Confused

[juandirection]

So here's how it goes. I asked the girl im exclusively dating if i can introduce her to my family/ vice versa. she says she isnt ready for that yet. should i wait? we've been together for almost 10 months now

 

[LiveYourDream]

So here's how it goes. I asked the girl im exclusively dating if i can introduce her to my family/ vice versa. she says she isnt ready for that yet. should i wait? we've been together for almost 10 months now

If your 'exclusive' woman is not excited to be your woman, in front of your family, or in front of her family, she's not your woman. If after ten months she's not excited to be your woman, stop investing in her because it's not going to suddenly happen in the future. Drop seeing her exclusively, relegate her to plate at best, never expect her to change and start seeing other women immediately.

 

[AttackFormation]

1. You asked a girl to be exclusive. It should be the other way. Which leads me to...
2. You have no plates, other than her. Are you even having (good, not infrequent) sex with this woman?
3. You shouldn't wait, you should stop being exclusive with her, and don't do her any favours

PS. A woman who is heavy in romance with you wants to meet your family and introduce you to hers etc. if she's not excited to do that and has no good reason, it's a red flag

 

[Reykhel]

Women with high interest level don't confuse you....

If this was within the first six months I wouldn't be concerned...

but you're not far away from a year and she wants to keep it on the quiet....

Withdraw your time and interest from this one.

 

[Serenity]

There's really no point waiting especially after becoming exclusive, unless she's not as committed as you might think. Another possibility is some fear or insecurity, like her parents judging or something even completely irrational. I don't think you should wait, I think you should get to the bottom of what's holding her back. Ask her what's holding her back. If you get nowhere with that, question her commitment by telling her it's going to happen anyways unless she has other plans. If she doesn't tell you what's really holding her back or just complies, then she probably had other plans meaning you dump her. Either way this will solve your problem.

I met the parents of my girlfriend before we got exclusive, was never an issue. I had pretty much made up my mind anyways, I was ready to commit so I saw no reason to delay the inevitable.

 

[cola]

Dump. You arent her Mr Right you're her Mr Right now

 

[Lozboss]

Jettison her like unwanted cargo.

She doesn't value you. Have some dignity and walk away without saying a word. Block her on phone and social media and go date other women.

 

[RangerMIke]

Women with high interest level don't confuse you....

Yep... if you are confused you have a problem.

 

[l__i__l]

She also most likely has other exclusive guys as well.
She can't be meeting everyone's parents.
Give her a break.