Cool way to ask for next date?

[ChesterB]

Hey guys,
I was wondering what is the best way to get the next date with a woman.
Should you ask at the end of a date "Hey, what are you doing next Saturday (or whatever day)?"
Or not ask at all, but call her on the phone one or two days later?

 

[JohnJones]

In the early going, come up with something fun that sounds interesting, tell her that you are going to do x,y, z and then ask if she wants to come along.

 

[NewMan]

I call her on the phone a couple days later...

I do this, because I want her to wait it out a little and sweat - and think, is he going to call me or not....

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by NewMan
I call her on the phone a couple days later...

I do this, because I want her to wait it out a little and sweat - and think, is he going to call me or not....

Listen to this advice, you don't want to seem desperate by smothering her on the same night that you go out. However, if she offers, tell her that you aren't sure if you are free but you will call her and let her know.

 

[ChesterB]

Then what do you say when it comes to goodbye?
-Bye?
-See you?
-I'll call you? (This one seems bad to me)

 

[Reto]

Originally posted by JohnJones
In the early going, come up with something fun that sounds interesting, tell her that you are going to do x,y, z and then ask if she wants to come along.

I've done this. Mention something early in the date. Then, as long as the date goes well, ask if she'd like to go. DON'T ask too soon.

Or, call a couple of day later and ask her to the event you mentioned on the date...

 

[MisterAl]

There is _nothing_ cool about asking for another date while on your first or second. It reeks of insecurity.

After having a good first date you must give the woman a little time to think about you and wonder if she'll see you again. Time is the important element here.

If you tell her you want a second date before the first is over, you kill in her that sense of wonder, the butterflies in the pit of her stomach that drive her emotions toward you. Instead, you want to keep those butterflies right there, fluttering around inside when she thinks about your date and when you'll call back.

Besides, inviting a woman for a second date is the perfect excuse to call her on the telephone and make her evening.

 

[ChesterB]

OK, guys, we had a good first date and I didn't ask her for another one.
How many days should I wait until calling?
Most natural seems to me to call on Sunday to ask her for another date on Wednesday.

 

[ChesterB]

Come on guys, give me instructions.
We had a coffee date last Wednesday, took about 90 mins.
I applied kino, but I didn't kiss her, just a goodbye hug with a light kiss on the cheek.
So when do I call her?
Best time for a date for me is Wednesday, Friday, Sat. & Sun.

 

[Wong Fei Hung]

ChesterB, wait at least a week. I would check to make sure I am free and the activity I want to do will not be affected by the weather. Check my wallet to see if I got enough CASH. Make sure I finish all homework and other important stuff. That way, the whole day on the date will be stress free.


Good luck my fellow DJ.

 

[smooth_as_silk]

Originally posted by Wong Fei Hung
ChesterB, wait at least a week. I would check to make sure I am free and the activity I want to do will not be affected by the weather. Check my wallet to see if I got enough CASH. Make sure I finish all homework and other important stuff. That way, the whole day on the date will be stress free.

Weather, cash, important stuff, stress... Pffeww....Relax hommie it's only a date. He's not going for a war

 

[ChesterB]

What do you others think?
Is a week good? Or shouldn't I wait that long, since we didn't spend very much time together yet?
BTW: I'd say she's an 8.5 - 9 and seems to have a high IL. LTR material for me.

 

[Slickster]

End the date with "Talk to ya soon."

Call to arrange Date#2 whenever you damn well feel like it.

How can she be "LTR material" already??? Don't qualify chicks so quickly. You barely know her.

Peace.

Slick