I meet this girl in class, we flirt, it goes well, she talks to me after and in class, smiles, seems into me as Im into her. I text her that we should hang out and she says yea we should have coffee/lunch or something, ill text you this weekend. Weekend comes and she didnt text, so I messaged her on Saturday and asked her if we could meet tommorow, she didnt answer, thinking she didnt get it, I message her again saying dont know if you got my text, tried to message you. Waited for a day or two and she didnt answer. Emailed her the same message and she didnt answer. I dont get why she would show interest, then not follow through. What else could I do in this situation? What should I do now?
Confused with girl, please help
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I don't remember which article states, "unless your message was intercepted by the FBI/CIA (it wasn't), she got your message"
B. Fierce
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Sounds good (I prefer the phone but whatever works for you)......anyway, let's see where you go from here.....joe23 said:
:nono: ......Swing and a miss. ......joe23 said:
The problem here is that YOU didn't set up a meeting place and time after saying that you wanted to hang out. You didn't take the iniative to get this woman. You left the responsibility of setting something up in her hands. It seems like you were WAITING for her to come up with a plan. That responsibility lies in the hands of the MAN!! YOU!!!!
Don't wait for her!
Make a plan. Ask her out! And take it from there.
Learn from this (by taking the iniative to set up "dates") and you will have more success!
By the way the "we should have coffee/lunch" line could have been said by her to convince YOU to set up a solid date and time with her.
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And as for what you should do now, I suggest that you move on and find other interested women. She has ignored your messages multiple times. It's probably not a coincidence.
Good Luck!
If you texted her and she didn't text you back, you shouldn't have attempted to talk to her again. If a girl ignored you, don't waste your time on her. If you try and contact a girl and she doesn't respond back you might get this sort of nervous feeling, where you keep telling yourself "maybe she didn't get my call." GET RID of this feeling. They ALWAYS get the call or text. This is like in stocks when people don't cut their losses at their stop-loss because they have "hope" that it's going to turn around. You definitely shouldn't have e-mailed the girl, that just made you look like a creep because she was clearly trying to ignore you. This is ESPECIALLY bad because you met her in class, and if she has other girl-friends there, then your social proof with them has gone down too.
As for why she showed interest, Girls always do shyt like that. They'll give out their numbers to guys they aren't interested in or flirt without any intentions. Girls are inferior creatures who love attention. They also hate desperate guys. As soon as you show an ounce of desperation, like trying to contact them multiple times after being ignored, their interest level will shoot down by 110%.
As for why she showed interest, Girls always do shyt like that. They'll give out their numbers to guys they aren't interested in or flirt without any intentions. Girls are inferior creatures who love attention. They also hate desperate guys. As soon as you show an ounce of desperation, like trying to contact them multiple times after being ignored, their interest level will shoot down by 110%.
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Kailex
Master Don Juan
This right here already spelled trouble.joe23 said:
She'll text you this weekend?
That right there means... TOTAL FRAME CONTROL.
Of course she didn't text you.
Either she forgot or she was testing you... and then you failed the test.
You texted?
And then you texted again?
It took you a few seconds to write those texts, why couldn't you just CALL?
That way, you would have been sure that it went through and not have to suffer from the ambiguity of "Did she see it or not?"
You emailed her?
REALLY?
Please tell me that the reason you didn't CALL her is because you are a mute or a mime, because those are the only acceptable reasons I'll be willing to listen to at this point.
Because she probably was expecting a MAN and instead got someone whose afraid to dial her number and give her a call to see what's up.
What else could you DO? CALL.
What should you do now? Start looking for other girls to go out with. This one is a lost cause. If you do see her, you just talk to her as you would talk to anyone else... DO NOT BRING up that she never got back to you, no matter how much you desperately want an answer... she's not going to give her a REAL answer anyway.
Kailex broke it down really well.
1. Don't ever say that you want to "hang out" with a girl you're interested in. This can only lead to either her not getting that you're interested or you sounding like a pvssy. In this case it was obviously the latter.
2. You didn't make the plans. All you said was "we should hang out". You're basically handing her the power. Next time you say "we should get coffee," get her number and you make the plans. I suggest just getting the number first, though, and making the plans over the phone, because this way you won't waste your time if she's not interested (which will show when you try to make the plans).
You need to take control and lead. Instead you got the "we should do something this weekend (i.e. never)" excuse.
There's two problems with this:joe23 said:
1. Don't ever say that you want to "hang out" with a girl you're interested in. This can only lead to either her not getting that you're interested or you sounding like a pvssy. In this case it was obviously the latter.
2. You didn't make the plans. All you said was "we should hang out". You're basically handing her the power. Next time you say "we should get coffee," get her number and you make the plans. I suggest just getting the number first, though, and making the plans over the phone, because this way you won't waste your time if she's not interested (which will show when you try to make the plans).
You need to take control and lead. Instead you got the "we should do something this weekend (i.e. never)" excuse.
This is painful. Follow the two strikes rule if you are this desperate (and don't tell me you're not because it's very obvious that you are). And never email a girl; that's ridiculous and bordering on creepy.
Girls are emotional in that respect; they sort of go with the flow regarding them. One minute they could be in love with you and the next they don't care about you. That's just how it is. However, in this situation it was your fault because you gave the frame to her and she lost interest while you were talking to her. She then probably got creeped out by all the texts and email you sent.
Move on. Don't contact her anymore. Learn from this situation.