An intention is your underlying purpose and role in a woman's life. An intention can take many forms. You can be anything from the guy who helps her with her math homework to the knight in shining armor who sweeps her off of her feet and changes her life forever. There are many different intentions, and it is the pick up artist's job to:
1. Familiarize yourself with the most common and effective intentions.
2. Decide which intention is most relevant to a given situation.
3. Congruently execute your chosen intention via a continuous flow of action.
The two most common intentions are 'direct' and 'indirect'. A direct intention is one in which you express genuine interest in a girl from a place of higher value. You would then continue to reassure her of this all along the way, and treat her as if she is very special and unique. An indirect intention is one in which your interaction with a girl is purely social: Your interest lies mainly in something besides her. Maybe you are talking to her just to get an opinion, or maybe you are bored - or maybe you love the sound of your own voice!
Keep in mind the two are not mutually exclusive. When it comes down to it, everyone uses both of them, as it is completely natural to use both of them. In fact, a great pick up artist should be familiar with each and be able to use them both with equal competence. To limit oneself to a single intention, is much like an actor who limits himself to playing only one type of character throughout his entire career. The skill of a great actor is not choosing a single great role, but his ability to climb deep into any given role - the ability to become congruent to an intention.
Here's an example: Entering a club, you may see a group of girls, not exactly your type, but still somewhat attractive. You may chat with them in a social way, while waiting for your friends. Later on in the night, you may catch a glimpse of a beautiful, stunning woman - and you express your interest to her. You have created attraction using two different intentions. 'Direct' guys use an 'indirect' intention all the time with girls they have no romantic interest in - and it may result in those girls chasing them. On the flipside, great 'indirect' practitioners shift to a direct intention the moment they qualify the girl - and they may spend the rest of the sarge using the direct intention!
If you look at a 'natural' who does really well on a nighttime scene like a bar or club: How does he behave? Generally he will have a great time, enjoy the moment for what it is worth and spread his positive vibe to others around him. Women will gravitate toward these guys, and find them very attractive in this environment. Does this mean that 'party' guys are universally more attractive? Of course not. But people who go out to bars and clubs are going out to party for the evening, and the behavior of a party guy is highly congruent to that context. The natural is familiar with the environment and the types of interactions that go on during the course of the night. His behaviors are therefore congruent to both his intention and the shared intention of the groups he interacts with. If a natural gets up and walks away from a girl who isn't cooperating, it is because his intention is to have a good time, and not chase any one particular girl.
When one speaks of a 'natural', we talk about those guys who were born with those traits desirable to women. What exactly is the base characteristic that makes them so attractive? Is it their high energy? Is it their relaxed bodylanguage? Is it their boldness and honesty?
No.
It is their congruence to intention. Unlike a pick-up artist who has consciously designed his game from the ground up, a true 'natural' has little ability to make conscious choice of his intention. But the intention that he DOES have - he is DAMN congruent to it.
Development of Natural Game is the development of the fundamentals that empower you to choose your intention based on the situation at hand, and remain congruent to that chosen intention. Remaining congruent to an intention means to continually interact with a girl in a way that reinforces your original intent, or serves to further define it.
Congruence is the antithesis of coming across fake or ingenuine. In this game, to be labeled fake or ingenuine is the kiss of death! As men, we are expected to be strong decision makers, unwavering and ready to take action. Women are drawn to men who already know their place not only in the world but more importantly in her life. Make all of your subsequent actions congruent to your original intention.
Congruence has the ability to create massive amounts of attraction in a woman - much more than any given part of the interaction. Women are not as imperceptive as we once thought them to be! Subsequent interaction increases attraction and rapport simultaneously to the extent that it is congruent with all previous interaction, and serves to further define your intention. Through congruency, you will amplify your value exponentially with each consecutive action you take. Therefore, a complete method of seduction is only effective to the extent that it is congruent within itself.
To a women, the fact that congruence creates attraction is very obvious. A woman would simply call it "being a real man". Women don't want to waste their time with men who cannot make decisions, do not understand themselves or do not understand how to relate to her. Lack of congruence leads to confusion, and people deal with an excess of confusion by becoming indifferent to it, or by escaping from it. The former will put you into the friends zone, and the latter will cause you to be blown out or cause a woman to flake on you.
It is not any particular intention which makes you attractive. It is your congruence to it. Again IT IS NOT any particular method which is superior to others. It is your belief, conviction and loyalty to THAT METHOD. If you master the art of maintaining congruence to intention, a whole new world of freedom and opportunity will open up to you, as you will now be able to make ANY method or technique work.
A useful tool for familiarizing yourself with a particular intention is called Intention Mapping. It is also useful if you wish to create your own intention or 'method' of seduction. What most successful methods actually do is teach you to be very congruent to a single intention, through learning behaviors and techniques. Start by developing an idea of what kind of role you would like to play in a woman's life. Would you like to be lover who changes her life forever, a guy with whom she has casual sex with a few times a month, or perhaps the guy she encounters for a single night of lust and passion?
Intention maps are most effective when they match what a girl is ready for in this particular time in her life. In other words, your intention should be included in her realm of what is possible. While all women are different in the way they view the world, themselves and what is possible romantically, as a general rule you may find:
She's single -> Primarily open to romance and genuine interest from a guy.
She's with a boyfriend or husband for security, or just out of a relationship -> Primarily open to sexual variety, which may lead to romance later on.
She's in an emotionally and sexually fulfilling relationship -> Toughest case, but generally open sexual variety or romance from a guy who exhibits MVE.
After you determine the role you would like to play in a woman's life, the next step is to fill in parts of the interaction with behaviors that are all congruent to the initial intention, and serve to further define it. Here are two common examples: (BTW the idea is to fill in the gaps as thoroughly as possible, what I wrote is just an example to get you started)
INTENTION MAP: DIRECT (Genuinely interested in her)
Role:
To be the knight in shining armor who sweeps her off her feet.
Opener:
"I noticed you walking by and couldn't help but introduce myself."
Initial Game:
Questions about her, establishing commonality, awesome vibe. Great sense of humor, if there is any teasing, it is done with a reassuring and warm feel.
General behavior for initial meet:
Sticking by her, not leaving her to game other girls. Going around to do things as a 'couple', meeting other people, window shopping, etc...
Number close:
I had a great time connecting with you, let's continue this another time.
First phone call:
"It was really nice meeting you the other day, I look forward to seeing you again."
Second meeting:
'Our world frame'
"I meet so many girls who play games, but you don't seem to have time for that. You are so real and genuine, I like that."
General reassuring vibe.
After sex:
Holding her close, continuing to connect deeply on a variety of topics.
Calling the next day, telling her you had a wonderful time with her.
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1. Familiarize yourself with the most common and effective intentions.
2. Decide which intention is most relevant to a given situation.
3. Congruently execute your chosen intention via a continuous flow of action.
The two most common intentions are 'direct' and 'indirect'. A direct intention is one in which you express genuine interest in a girl from a place of higher value. You would then continue to reassure her of this all along the way, and treat her as if she is very special and unique. An indirect intention is one in which your interaction with a girl is purely social: Your interest lies mainly in something besides her. Maybe you are talking to her just to get an opinion, or maybe you are bored - or maybe you love the sound of your own voice!
Keep in mind the two are not mutually exclusive. When it comes down to it, everyone uses both of them, as it is completely natural to use both of them. In fact, a great pick up artist should be familiar with each and be able to use them both with equal competence. To limit oneself to a single intention, is much like an actor who limits himself to playing only one type of character throughout his entire career. The skill of a great actor is not choosing a single great role, but his ability to climb deep into any given role - the ability to become congruent to an intention.
Here's an example: Entering a club, you may see a group of girls, not exactly your type, but still somewhat attractive. You may chat with them in a social way, while waiting for your friends. Later on in the night, you may catch a glimpse of a beautiful, stunning woman - and you express your interest to her. You have created attraction using two different intentions. 'Direct' guys use an 'indirect' intention all the time with girls they have no romantic interest in - and it may result in those girls chasing them. On the flipside, great 'indirect' practitioners shift to a direct intention the moment they qualify the girl - and they may spend the rest of the sarge using the direct intention!
If you look at a 'natural' who does really well on a nighttime scene like a bar or club: How does he behave? Generally he will have a great time, enjoy the moment for what it is worth and spread his positive vibe to others around him. Women will gravitate toward these guys, and find them very attractive in this environment. Does this mean that 'party' guys are universally more attractive? Of course not. But people who go out to bars and clubs are going out to party for the evening, and the behavior of a party guy is highly congruent to that context. The natural is familiar with the environment and the types of interactions that go on during the course of the night. His behaviors are therefore congruent to both his intention and the shared intention of the groups he interacts with. If a natural gets up and walks away from a girl who isn't cooperating, it is because his intention is to have a good time, and not chase any one particular girl.
When one speaks of a 'natural', we talk about those guys who were born with those traits desirable to women. What exactly is the base characteristic that makes them so attractive? Is it their high energy? Is it their relaxed bodylanguage? Is it their boldness and honesty?
No.
It is their congruence to intention. Unlike a pick-up artist who has consciously designed his game from the ground up, a true 'natural' has little ability to make conscious choice of his intention. But the intention that he DOES have - he is DAMN congruent to it.
Development of Natural Game is the development of the fundamentals that empower you to choose your intention based on the situation at hand, and remain congruent to that chosen intention. Remaining congruent to an intention means to continually interact with a girl in a way that reinforces your original intent, or serves to further define it.
Congruence is the antithesis of coming across fake or ingenuine. In this game, to be labeled fake or ingenuine is the kiss of death! As men, we are expected to be strong decision makers, unwavering and ready to take action. Women are drawn to men who already know their place not only in the world but more importantly in her life. Make all of your subsequent actions congruent to your original intention.
Congruence has the ability to create massive amounts of attraction in a woman - much more than any given part of the interaction. Women are not as imperceptive as we once thought them to be! Subsequent interaction increases attraction and rapport simultaneously to the extent that it is congruent with all previous interaction, and serves to further define your intention. Through congruency, you will amplify your value exponentially with each consecutive action you take. Therefore, a complete method of seduction is only effective to the extent that it is congruent within itself.
To a women, the fact that congruence creates attraction is very obvious. A woman would simply call it "being a real man". Women don't want to waste their time with men who cannot make decisions, do not understand themselves or do not understand how to relate to her. Lack of congruence leads to confusion, and people deal with an excess of confusion by becoming indifferent to it, or by escaping from it. The former will put you into the friends zone, and the latter will cause you to be blown out or cause a woman to flake on you.
It is not any particular intention which makes you attractive. It is your congruence to it. Again IT IS NOT any particular method which is superior to others. It is your belief, conviction and loyalty to THAT METHOD. If you master the art of maintaining congruence to intention, a whole new world of freedom and opportunity will open up to you, as you will now be able to make ANY method or technique work.
A useful tool for familiarizing yourself with a particular intention is called Intention Mapping. It is also useful if you wish to create your own intention or 'method' of seduction. What most successful methods actually do is teach you to be very congruent to a single intention, through learning behaviors and techniques. Start by developing an idea of what kind of role you would like to play in a woman's life. Would you like to be lover who changes her life forever, a guy with whom she has casual sex with a few times a month, or perhaps the guy she encounters for a single night of lust and passion?
Intention maps are most effective when they match what a girl is ready for in this particular time in her life. In other words, your intention should be included in her realm of what is possible. While all women are different in the way they view the world, themselves and what is possible romantically, as a general rule you may find:
She's single -> Primarily open to romance and genuine interest from a guy.
She's with a boyfriend or husband for security, or just out of a relationship -> Primarily open to sexual variety, which may lead to romance later on.
She's in an emotionally and sexually fulfilling relationship -> Toughest case, but generally open sexual variety or romance from a guy who exhibits MVE.
After you determine the role you would like to play in a woman's life, the next step is to fill in parts of the interaction with behaviors that are all congruent to the initial intention, and serve to further define it. Here are two common examples: (BTW the idea is to fill in the gaps as thoroughly as possible, what I wrote is just an example to get you started)
INTENTION MAP: DIRECT (Genuinely interested in her)
Role:
To be the knight in shining armor who sweeps her off her feet.
Opener:
"I noticed you walking by and couldn't help but introduce myself."
Initial Game:
Questions about her, establishing commonality, awesome vibe. Great sense of humor, if there is any teasing, it is done with a reassuring and warm feel.
General behavior for initial meet:
Sticking by her, not leaving her to game other girls. Going around to do things as a 'couple', meeting other people, window shopping, etc...
Number close:
I had a great time connecting with you, let's continue this another time.
First phone call:
"It was really nice meeting you the other day, I look forward to seeing you again."
Second meeting:
'Our world frame'
"I meet so many girls who play games, but you don't seem to have time for that. You are so real and genuine, I like that."
General reassuring vibe.
After sex:
Holding her close, continuing to connect deeply on a variety of topics.
Calling the next day, telling her you had a wonderful time with her.
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