Confused

[KaLiBuR Da DoN]

This is my first post, so bear with me.

I am confused. I have read so much stuff on these forums, i have read the DJ BIble, everything. I need someone to just lay out the principles of being a DJ in an organized form, cuz i have trouble making sense of everything on the site.

 

[Ares]

its simple

1.Girls are not your only reason for living so try not to focus so much on them.
2.Care less about other peoples "thoughts" about you.
3.Cut the nervousness and social inhibition and just care about having fun.
4. And most importantly: Do it in your own pace, dont listen to the advice that goes against you beliefs (beleifs is not the same as your afc side) Thats the basic attitude I feel.......

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Welcome to the DJ forum.

There's a lot of information to digest. Many of the guys on here have different attitudes regarding women. Some are players only interested in sex, some are older guys trying to keep a long term relationship passionate, and others are younger fellas learning the ropes.

Which ever you are, my only advice is not to follow any one person's advice. After months reading this site, and finally getting registered, my attitude towards women, work, family, and life has, and still continues to, change.

Keep checking out this board, keep asking questions, and when you are confident in your Djism, then return the favor to others.

There isn't really a condensed version of being a DJ. Other DJ's have made easier to read versions of the 'best material' taken from the DJ Bible. But, those condensed versions most likely apply to their own individual needs an experiences.

Becoming a DJ, essentially becoming a man, isn't found in a simple, easy to follow guide. It takes work, and a little bit of a big stomach to digest a lot of the advice here.

Good Luck.

 

[Ares]

Ok,

Originally posted by -HPNOTIQ-
Welcome to the DJ forum.

There's a lot of information to digest. Many of the guys on here have different attitudes regarding women. Some are players only interested in sex, some are older guys trying to keep a long term relationship passionate, and others are younger fellas learning the ropes.

Which ever you are, my only advice is not to follow any one person's advice. After months reading this site, and finally getting registered, my attitude towards women, work, family, and life has, and still continues to, change.

Keep checking out this board, keep asking questions, and when you are confident in your Djism, then return the favor to others.

There isn't really a condensed version of being a DJ. Other DJ's have made easier to read versions of the 'best material' taken from the DJ Bible. But, those condensed versions most likely apply to their own individual needs an experiences.

Becoming a DJ, essentially becoming a man, isn't found in a simple, easy to follow guide. It takes work, and a little bit of a big stomach to digest a lot of the advice here.

Good Luck.

this is good piece of advice, a more elaborate version of my own simplyfied "belief" system.......This is actualy what makes the forum the best "manual guide" for becoming a dj/man, the different peoples opinion. I personaly see it as a biga$$ candystore and the owner just told me that I could eat everything that I want. Theres no good or bad candy just people with different tastes.

 

[KaLiBuR Da DoN]

Real Life Question

I got a question about a situation i encountered the other day. It is prolly somthin u have never herred of, but try to apply it to somthin else and help me out. I admit it is a pretty strange situation.

Ok, this girl, her Boyfriend, and me were hanging out one day. We were just talkin and her boyfriend proceeds to give her hickies, and all that. She isnt recipricating with any kissing or anything, but not rejecting his advances. It all seems normal at this point, yes?

Well while he is doing his thang, she cant keep her eyes off me, and wont let me leave. We flirt occasionally, and whenever one of my friends who wouldnt wanna see me an her together (He has a thing for her, but has no chance AKA hes jealous) tells me to stop flirting, she doesnt say anything like "yea stop" or anything.

Do you think that there is anything there? or is she jus being playful. I personally have no idea.

 

[KaLiBuR Da DoN]

i really need an opinion on the above situation

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Looks like this girl is dangling her bf in front of you to see if you're a little AFC who she can get to control, regardless if she has a man or not.

You got two scenerios here.

1) You can persue this fem, armed only with thoughts of bedding her and her becoming a f*ck buddy. BF or not, she might be the type who wouldn't mind having a fling with you, just as long as you both know that's exactly what it is - a fling.

2) You want to take this girl away from her current BF so you can become the new BF. Bad Choice bro. This girl seems to be in a bit of an attention deficit since she blaintently dangles her current BF in front of you.

I know you think you can change her, once she's with you. But, this there is a slim to no chance of this happening. She's doing it with the guy she's with now, she'll do it to you as soon as she gets bored with you.

If it were me, I'd next this chic and focus on another. There are hundreds of fems in this world that have a lot less drama and baggage (baggage being a BF who wouldnt mind keying your car then jumping you with 5 of his friends when he finds out you're f*cking his girl).

Leave it alone, p*ssy aint worth the drama.

 

[KaLiBuR Da DoN]

Boyfriend should be in quotes, cuz her "boyfriend" is basically her **** buddy

I really dont have interest in stealing her, but i wanna get wit that when she breaks up wit him, with knowing him should be soon.

How do i maintain my C+F while not trying to break them up. I want to remain attractive for when they break up.

 

[KaLiBuR Da DoN]

keep the advice comin

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

The best way to catch her attraction is to remain a mystery. Like in poker, don't let her see you sweat..meaning...don't act AFC.

Don't write her poems about how much you dream about being with her.
Don't buy her flowers, candies, and cards professing your undying love for her.
Don't call her 10 times a day, asking how her day went.

In order to attract a woman, you must remain a challenge. Once you let out your trump card that you are indeed attracted to her, you then become needy. Regardless of how many girls you can get on the side, she sounds like the type who doesn't want anyone that can't satisfy the competitive nature in her...thus you must remain a challenge.

Keep your distance, smile, flirt, joke a lot. Drop little hints that you 'maybe' attracted to her. Give a little KINO, drop some C/F lines: "hey girl, I bet you dream about me while you're with your BF huh? I know you do, because if I were you, I'd be thinking about me all day"

It doesn't really matter what C/F line you use if this girl's interest level in you is moderate to high. It matters how you say it. Don't act AFC...being an AFC will drop her IL in you guaranteed.

Remember, you have to make her THINK she MAY have a chance with you. Girls want guys that are a challenge...just like how we want girls the same way. Do you really want a needy, desperate, AFC type girl telling you how much she loves you? Exactly!

 

[KaLiBuR Da DoN]

I am never an AFC with this girl, i never buy her things, nuthin.

How do i remain a mystery? I think she already knows im interested, but im sure i can change that. I kno the dangers in talking about other girls in front of her, but could it work here? I need help on being mysterious.

THanks

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

here:

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/se...d=165009&sortby=lastpost&sortorder=descending

continue to read and digest the DJ Bible...there are no shortcuts in life bro.

 

[KaLiBuR Da DoN]

thanks

 

[KaLiBuR Da DoN]

OK now my other question:

Wat about that friend who dont want me and her together. If it comes down to flirting with her or being friends with him, what should i choose. I have known him for 5 years and i know flirting with her bothers him.

 

[Ares]

ask him...

If and only if, you make some progress with this girl you talk with your buddy about it, tell him that what you think about her and your plans and listen to his opinions. Its enough that we have problems talking to certain girls but I would call a brother kinda fu**** when he cant even to to his boy about something as common as girls

 

[Ares]

I meant,
talk to, to to is a bird og somesort......

 

[KaLiBuR Da DoN]

Alright, heres tha scoop on my friend:

He is the kidn that doesnt get any at all. A complete flop with girls, no way around it. PS- Im giving him the link to this website lol

Anyway, he calls this girl his sister. THey are really close, and he claims no romantic interest in her. I kno, from my sources, the truth is diferent. He would kill to be with her.

Furthermore, whne i ask y he wont accept a me an her thing, he says he doesnt trust me. This is bull, cuz how can you not trust someone you have known for 7 years?

I just see it as jealousy.

 

[Iceberg]

Originally posted by KaLiBuR Da DoN
Alright, heres tha scoop on my friend:

He is the kidn that doesnt get any at all. A complete flop with girls, no way around it. PS- Im giving him the link to this website lol

Anyway, he calls this girl his sister. THey are really close, and he claims no romantic interest in her. I kno, from my sources, the truth is diferent. He would kill to be with her.

Furthermore, whne i ask y he wont accept a me an her thing, he says he doesnt trust me. This is bull, cuz how can you not trust someone you have known for 7 years?

I just see it as jealousy.

Yo kid. I kno you kno how 2 type so y do u type like dis? R U a 13 year old grl? cuz u type like 1. itz really hard 2 understand some1 when dey type like dis all the time. For sheezy.

May B I'm jus 2 old for this stuff at the ripe old age of 22.

Sorry to make fun, but typing on the internet isn't a "cool" thing to do, so just write like a normal person. Internet slang just shows that you're spending waaaay too much time on the internet. It had to be said....don't hate me.

 

[KaLiBuR Da DoN]

hey *******, u want the numbers?

i used the word CUZ 1 tiem
and THA 1 tiem

the rest u should be able to understand unless you are a retarded 40 year old bagboy at the local supermarket

idiot

 

[Ares]

she isnt worth it.....

if its that comlicated then fu** it! seriuosly man, you say your handsome and your at this site, I repeat she isnt worth all this trouble, just stop it......it really isnt healthy, find yourself another girl to flirt with....