Guys Im 22 and so is she we were together for 2 years and broke up 2 months ago.
Its been a rough two months, we would not talk for say a week cuz we had an argument, Id push her to be with me. Then she'd msg me and tell me she is lonely a few days later. I'd push her again and we'd not talk to each other for a few more days.
Recently she went out on a few dates with this guy who she tells me she really liked and she even kissed him. But she also had seen me earlier that week and just decided to kiss me as well.
In our conversations she has said things like
"I need to grow and spread my wings. make my own decisions. please do not pressure me to make them in accordance to your wants."
"I don't know if I'll ever be with you or you'll ever be what I want or need. "
"i don't think about us or being with you"
"I want to date you when you're old"
" I'd like to hang out with you. But on my timetable not on yours
when it feels natural and I'm ready which I'm not and you're so pushy
and it's so frustrating and makes me cringe"
"nothing. im not in love with you. deal with it."
"but i've known all along i wasn't happy with who you were and who i was with you and every time i left you called me a ***** and drove me nuts but you know what i dated this other guy because I knew I wasn't crazy for leaving you. I knew I could be happier
and for some while I was and could've been if it had worked out
and that's that."
Im confused because sometimes it seems like she wants to give me a chance and sometimes she is very harsh. She is toying with me I think.
Guys I really dont want to hear like NEXT or stop being a pu**sy.
I really love this girl and I blew it with her. I'd start arguments that were stupid and I'd get mad at her for dumb things. I took her for granted and didn't appreciate her.
What would be my best strategy to getting her to think about me again. Total cut out of contact, or occasional talking. And when we do talk how do i stop myself from pushing her cuz i want her back so badly but pushing her just pushes her farther away.
Her sister is getting married in a week and she wants me there and so do her parents. Do i go?
Its been a rough two months, we would not talk for say a week cuz we had an argument, Id push her to be with me. Then she'd msg me and tell me she is lonely a few days later. I'd push her again and we'd not talk to each other for a few more days.
Recently she went out on a few dates with this guy who she tells me she really liked and she even kissed him. But she also had seen me earlier that week and just decided to kiss me as well.
In our conversations she has said things like
"I need to grow and spread my wings. make my own decisions. please do not pressure me to make them in accordance to your wants."
"I don't know if I'll ever be with you or you'll ever be what I want or need. "
"i don't think about us or being with you"
"I want to date you when you're old"
" I'd like to hang out with you. But on my timetable not on yours
when it feels natural and I'm ready which I'm not and you're so pushy
and it's so frustrating and makes me cringe"
"nothing. im not in love with you. deal with it."
"but i've known all along i wasn't happy with who you were and who i was with you and every time i left you called me a ***** and drove me nuts but you know what i dated this other guy because I knew I wasn't crazy for leaving you. I knew I could be happier
and for some while I was and could've been if it had worked out
and that's that."
Im confused because sometimes it seems like she wants to give me a chance and sometimes she is very harsh. She is toying with me I think.
Guys I really dont want to hear like NEXT or stop being a pu**sy.
I really love this girl and I blew it with her. I'd start arguments that were stupid and I'd get mad at her for dumb things. I took her for granted and didn't appreciate her.
What would be my best strategy to getting her to think about me again. Total cut out of contact, or occasional talking. And when we do talk how do i stop myself from pushing her cuz i want her back so badly but pushing her just pushes her farther away.
Her sister is getting married in a week and she wants me there and so do her parents. Do i go?
