Couldn't get it up again for the third time

[salinechow]

Its performance anxiety for sure. You are young and healthy and probably do not need drugs to help out.

Happens to everyone it seems, here and there. What sucks is, once makes it worse, casue you start to think you wont get it up next time either. And it can be a spiral.

Think of it like a date, or text,or everything else though...Dont worry if she has a good time, just go and do you.

F^ck the way you like. Kiss the way you like. Eat her out. Put a finger in her butt. Tell her what you want. Have SEX! Dont put on a show. Trust me, shes more worried about making you enjoy her than you are worried about her enjoying you.

Sex is a funny thing, everyone wants it, most are a little nervous for many different reasons. What you need to accept, is that YOUR sex is fun and amazing, too YOU! If you act like that, shell think you are great also! Just like a date.

If you are getting ready to f^ck, there is no more having to impress her dude. She wants to get laid. "Nothing is as good as a real mans body against and inside of mine"

I have had freaky chicks how f^ck hair brushes and text me photos of it, say that to me. Point is, even if you think you suck, she thinks its better than a hairbrush.

You do YOUR thing, and she'll like it too.

All the advice in the world, all the videos and books and tips and tricks, never made me as good in bed as not giving a damn.

Just like a date, if she doesn't like it, she can kick rocks. Someone will.

When I accepted that mentality, I got very good reviews.

Relax. Sex is just another extension of the whole interaction.

P.S. If all else fails...

Have nice biceps and learn to eat a p^ssy like a black belt. Shell be back even if your d1ck fell off on the drive home.

Its in your head son. You are better than 50 percent of other dudes without trying. Raise your game by not trying to.

-Saline

 

[ubercat]

Heheh of course I spank girls. Their asses r perfectly designed for it and it would be rude not to. I was just boggled by the thought of doing it for half an hour. Maybe I'll try it next time might be a good workout

 

[Reykhel]

Heheh of course I spank girls. Their asses r perfectly designed for it and it would be rude not to. I was just boggled by the thought of doing it for half an hour. Maybe I'll try it next time might be a good workout

Yeah a half hour seems excessive......for only spanking...

Put her in reverse cowgirl and spank away while she does all the work
on top....

I think I spank too hard though....oh well.

 

[Lozboss]

OP

It sounds like anxiety.

Although I would suggest No Fap for 30 days.

It's something I'd recommend to anyone.

 

[raider87]

Although I would suggest No Fap for 30 days.

I'll give this a shot and see how I feel.

 

[Reykhel]

Snake charmer?

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Some chicks make me super hard, some are meh.....Look at it as open mic night, let her work the mic if ya know what I mean

 

[HeadLightsOn]

@HeadLightsOn that is a crack so to speak ;-). I've never heard of this one outside of a dungeon. Do you talk to the chick. Do u have a favourite arse slapping track u put on. Do u tell her you re going to do it. Dish the goss

Well I wouldnt say its 'dungeon' material. Its a different vibe to the normal - pull down panties/insert fingers/rotate-spread... etc etc.

I like to lead and tell a girl what we're going to do. I dont use 'tricks' or even a system, but IME being able to turn a girls mind on is key. I find it fun to do and not beta in anyway. Youre the man. TELL her what the story is.

As far as spanking, I use it as a reward - I tell them Im going to reward them with my attention and warm them up before we do anything else. That is - I tell her - IF I decide were going to do anything else. There have been times when a woman hasnt deserved my attention, so I clearly tell her what I dont appreciate, the consequences ie no sex or fun play etc and give her a time frame/option to rectify.

On the other hand if she is good and deserves my sexual desire, then Ill give that to her. Its probably been said to death on here, but if theres one thing a woman cant do without, its being desired. Once a man stops desiring a woman, she wilts.

Make her feel desired, take the lead and get her to prove herself to you, then give to her. Shell be back, again and again. I actually had a genuine FemoNazi recently, who SWORE she wouldnt be doing anything a man told her to do - and three weeks later she was over my knee, in my bed and performing like - well, like a good girl

 

[spiegel549]

Been there plenty of times. I beat off twice a day every single day, and watch a ton of porn. The only time I can not get it up is nerves with a new chick so... 1) Do not drink alcohol prior to doing the deed. 2) Worse case scenario I have popped a Viagra prior to banging a new chick and I stay rock hard for 2 hours straight..even after busting haha. Once you get comfortable with a chick you can stop taking them.

I actually always have one on me or in my room and usually never need to use it but if I DO start to get whiskey D I will make an excuse that I gotta piss and then go pop that. 20mins of foreplay again and boom ready to go!

 

[old_skoolr]

I put in performance anxiety based on the history of OP.

 

[MrWood]

I still do that without, Viagra (never once too an ED medicine), and I am 50y

 

[Bible_Belt]

When Viagra came out, it was $20 a pill. Hell, it may still be. But the generics from Southeast Asia and India now cost about 75 cents.