girl and the dating experiences. I've just started mine and found it to be very useful, not to mention cathartic. If anything, it allows you to monitor your mistakes.
Here's another thing I've done which I've found useful:
a log of all the girls you had opportunities with but lost in one way or another: not making a number close, not seeing the signs, too scared to approach (if a number wasn't needed), kind of interested but "standards too high" so didn't at least try it, didn't think she would go for you after all when a year later you realize hey she was interested, even worse, she asked you out and YOU screwed it up.
I made my list.. just off the top of my head there were 20 odd opportunities over the last 10 years or so. Beside each name I put the situation, why she was interested, and why I screwed it up.
In doing so, I've done several things, one gotten these things off my chest and into writing so I can remind myself never to be such an idiot again.
Two, whenever you're in the dumps and you think nobody will ever like you, look back, chances are you'll find that at many times throughout your life there have been girls you didn't have to do a SINGLE thing for and they would have been yours with just the simplest move. Yes, you are desirable!
My goal: to not have to add on to the casualty list on the "Journal of Lost Opportunities."