Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Hopefully starting in January I could be getting my own place. Currently I have been living with my Grandmother and her best friend / nurse for the past four years. Frankly I've gotten sick of it and I feel that I am not living how somebody my age should be living. The problem is that I'm broke and I'm going to college full time.
If I do well in school for the spring semester then I will be attending a university in southern California starting August. So basically I am guaranteed to be on my own sometime in July. As long as I do good in school my Mom has said that she will be paying my rent. I am very grateful for that.
Unfortunately I can't stand where I'm living anymore. My Grandmother is slowly fading away due to Alzheimer's, is always complaining of her pains and the house is becoming more uncomfortable to live in. She is also baby sitting her one year old great-grandson twice a week. If I liked babies it wouldn't be a problem but unfortunately it is.
I also feel that living at her place at my age is negatively affecting my self-confidence. I feel that I should have been on my own for several years already. I feel that I am still being treated like a kid, having to tell my grandma where I'm going, having her cook for me, not having a say in anything that happens in the house and other things that currently escape me. I just don't feel like I can grow as a man as long as I'm here. I will be completely stagnated.
What bugs me the most is how it limits my options with women. It's simply very embarrassing telling somebody that I live with grandma. Also she's very religious and she has disallowed me from brining girls over. Unfortunately she is always home so sneaking girls in is impossible and I shouldn't even have to sneak. Because of the fact that I can't bring chicks in, I have basically psyched myself out of trying to pick up chicks. Because I know there is no point, if I can't take them back to my place and bang them.
I'm very grateful for being able to live with her, rent free for so long but I don't know if I can last another seven months. I have talked to my mom a couple of times about me moving out in January and getting a six month lease or month to month on a studio or a room but she is against it. She thinks it's silly that I'll be moving out in six months. She thinks I should be patient until July. I have figured out that a big reason of why she thinks it's stupid for me to move again in six months is because she has only lived in apartments her whole life and she has moved so many times and she hates it. So I think that she is transferring that feeling to me.
I see nothing odd at all with moving into a studio for six months. My view of 6 months and her view of 6 months is very different, it's a very long time for me. Another issue is that when I do move away and start attending university I will be about 8 hours away from my family. I will truly be on my own with no help from anybody. If I were to get a studio in January I'll be going to the same Jr. College that I'm going to now and most importantly I'll still be near to my family. If I need help or anything like that they will be there. I will be able to slowly get to the point where I can be 100% independent. Instead of a sudden shock.
Is there anything wrong or stupid about getting a 6 month lease? Am I being too selfish and should just stick it out until July? Yes I do know how lucky I am to even have this option.
If I do well in school for the spring semester then I will be attending a university in southern California starting August. So basically I am guaranteed to be on my own sometime in July. As long as I do good in school my Mom has said that she will be paying my rent. I am very grateful for that.
Unfortunately I can't stand where I'm living anymore. My Grandmother is slowly fading away due to Alzheimer's, is always complaining of her pains and the house is becoming more uncomfortable to live in. She is also baby sitting her one year old great-grandson twice a week. If I liked babies it wouldn't be a problem but unfortunately it is.
I also feel that living at her place at my age is negatively affecting my self-confidence. I feel that I should have been on my own for several years already. I feel that I am still being treated like a kid, having to tell my grandma where I'm going, having her cook for me, not having a say in anything that happens in the house and other things that currently escape me. I just don't feel like I can grow as a man as long as I'm here. I will be completely stagnated.
What bugs me the most is how it limits my options with women. It's simply very embarrassing telling somebody that I live with grandma. Also she's very religious and she has disallowed me from brining girls over. Unfortunately she is always home so sneaking girls in is impossible and I shouldn't even have to sneak. Because of the fact that I can't bring chicks in, I have basically psyched myself out of trying to pick up chicks. Because I know there is no point, if I can't take them back to my place and bang them.
I'm very grateful for being able to live with her, rent free for so long but I don't know if I can last another seven months. I have talked to my mom a couple of times about me moving out in January and getting a six month lease or month to month on a studio or a room but she is against it. She thinks it's silly that I'll be moving out in six months. She thinks I should be patient until July. I have figured out that a big reason of why she thinks it's stupid for me to move again in six months is because she has only lived in apartments her whole life and she has moved so many times and she hates it. So I think that she is transferring that feeling to me.
I see nothing odd at all with moving into a studio for six months. My view of 6 months and her view of 6 months is very different, it's a very long time for me. Another issue is that when I do move away and start attending university I will be about 8 hours away from my family. I will truly be on my own with no help from anybody. If I were to get a studio in January I'll be going to the same Jr. College that I'm going to now and most importantly I'll still be near to my family. If I need help or anything like that they will be there. I will be able to slowly get to the point where I can be 100% independent. Instead of a sudden shock.
Is there anything wrong or stupid about getting a 6 month lease? Am I being too selfish and should just stick it out until July? Yes I do know how lucky I am to even have this option.
