Courtney Ryan made a video about inexperienced men

[needimprovement250]

I wanted to do things with this thread: Share my thoughts about Courtney’s video as a 31 year old inexperienced guy and share the progress I made in 2024 and my plans for 2025 since I didn’t want to derail the other thread that got posted about that.

For the video:
It looks like Courtney made it about a year ago because she got a lot of requests for that video. I completely agree with her first point about anticipatory rejection and I’m guilty of doing exactly what she describes. I can’t let go of the belief that no women will want me due to my lack of experience and I’m pre-rejecting myself as a defense mechanism. As for her second point, I definitely wouldn’t ever volunteer that info about me being inexperienced, but my inexperience definitely does own me, its made me its b*tch these past 11 years and has become a self fulfilling prophecy where I felt that I didn’t stand a chance back then because I didn’t have experience and just started feeling that belief even stronger as I continued to get older with no experience, which left me even more discouraged of course. I also don’t feel that what she said about how dating didn’t happen because I was focused on other things would work for me due to my age. If I was still in my 20’s it probably would, but I think saying that won’t work in my 30’s. So my inexperience still has me feeling hopeless.

How 2024 went and my plans for 2025:
As I said on that other thread, I did absolutely nothing with women in 2024. Haven’t kissed a girl in 4 years and its now been 10 years since I’ve been on a date, and that date from a decade ago is the only date I’ve ever been on. But I did make progress towards other aspects of my life. I went on an Aaron Clarey recon mission to look for other states to move since my area has an extremely high cost of living and that’s the reason why I still live with my parents as I’ve said on here before. I also worked a lot at the event center where I do all of my different seasonal jobs 9 months out of the year and from April-June I was working 7 days a week. Then in the fall, I decided to go back to school for a vocational certification in agriculture and took 2 classes while working my seasonal jobs at the same time. My seasonal employers are very flexible and are willing to work around my school schedule too, which is nice. I got A’s in both classes and enrolled in 3 more, those next ones start later this month. I plan to take a couple more classes over the summer semester and then 3 more in this fall’s semester. I’m also gonna keep working the seasonal jobs alongside school to keep some money coming in and set aside what I can to move out of my parents house. So aside from women, I feel like I got more accomplished this year compared to the past several where my life felt stagnant. Who knows if things will be different this year when it comes to women (probably won’t be) but at least I’m moving myself forward in other ways.

 

[itouchyou]

She should start an onlyfans.

 

[Clockwerk50]

She should start an onlyfans.

She looks like she has nice breasts.

 

[SW15]

She should start an onlyfans.

She looks like she has nice breasts.

There's a thread on this forum about Courtney Ryan specifically. Her name comes up a fair amount as an influencer with a significant male following.

Is Courtney Ryan a Fish Trying to Teach Men How to Catch Fish?

https://www.youtube.com/c/CourtneyRyan I can't figure out who is the target market for a woman being a men's issue specialist/leader.

www.sosuave.net

I wanted to do things with this thread: Share my thoughts about Courtney’s video as a 31 year old inexperienced guy and share the progress I made in 2024 and my plans for 2025 since I didn’t want to derail the other thread that got posted about that.

For the video:
It looks like Courtney made it about a year ago because she got a lot of requests for that video. I completely agree with her first point about anticipatory rejection and I’m guilty of doing exactly what she describes. I can’t let go of the belief that no women will want me due to my lack of experience and I’m pre-rejecting myself as a defense mechanism. As for her second point, I definitely wouldn’t ever volunteer that info about me being inexperienced, but my inexperience definitely does own me, its made me its b*tch these past 11 years and has become a self fulfilling prophecy where I felt that I didn’t stand a chance back then because I didn’t have experience and just started feeling that belief even stronger as I continued to get older with no experience, which left me even more discouraged of course. I also don’t feel that what she said about how dating didn’t happen because I was focused on other things would work for me due to my age. If I was still in my 20’s it probably would, but I think saying that won’t work in my 30’s. So my inexperience still has me feeling hopeless.

The most important thing you need to do is no porn and no fap.

I think she makes a decent video here but it's still limited based of her life experiences as a woman.

The topic would have been better addressed by a content creator like Playing with Fire or some other male in the pickup/seduction space.

 

[needimprovement250]

She should start an onlyfans.

I’m surprised she hasn’t since a majority of her followers are men

 

[SW15]

I’m surprised she hasn’t since a majority of her followers are men

She doesn't seem to want to take her clothes off and show her breasts on OnlyFans.

There are consequences in life for doing that. She doesn't want to face them.

 

[needimprovement250]

There's a thread on this forum about Courtney Ryan specifically. Her name comes up a fair amount as an influencer with a significant male following.

Yeah she tries to give dating advice for men, which normally I wouldn’t listen to because I believe that men shouldn’t take dating advice from women, but men who have plenty of success with women. This video from her specifically pertained to my situation though.

The most important thing you need to do is no porn and no fap.

I should’ve added that in above. My life situation has kept me addicted to that as I’ve said before. Since even if I quit, I’ve felt that women are still gonna reject me for my lack of experience, my living situation, my lack of a social circle, not having a career (but maybe being back in school for a certification would get me a pass on that last one).

I think she makes a decent video here but it's still limited based of her life experiences as a woman.

The topic would have been better addressed by a content creator like Playing with Fire or some other male in the pickup/seduction space.

There are men who have made good quality videos about this topic too. This one is from dating coach Nick Notas. The dating coach named Frank who I’ve thought about hiring has worked a lot with inexperienced men too.

She doesn't seem to want to take her clothes off and show her breasts on OnlyFans.

There are consequences in life for doing that. She doesn't want to face them.

There’s plenty of women who start an OF and never get naked. They just share pics that are only slightly more revealing than what they post on IG. I could see her making an OF account like that, but she probably stays away from that platform because she doesn’t want to tarnish her reputation by doing that.

 

[Gamisch]

She says a whole lotta nothing. Besides her great breasts there was nothing I agreed with. She's just pandering to her crowd existing out of male incels.

She ( as a woman) azz U meS that OP will even get a date. He won't. If dating exists out of ten levels she starts at level 6. Before you even reach level 6 you first gotta be able to PULL. She is hot enough so pulling a man won't be an issue for her. Her male equivalent will have it 100 times harder if he lacks charm, mouthpiece, physique and money.

OP needs to LISTEN and follow put advice like a soldier. 31 is somewhat of a critical point in life, and I've seen many men that completely step out of the game before they reach 35..

 

[needimprovement250]

She says a whole lotta nothing. Besides her great breasts there was nothing I agreed with. She's just pandering to her crowd existing out of male incels.

Her first point about anticipatory rejection was good. That’s exactly what I’m guilty of doing as a defense mechanism.

She ( as a woman) azz U meS that OP will even get a date. He won't. If dating exists out of ten levels she starts at level 6. Before you even reach level 6 you first gotta be able to PULL. She is hot enough so pulling a man won't be an issue for her. Her male equivalent will have it 100 times harder if he lacks charm, mouthpiece, physique and money.

She’s actually married. I don’t remember what her husband looks like, but I’m sure she has pics with him on her IG. Inexperience aside, I wouldn’t get a date because of the other aspects of my life.

OP needs to LISTEN and follow put advice like a soldier. 31 is somewhat of a critical point in life, and I've seen many men that completely step out of the game before they reach 35..

This video by a male dating coach Nick Notas about the same topic was good, I just shared it to SW15 above on this thread. Yeah even though marriage rates are down across the board, early 30’s is still the average age range for a man’s first marriage if he decides to tie the knot. Shows how far behind I am by having never even dated a woman at 31 while some other men my age are stepping out of the game and getting married.

 

[SW15]

even though marriage rates are down across the board, early 30’s is still the average age range for a man’s first marriage if he decides to tie the knot. Shows how far behind I am by having never even dated a woman at 31 while some other men my age are stepping out of the game and getting married.

Marriage isn't that important at the individual level.

There's a good chance that those late 20s/early 30s men getting married will eventually get divorced.

Being a divorced guy isn't that fun, especially being a divorced guy with kids and co-parenting with an unpleasant ex.

When the majority of my friends were getting married and I wasn't, it did psychologically affect me for a time. That's a normal reaction for men. At that point, the best reaction for a non-married man is to assess reality and realize that he's in a good situation.

Multiple married male friends have told me that my life choice are superior to theirs.

 

[needimprovement250]

Marriage isn't that important at the individual level.

There's a good chance that those late 20s/early 30s men getting married will eventually get divorced.

Oh definitely, I wouldn’t be surprised if over half of them end up divorced. I was just acknowledging what Gamisch said about how men are stepping out of the game at around this age since I am aware how far behind I am.

Being a divorced guy isn't that fun, especially being a divorced guy with kids and co-parenting with an unpleasant ex.

When the majority of my friends were getting married and I wasn't, it did psychologically affect me for a time. That's a normal reaction for men. At that point, the best reaction for a non-married man is to assess reality and realize that he's in a good situation.

Multiple married male friends have told me that my life choice are superior to theirs.

That’s why I never want to get married. Even if I turn this all around and start having success with dating women, I don’t want marriage for those reasons and I don’t want to lose half of what I have. I’m sure that’s the same case with you.

 

[itouchyou]

Having no experience with women is less about the thing itself and more about the psychology behind it. A lot of it has to do with upbringing, in terms of whether you're even capable. Self esteem, whether you believe you are worthy of love, how you see yourself, these are all things that you would have to analyze about yourself and if you find problems, fix them. Getting off the porn and fapping will also change things big time.

 

[needimprovement250]

Having no experience with women is less about the thing itself and more about the psychology behind it. A lot of it has to do with upbringing, in terms of whether you're even capable. Self esteem, whether you believe you are worthy of love, how you see yourself, these are all things that you would have to analyze about yourself and if you find problems, fix them. Getting off the porn and fapping will also change things big time.

Well in terms of upbringing and self esteem, I saw several friends get harshly rejected by girls they were interested in starting at a very young age and that shattered my self esteem to the point that I never even tried to date and still haven’t at the age of 31. I have always felt that I wasn’t enough or worthy of love and that stems from what happened with what I just described involving my friends. Like I said in an earlier reply, my life situation keeps me on porn and fapping because even if I did quit, women are just gonna reject me because of other aspects of my life and I’m not talking about inexperience.

 

[SW15]

I don’t want marriage for those reasons and I don’t want to lose half of what I have. I’m sure that’s the same case with you.

I have not married for many reasons. I do not wish to get divorced and the probability of a divorce is high.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

This chick is the single most plastic-seeming woman I've ever seen. It's almost like she's trying to be the brunette version of Barbie who's afraid of her own shadow somehow damaging her reputation, so she's half her life polishing herself to a sheen to ensure it doesn't happen. Plastic, rehearsed, and manicured to the point where she might as well be a mannequin.

After I finished typing out what I posted above, I decided to listen to her speak.

It's even worse than I thought.

Dudes are beyond hard-up if they listen to someone so obviously fake.

I wouldn't be surprised if this chick was somehow AI.

If she was an actress, the only role she could passably play would be that of a robot.

 

[needimprovement250]

This chick is the single most plastic-seeming woman I've ever seen. It's almost like she's trying to be the brunette version of Barbie who's afraid of her own shadow somehow damaging her reputation, so she's half her life polishing herself to a sheen to ensure it doesn't happen. Plastic, rehearsed, and manicured to the point where she might as well be a mannequin.

After I finished typing out what I posted above, I decided to listen to her speak.

It's even worse than I thought.

Dudes are beyond hard-up if they listen to someone so obviously fake.

I wouldn't be surprised if this chick was somehow AI.

If she was an actress, the only role she could passably play would be that of a robot.

I agreed with the first point she made in that video, but I usually don’t listen to any of these female dating coaches for men. There were other parts of her video that I didn’t agree with and felt she didn’t go in depth enough at examining this situation of being older and inexperienced.

I’m actually surprised how many on the forum have never heard of her, I could’ve sworn others here have posted some of her videos too, so I thought most knew who she was.

 

[GoodMan32]

I wouldn't necessarily call myself inexperienced.

I've had 28 sex partners (9 of which were free). And I've been on dates with several gals.

I was a late bloomer, however. Up until my 3rd year of college, I had never done anything with a girl.

That being said, even in my 1st and 2nd year of college, it wasn't necessarily my inexperience that held me back. The following factors were why I never made a move on girls my first 2 years of college.

-Shyness

-Difficulty relating to others in a college environment (when I started college at 18, I had a social/emotional age of 12)

-The fact I heard the message all throughout high school "You're a freaky creep no girl would possibly want." When you hear a message like that enough times, eventually you start to believe it.

Regardless, I could relate to the video. I totally pre-reject myself. As she put it "You convince yourself you'll get rejected before even giving the woman a chance to reject you."

Umm, that's the whole point. My track record says I'm going to get rejected in nearly 100% of cases. By pre-rejecting myself (thus refraining from making a move), I prevent the woman from getting the satisfaction of rejecting me.

(Now's a good time to mention that my success is somewhat misleading. A lot of my success with the ladies has come from tech methods. When I say I get rejected nearly 100% of the time, I'm talking about gals I met organically)

I'm also guilty of the other behaviors she mentioned. One behavior in particular I'm going to point out is: Overanalyzing every little thing we say or do.

Umm, we sorta have to overanalyze. As has been said on the forum, all it takes is one tiny misdeed to get "nexted" by a woman.

Overanalyzing on the man's part isn't the fault of the man; it's the fault of gals for how easily they next us.

Lastly, the therapy website she mentioned is garbage. I did a few online therapy sessions on that website. The therapist was a joke.