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[Lawrence.V.]

I do apologise for being 2 young but I could do with experienced guys to help me out.Im a good looking 22 year old half italian/english, Iv been living in the Uk for 9 years now, Iv got a slight problem that u guys might be able to help me, my comunicating skills with women are crap, I mean i dont have any trouble receiving their signals and im not afraid to go up and chat them up I hardly ever get turned down but after about the first 20-30 min the 1's I really like dont seem to be intrested anymore, some tell me that Im arrogant and do nothing but talking about myself, but really Im a down to earth guy that just wants to get laid and gain more experience, maybe they are intimidated by me I really dont know,Im in need of this because Im loosing a lot of women over this.Can any1 suggest me some good tips on how to prevent stuff like this from happening,how to improve my comunicating skills and what do u do when u have nothing else to say and the uncomfortable silence begins?Thanx very much.

 

[chalk]

i'm no master yet but it seems to me like your having problems taking things to the next level. I recognise the same thing in myself sometimes. If your doing most of the talking you might wanna learn how to ask questions. If you can get a women talking and keep the convo going with questions you not only learn a lot but gain a good rapport.

after this 30 minutes do you get nervous? Like you've used up all your game plan and ran out of material?

 

[Lawrence.V.]

Yes mate I do I ran out of things to say.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Read the Bible. There's an entire section on conversation.

 

[Lawrence.V.]

Thanks

Thanks for your tips guys

 

[chalk]

what do you do in your spare time laurence? Have you been traveling or anything like that?

I'm finding a good technique for me is to have as many interests as possible and then bring them up in the convo until you have a similar connection, then all of sudden you can get the girl talking on that subject and because it's your both in to it the conversation happens more naturally.

Travelings a good one for me cause i've been loads of places and that can naturally lead on to questions about your 'ideal holiday' you BEST holiday' .... where you'd buy your ideal mansion? Hawaii you say!?!?! Thats mad me too!! Tell ya what, we can link them by a tunnel and have mad underground parties. what music you into?? etc etc.

Another little tip that i find quite good fun is to play a game. If things are going quiet say 'you wanna play a little game? theres loads of good ones that are quick and easy. I find thumb wars is a good one. everyone knows it and you can get a bit of light touching in.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Lawrence, here's a good link:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16250