It's True It's True
Don Juan
long post!
Here's the deal. It may or may not make sense, but it's somewhat new to me since I used to just be a "player" so to speak and not get into any long term relationships... I'm 20 and this is my first one really.
I've been with a girl, we'll call her Kelly, for about 3 months. The thing is, we're getting along great. Normally, I would be a ****/challenge, and etc and it would work fine, but I see her almost every day and we don't really get sick of each other.
Here's the issue. Before me, she was with a guy for 9 months. This is one of those drug dealing losers with 10000 piercings, colored hair, tattoos all over the place, etc. What some people would call a "skater" type. She used to be the same way. I'm more of the nice dressing "preppy" guys I guess you could call me. So we were very different. Anyway.....
Of the 9 months she was with this guy, 6 of them he's spent in jail. He doesn't get out for about 6 more months. They broke up because according to her, he was an *******, never let her do anything, emotionally abusive, etc... The usual. So we started hanging out a lot as she would come to parties I frequently through at my friend's apartment.
One night, we just started fooling around. Long story short, we got physical real quickley, and got together and started dating. She dresses differently now she seems to be a different person. The thing is, the ex started writing to her again, and she wants to write back, "As friends", because they were good friends before they started to date, so she justifies it saying I have no reason to not let her do it.
I agreed. After much arguing I let her do it because she convinced me she wants nothing to do with him, she feels bad because he's in jail, but thats it. She "wants to be with me" she tells me ALL the time and makes it abundantly clear.
So why am I still insanely jealous? She claims she'll let me read all the letters, but how do I know she's letting me read them all?
I'm just worried, because it's the first woman I've actually cared about in my 20 years on this planet, and I just get insecure about the fact she writes back and forth to the Ex. And I'm no idiot, I know how girls are. All this prick has to do is tell her he loves her again, and that could be it. It's just going so well for us, and she claims i'm totally different then what she's used to, which is the ******* boyfriends that abuse and treat her like ****... which gives me two ideas: she likes the way she's being treated now, or she's emotially insecure and needs more drama in her life that I'm currently not giving her, and not showing it. We get along GREAT and that's what worries me, ironically enough, despite the fact she wants to see me every single day.
Sorry for the long post, but if anyone can help me diffuse this situation I'd appreciate it. I just don't want this ******* luring her back in, because I know what guys like that are capable of.
thanks.
Here's the deal. It may or may not make sense, but it's somewhat new to me since I used to just be a "player" so to speak and not get into any long term relationships... I'm 20 and this is my first one really.
I've been with a girl, we'll call her Kelly, for about 3 months. The thing is, we're getting along great. Normally, I would be a ****/challenge, and etc and it would work fine, but I see her almost every day and we don't really get sick of each other.
Here's the issue. Before me, she was with a guy for 9 months. This is one of those drug dealing losers with 10000 piercings, colored hair, tattoos all over the place, etc. What some people would call a "skater" type. She used to be the same way. I'm more of the nice dressing "preppy" guys I guess you could call me. So we were very different. Anyway.....
Of the 9 months she was with this guy, 6 of them he's spent in jail. He doesn't get out for about 6 more months. They broke up because according to her, he was an *******, never let her do anything, emotionally abusive, etc... The usual. So we started hanging out a lot as she would come to parties I frequently through at my friend's apartment.
One night, we just started fooling around. Long story short, we got physical real quickley, and got together and started dating. She dresses differently now she seems to be a different person. The thing is, the ex started writing to her again, and she wants to write back, "As friends", because they were good friends before they started to date, so she justifies it saying I have no reason to not let her do it.
I agreed. After much arguing I let her do it because she convinced me she wants nothing to do with him, she feels bad because he's in jail, but thats it. She "wants to be with me" she tells me ALL the time and makes it abundantly clear.
So why am I still insanely jealous? She claims she'll let me read all the letters, but how do I know she's letting me read them all?
I'm just worried, because it's the first woman I've actually cared about in my 20 years on this planet, and I just get insecure about the fact she writes back and forth to the Ex. And I'm no idiot, I know how girls are. All this prick has to do is tell her he loves her again, and that could be it. It's just going so well for us, and she claims i'm totally different then what she's used to, which is the ******* boyfriends that abuse and treat her like ****... which gives me two ideas: she likes the way she's being treated now, or she's emotially insecure and needs more drama in her life that I'm currently not giving her, and not showing it. We get along GREAT and that's what worries me, ironically enough, despite the fact she wants to see me every single day.
Sorry for the long post, but if anyone can help me diffuse this situation I'd appreciate it. I just don't want this ******* luring her back in, because I know what guys like that are capable of.
thanks.
