Converting on girls

[boss1man]

So i'm introverted. I can talk to girls even the hot ones and have a friendly conversation with them just fine. Not a great flirter so we just talk about anything really. But the problem is this does not get laid. I was wondering if you guys had any tips on how to make a relationship from friendly to getting laid? do you just invite to something like netflix and chill or what do i do?

 

[Igetit!]

So i'm introverted.[ I can talk to girls even the hot ones and have a friendly conversation with them just fine. Not a great flirter so we just talk about anything really.

You see that last sentence........"Not a great flirter so we just TALK ABOUT ANYTHING REALLY".

That's your downfall. Then you say....

"But the problem is this does not get laid."

Of course you can't get laid from talking about "anything". You have to be CLEAR about what it is you want. Let me ask you this...

Let's say you go to Mcdonald's,and the reason you go there is cause you want a Big Mac. You want a Big Mac burger,but when you step to the counter and the employee asks you if they can help you,you start talking about "anything".....start talking about the weather,or the game that was on tv last night,or gas prices,or the presidential election. You start talking about anything and everything......but you NEVER SAY want it is you want......you never say you want a big mac.

Ok,well...what? You think you're gonna get your burger if you never mention it? If you never tell the person at the counter you want a big mac,how are they supposed to get you one? How are they supposed to know you even want one?


You have to direct the conversation towards what it is you're after. You flirt,ask out,compliment.....all these things generally proceed "getting laid". You have to start there,then progress forward.....you can't get laid talking about a bunch of random topics that have nothing to do with your goal (sex).


Let's say I want a pay raise. Now.....when I walk into my bosses' office to talk to him,in order for me to get the raise,what subject do you think I should bring up? Video games? My new car? The date I had last night? Look....

If I want a pay raise,I need to talk about a PAY RAISE. You have a goal in mind when you approach the girls,but then start talking about a bunch of different,random topics......never getting around to what it is you truely want.

That's not their fault,it's yours.

I was wondering if you guys had any tips on how to make a relationship from friendly to getting laid?

Ummm...yeah. What you do is,you DON'T MAKE IT FRIENDLY in the first place. Your way will get you friendzoned.

You need to learn how to flirt. I use flirting like salt...just a dash here and there,not too much. Flirting is good,but it alone is NOT enough....you HAVE TO ask the girl out as well. Flirting without asking the girl out will eventually get you friendzoned as well. Might take longer,but it'll lead to the same dead-end result.

do you just invite to something like netflix and chill or what do i do?

Go out somewhere. If you're talking about a chick you don't know,like some random girl you just happened to bump in to while being out in the world,on the street,a store,or supermarket.....I'd invite her out to do something.....most chicks (at least the ones with half a brain) aren't gonna just walse into some stranger's house for a first date......you need to meet them out in public somewhere where they can get comfortable with you first. After that,then they'll feel comfortable enough to be alone in your house with you.

But first things first.....

Stop talking about "anything" and direct the conversation onto the subject of you two GOING OUT. You can light flirt,maybe have one or two random topics,but eventually get to the point. I'd do it like this.....

Flirt,random topic,flirt,second random topic,flirt.......then ASK HER OUT.

 

[RangerMIke]

Interactions with women are about stages not an end state of getting laid. If all you think about is getting laid you are going to come off as needy and impatient, major attraction killers.

You have to pay attention to what is going on is she giving you signs of disinterest. The only time you should even be thinking about getting laid is when you are actually trying to seduce her. When you first meet a women you should come off as fun... tease her a little, joke around try and make her simile, your goal at this post is to read her body language get her interested, next you want to be a friend, try to build rapport, find some commonality and build on it, once you've built report and an emotional connection, then you need to be a man and seduce her.

 

[fastlife]

A couple ways to sexualize convo:

• Eye contact--stare into her eyes. Hold it longer than you feel comfortable--seriously go full sociopath for a while and watch the reactions.
• Talk slowly. Imagine your words are leaving your mouth but are moving down to the floor. Like you're talking down to her from a raised platform. This is call breaking rapport, which forces her to establish rapport, i.e. chase.
• Think of something amusing--FOR YOU--relax and let that self-amusement come into your face.
• Feel the energy--you'll KNOW when to kiss her, you'll KNOW when to touch her; all that sh1t is instinctive. But most guys second guess themselves.
• Move her. When I meet a girl I'm pretty much giving her commands--Do this. Stop that. Stand up. Let me see that. Look at this. Start small. Come here. Let me taste your drink. It establishes a pattern of her following your lead--if she doesn't step back, tease her, try again.

That's 5 bullet points. Focus on one thing at a time. Practice with ANY girl you meet--but be ready for some weird sh1t to happen from time to time lol. Within a couple weeks/months depending on how many interactions you get in, these things will become natural and then you can focus on logistics, isolation, & escalation.

 

[Arcturus]

You can work on the symptoms or address the root cause here. The root cause is that you lack experience and comfort in such situations and that probably leads to you being stifled. Don't worry about getting laid, worry about building a skill set that will aid you over a lifetime. Game is sort of like, you really suck, you suck, you are ok, and then after a while you become a sex God and wonder how it was ever hard to begin with. Try asking out girls slightly below your normal standards. Like if you date 7's try a 5 or a 6, a girl you would sleep with but wouldn't care too much either way. You will find it 100x easier to flirt with these girls and take the process all the way to the bedroom, you don't even have to actually sleep with them. Couple rounds of that will build up your inner game, skill and confidence and you will find that it is suddenly much much easier to get flirty/sexual with the girls you previously wanted.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

So i'm introverted. I can talk to girls even the hot ones and have a friendly conversation with them just fine. Not a great flirter so we just talk about anything really. But the problem is this does not get laid. I was wondering if you guys had any tips on how to make a relationship from friendly to getting laid? do you just invite to something like netflix and chill or what do i do?

See the bold? It's good that you have already identified the problem. Now go work on that.

 

[ubercat]

Search the many threads on Kino here. On the previous point a 5 will probably eat Kino up. But definitely try fastife s tips as they ll work with the higher value girls too. I personally escalate the hell out out of it even on a first date. And no doubt I blow out a few dates because of this. However this approach quickly screens out girls with low interest level who just like the attention. You're obviously young just have fun with all this. And you're obviously good at building comfort. That will stand you in good Stead. I've lost count of the number of girls who have slept with me and say I don't usually do that I just felt so comfortable with you. Of course they DO normally do that however I think the comfort does help.

 

[marmel75]

So i'm introverted. I can talk to girls even the hot ones and have a friendly conversation with them just fine. Not a great flirter so we just talk about anything really. But the problem is this does not get laid. I was wondering if you guys had any tips on how to make a relationship from friendly to getting laid? do you just invite to something like netflix and chill or what do i do?

If you can talk about anything then start focusing the conversation on sexual things and try and figure out a way to turn everything she says into something sexual and then blame her for making you think that way...works like a charm once you figure out how to do it through practice