Ok guys need your advice.
Here is some background information. 3 and half years ago, I met this girl at a religious convention in Chicago. She happens to be from the same city as me (in Texas). At the convention, I became cool with her younger brother and cousins. I was 27 at the time and she was about 19. I barely talked to her during the convention but I sense her interest in me. I spend more time talking to other girls and only talk to her on a friendly basis.
So tonight I run into her at a local bar and talk to her (first time we have talked since the convention). She is now much more attractive and older (22). She is very receptive and flirty (she just arrived at the bar so has not drank yet). I talk to her for a few minutes and catch up. She is in town for the holidays for another 10 days or so as she attends school in NY. I end up getting her number and she is down to hang out before she leaves back for school. She is very eager to give her number to me. She easily remembered my named and was suprised I remembered hers! I end up leaving within 10 minutes of conversating with her at the bar to hit up a dance club. I feel I confidently handled the situation.
She later arrives at the same club near the end of the night and we end up dancing. We are flirting and she says I see you as a brother. This takes me by surprise based on how we were flirting, dancing, interacting,etc. throughout the night. She says since I'm cool with her brothers/cousins that she see me as similar to them. At this point she is drunk of her a**. So I say ok thats cool and she walks off. I did not get to say what was on my mind at that point in time.
Upon leaving the club, I call her (by this time I am drunk) and leave her a message saying its cool you see me as a brother have a nice life/take care/nice knowing you. Obviously I was upset and probably should not have said this. As I am about to delete her number from my phone I get a call back from her. She says who is this, and I tell her my name and ask did you get my voice mail. She says no I do not listen to voicemails. I then proceed to tell her that I do not understand why she sees me as a brother when we have barely talked at the convention years ago and we seemed to hit it off very well tonight. She immediately says we should hang out on new years night and asks what my plans are. I say I have no plans and want to stay home. She insists we should hang out and I say I'll think about it. She is practially begging me to hang out with her for new years. We end the conversation with her saying she will call me tomorrow.
I am not sure if she is really interested in me or actually heard my voice mail and felt some kind of pity and is trying to salvage the friendship or if she is actually interested.
I obviously want to make the most of it but would like to hear your opinions/analysis on this situation or on how to proceed. I will call her tomorrow at some point if she does not call me to find out if she wants to do something with me for new years since time is running short. I have nothing to lose and feel I should ask.
Please advise.
Here is some background information. 3 and half years ago, I met this girl at a religious convention in Chicago. She happens to be from the same city as me (in Texas). At the convention, I became cool with her younger brother and cousins. I was 27 at the time and she was about 19. I barely talked to her during the convention but I sense her interest in me. I spend more time talking to other girls and only talk to her on a friendly basis.
So tonight I run into her at a local bar and talk to her (first time we have talked since the convention). She is now much more attractive and older (22). She is very receptive and flirty (she just arrived at the bar so has not drank yet). I talk to her for a few minutes and catch up. She is in town for the holidays for another 10 days or so as she attends school in NY. I end up getting her number and she is down to hang out before she leaves back for school. She is very eager to give her number to me. She easily remembered my named and was suprised I remembered hers! I end up leaving within 10 minutes of conversating with her at the bar to hit up a dance club. I feel I confidently handled the situation.
She later arrives at the same club near the end of the night and we end up dancing. We are flirting and she says I see you as a brother. This takes me by surprise based on how we were flirting, dancing, interacting,etc. throughout the night. She says since I'm cool with her brothers/cousins that she see me as similar to them. At this point she is drunk of her a**. So I say ok thats cool and she walks off. I did not get to say what was on my mind at that point in time.
Upon leaving the club, I call her (by this time I am drunk) and leave her a message saying its cool you see me as a brother have a nice life/take care/nice knowing you. Obviously I was upset and probably should not have said this. As I am about to delete her number from my phone I get a call back from her. She says who is this, and I tell her my name and ask did you get my voice mail. She says no I do not listen to voicemails. I then proceed to tell her that I do not understand why she sees me as a brother when we have barely talked at the convention years ago and we seemed to hit it off very well tonight. She immediately says we should hang out on new years night and asks what my plans are. I say I have no plans and want to stay home. She insists we should hang out and I say I'll think about it. She is practially begging me to hang out with her for new years. We end the conversation with her saying she will call me tomorrow.
I am not sure if she is really interested in me or actually heard my voice mail and felt some kind of pity and is trying to salvage the friendship or if she is actually interested.
I obviously want to make the most of it but would like to hear your opinions/analysis on this situation or on how to proceed. I will call her tomorrow at some point if she does not call me to find out if she wants to do something with me for new years since time is running short. I have nothing to lose and feel I should ask.
Please advise.
