For those of us unaffiliated to any country other than America or any particular, the phrase "rite of passage" typically means nothing. As a male that's "Americanized," we hit 18, and about the only thing you get is the ability to smoke and buy porn. At 21, you can drink, go to strip clubs, and rent most hotel rooms. By 25, you're entitled to rent cars legally. However, these are all societal "rites of passage."
In Asian countries, when children hit 18, children, or now Adults, go to the respective legal location and obtain their new licenses, as well as a stern talking-to by the elders on "responsibility. Fraternities haze their pledges to get them to appreciate being a "member" or "brother." The military puts the recruits through "hell week" and some forms of "hazing." Even some sports team "haze." To some degree we've all been hazed, or had a "rite of passage." In the Catholic religion, you make your First Communion, then several years later you become a "Confirmed" Catholic. The transition gives the person a sense of responsibility, a date to mark the passage from one state to another.
On a sports team, going from player to captain entails a different mindset. In religion, when you move from mere church-goer to confirmed religious devotee, it requires a "mental shift."
Gentlemen, take heed.
This is your "Rite of Passage" into manhood.
Many waffle around with no sense of direction, "hoping to be assigned direction or passion." Yet, these things are not found outside of yourself, for that search would remain endless, but they are containted INSIDE of you.
Whatever your age today, count that as your "rite of passage" into manhood. This discernable factor is what differentiates many people who follow their dreams from those who don't. Find the myriad of cases where friends are still stuck in a time warp, partying like they can, being a spend-thrift, or failing to accept greater responsibility. If you hitch your car to their train, you'll end up in the same place. ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY NOW.
In earlier generations, "rites of passage" were had at 18, because they didn't have college, or if they did, it was highly UNAFFORDABLE. Parents couldn't house kids until 30. They had to find a way to move out because our parent's generations rite of passage was 18. That was when you stopped deflecting responsibility, and started accepting it. Even early primitive tribes had such things, to denote manhood, joining the hunt, chasing women, and so on. But now, each in time come to their own rite of passage looking for a sign, looking for the passion. YOU GIVE IT TO YOURSELF.
This is not mere hype, but truth in fact. Even the Jewish religion has Bamitzvah's for the boys to denote passage to Adult at 13. Mentally they can't handle it, though 13 is a young age.
If you don't make it change, it won't change. And if it does, it will change not on your dime, but on someone else's. I have friends at 24 with college degrees working at Supermarkets. Not because they have to, but because they WANT to. They haven't even attempted to find a tougher job, yet they feel entitled to a higher paying job without providing the experience and skills. YOU MAKE YOUR OWN WORTH AND VALUE, or YOU HAVE IT PLACED UPON YOU.
Yes, it's hard. But do you think for anybody it was easy to stop looking back and start looking forward toward uncertain times?
Of course!
Columbus and the other explorers knew it wouldn't be easy, but they saw the potential, not the setbacks. And even when mutiny was abound, and spirits were low, they have steadfast knowing greater things would not come until they set sail for undiscovered land and undiscovered dreams. Had they been mere failures and given up, or had no noterieity, they would have appeared to be flakes, dreamers, and losers. But because they persevered until they DID succeed, they are etched into history.
You needn't be on such a grand scale. Only know that manhood REQUIRES some stress, and responsibility, and uncertainty. If it didn't, you would be able to hide under the emotional protection of your family and the financial security of your parent's home, but what good is that?
If you weren't failing with women, would you even be approaching them?
If you weren't screwing up workouts, would you even be working out?
If you weren't making financial mistakes, could you even have money?
THESE are the responsibilities that come with manhood. Accept them, or continue on as child unto you're ready to.
As a male in manhood, trivial issues of
"I like her, how do I tell her..."
"I like my gf's friend..."
"She didn't return my call."
"How do I approach a girl."
Are subverted below the responsibilities of being a man in manhood. And there's differences, you can't be in manhood, and a man, until you accept these responsibilties. There's a difference between male and man. A male is merely a definition of sexuality. A man is someone who accepts responsibilities of society. Alpha males are men who accept responsibilities of being "top dog." In this world, there is little need for such people, and even Bill Gates is hardly an Alpha male, even though he's so powerful he could crush most countries with his financial magnitude.
Get a glimpse of what responsibility you have by voting. No matter who you vote for. The signs are all around you, you have just missed them.
Realize you have a "rite of passage" awaiting you, and accept it, or fumble around until you do. Things cannot change until you change, and attempting to attach all these new found ideas onto an old persona is akin to giving a poverty stricken person lottery winnings. The situation temporarily changes, but the habits remain. Someone stricken with financial maldiscipline will find it hard to hold onto winnings if they haven't change their mindset.
Consider those things you would enjoy and desire being a "man who passes through his rite of passage." You've had 18, or 21, or even 30 years of waffling childhood. Until you awaken into the phase, things don't change.
End.
A-Unit
In Asian countries, when children hit 18, children, or now Adults, go to the respective legal location and obtain their new licenses, as well as a stern talking-to by the elders on "responsibility. Fraternities haze their pledges to get them to appreciate being a "member" or "brother." The military puts the recruits through "hell week" and some forms of "hazing." Even some sports team "haze." To some degree we've all been hazed, or had a "rite of passage." In the Catholic religion, you make your First Communion, then several years later you become a "Confirmed" Catholic. The transition gives the person a sense of responsibility, a date to mark the passage from one state to another.
On a sports team, going from player to captain entails a different mindset. In religion, when you move from mere church-goer to confirmed religious devotee, it requires a "mental shift."
Gentlemen, take heed.
This is your "Rite of Passage" into manhood.
Many waffle around with no sense of direction, "hoping to be assigned direction or passion." Yet, these things are not found outside of yourself, for that search would remain endless, but they are containted INSIDE of you.
Whatever your age today, count that as your "rite of passage" into manhood. This discernable factor is what differentiates many people who follow their dreams from those who don't. Find the myriad of cases where friends are still stuck in a time warp, partying like they can, being a spend-thrift, or failing to accept greater responsibility. If you hitch your car to their train, you'll end up in the same place. ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY NOW.
In earlier generations, "rites of passage" were had at 18, because they didn't have college, or if they did, it was highly UNAFFORDABLE. Parents couldn't house kids until 30. They had to find a way to move out because our parent's generations rite of passage was 18. That was when you stopped deflecting responsibility, and started accepting it. Even early primitive tribes had such things, to denote manhood, joining the hunt, chasing women, and so on. But now, each in time come to their own rite of passage looking for a sign, looking for the passion. YOU GIVE IT TO YOURSELF.
This is not mere hype, but truth in fact. Even the Jewish religion has Bamitzvah's for the boys to denote passage to Adult at 13. Mentally they can't handle it, though 13 is a young age.
If you don't make it change, it won't change. And if it does, it will change not on your dime, but on someone else's. I have friends at 24 with college degrees working at Supermarkets. Not because they have to, but because they WANT to. They haven't even attempted to find a tougher job, yet they feel entitled to a higher paying job without providing the experience and skills. YOU MAKE YOUR OWN WORTH AND VALUE, or YOU HAVE IT PLACED UPON YOU.
Yes, it's hard. But do you think for anybody it was easy to stop looking back and start looking forward toward uncertain times?
Of course!
Columbus and the other explorers knew it wouldn't be easy, but they saw the potential, not the setbacks. And even when mutiny was abound, and spirits were low, they have steadfast knowing greater things would not come until they set sail for undiscovered land and undiscovered dreams. Had they been mere failures and given up, or had no noterieity, they would have appeared to be flakes, dreamers, and losers. But because they persevered until they DID succeed, they are etched into history.
You needn't be on such a grand scale. Only know that manhood REQUIRES some stress, and responsibility, and uncertainty. If it didn't, you would be able to hide under the emotional protection of your family and the financial security of your parent's home, but what good is that?
If you weren't failing with women, would you even be approaching them?
If you weren't screwing up workouts, would you even be working out?
If you weren't making financial mistakes, could you even have money?
THESE are the responsibilities that come with manhood. Accept them, or continue on as child unto you're ready to.
As a male in manhood, trivial issues of
"I like her, how do I tell her..."
"I like my gf's friend..."
"She didn't return my call."
"How do I approach a girl."
Are subverted below the responsibilities of being a man in manhood. And there's differences, you can't be in manhood, and a man, until you accept these responsibilties. There's a difference between male and man. A male is merely a definition of sexuality. A man is someone who accepts responsibilities of society. Alpha males are men who accept responsibilities of being "top dog." In this world, there is little need for such people, and even Bill Gates is hardly an Alpha male, even though he's so powerful he could crush most countries with his financial magnitude.
Get a glimpse of what responsibility you have by voting. No matter who you vote for. The signs are all around you, you have just missed them.
Realize you have a "rite of passage" awaiting you, and accept it, or fumble around until you do. Things cannot change until you change, and attempting to attach all these new found ideas onto an old persona is akin to giving a poverty stricken person lottery winnings. The situation temporarily changes, but the habits remain. Someone stricken with financial maldiscipline will find it hard to hold onto winnings if they haven't change their mindset.
Consider those things you would enjoy and desire being a "man who passes through his rite of passage." You've had 18, or 21, or even 30 years of waffling childhood. Until you awaken into the phase, things don't change.
End.
A-Unit