Confident Perservance - Let them experience you first!

[DjVelvet]

I was browsing through some old posts by some of the greatest posters, which really enlighten me to a great degree. It nearly changes my mindset totally, it is like breaking away from a certain ceiling/matrix…

We all know that we need to "build" an attractive male profile for us in order to get girls. Game alone with no attractive profile gets no/minimal chances with girls.

It also brings me serious thoughts to NEXTing.. too many people mention about nexting and moving on too fast too soon.

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This is a guide i made purely for myself you can observe and make sort of similar guidelines to guide yourself.

Guide for Velvet

Natural Aura & charm, minimal routines.

This guideline is going to be usable for Velvet only, going to be tried and tested. =)


- Confident Perservance
*Quoted By Giovanni Casanova *

"Spending lots of time and money chasing after some girl who is with another guy is AFC and stupid. But as far as I'm concerned, so is "next"ing a chick if she exhibits any sign of not absolutely worshipping you from the outset.

I'm a pretty confident guy -- I know I've got a lot of things going for me. My own place, great job, friends, personality, humor, whatever. But I can't always advertise that on a big billboard I carry around with me. Once a girl is exposed to the wonder that is Giovanni Casanova, I'll hook her more often than not. It's just getting her to that point.

So I could say, "I'm gonna ask her out, but if she can't go then she's nexted." And then she thinks nothing of it. But in reality, maybe she just hasn't been exposed to Casanova enough yet.

What I've found is, I'll ask a girl out, and maybe she'll go or maybe she won't. Whatever. And then something comes up -- she doesn't return a phone call, or she has to cancel a date, or whatever. Most guys here are ready to "next" her. And if that's your bag, then fine.

But what I did here, and have done successfully other times in the past, is just roll with it. I don't make a big deal about it. I don't get angry and I don't avoid her. I just dazzle her with Giovanni Casanova. And all of our interactions during this time period is seen in the context of me having asked her out.

Girls hate the idea of letting a good one get away. So when you ask them out the second time, if you do it right, it won't seem like begging. She'll feel LUCKY to get a second chance with you.

That's what confident persistance does."

Personal comments :-

Don't get upset when you are flaked or whatever. Just ask her out again confidently and don't take things personally. It's no big deal if she rejects. It is just that she's not yet exposed to Velvet's aura. Dazzle her with Velvet when we meet up. If failed, its no big deal too =)

- Be a gentleman, when see her online or what, just greet if she initiated.
- Talk as and when you feel like it. No big deal, no worries =) You are Velvet, doing the Don way.
- Be happy of yourself, cause you are Velvet! the charming confident cool Velvet! No one can withstand Velvet's Aura.


Which leads me to Charles' Desirable Male Profile..

Improvements to be made for
- Bracers, and doing my smile.
- Gym
- Character building - Tone of voice, calmness, lesser laughter, stop reacting to small matters~ Coolness~ Take Charge
- Toastmasters
- Personal image
- Emphasize on work.

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It's just my view and i'm motivated by it.

Good luck for me.

 

[realsmoothie]

You're right. A lot of posters seem to want to NEXT too fast... but others (not sure who) said something about a "three strikes" rule, which works for me.

Girls are different creatures. We want them to think like us, but there's a lot going on in those pretty heads of theirs, they have different priorities sometimes. Using our qualifications to judge their actions might be a misappropriation of funds.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Healthy outlook brother.

Good luck on your progression.

 

[DjVelvet]

Too many people are dwelling on the process to attract girls.. when they NEVER realise that they are not attractive at ALL!

Be desirable.. Be marketable.. BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE!!

See this!

The way I think of it is like getting a job. Any idiot can get a job a Burger King sweeping the floor, all right? But say that you have a particular job in mind that you would like. What you do first is you make yourself a good candidate. If the job needs math skills, you get those skills. If it requires that you know a lot about computers or music, then you learn a lot about computers and music. Then you apply.

Then you go through the interview process. But it might take more than one interview to get the job. You don't "next" them just because they don't offer you the job on the spot. You fight for it. You show them that you're the right guy for the job. If you go through all of that and they say, "Sorry, you're not what we're looking for," then you get back out there and make yourself an even better candidate for the NEXT job.

If you only take the jobs that will hire you on the spot without even really evaluating you that much, what you're going to wind up with is a bunch of sh*tty jobs. To get the best, you have to work for it. If you didn't have to work for what you have now, you could have something even better if you worked for it.

 

[DjVelvet]

In my strong opinion to sum up things,

<in fact, i believe now that the DJ mindset can be summed up in this paragraph>

Build the BEST you. Sarging and getting numbers to allow them to get exposed to the BEST you. Flakes are nothing, get them out again (Proper ways of coz). Charmed them successfully? Great. Mentioned to get them out and yet failed? No problem too, keep improving =) Be cool~ Flakes, rejections & Failures are nothing. You LEARN!

Finally and finally... i understand what it means to keep improving and keep nothing personally =)

I nearly weep in joy when i realise that...

 

[DJF or John]

Oh yeah!

You tell em' Velvet!

"I believe now that the DJ mindset can be summed up in this paragraph."

What's that?

"Build the BEST you."

Oh yeah! Keep preaching brother!

"Sarging and getting numbers to allow them to get exposed to the BEST you. Flakes are nothing, get them out again. Charmed them successfully? Great. Mentioned to get them out and yet failed? No problem too, keep improving."

Now this is what I'm talkin bout!

"Be cool~ Flakes, rejections & Failures are nothing. You LEARN! Finally and finally... i understand what it means to keep improving and keep nothing personally = I nearly weep in joy when i realise that..."

Velvet to add to this......

Life is meant to be lived, enjoyed, explored, fully, truthfully, and in wholeness. But what do we as men do?

We separate from ourselves. Oh yeah, that's right, we separate from ourselves, and when you separate from yourself you can ONLY experience inward pain, and NO external SUCCESS can calm internal pain.

- We separate from ourselves to obtain women, because he TRY to be SOMEBODY ELSE. They analyze another guy, and his methods, and his theories, and they imiate him and strive to be a "Don Juan," what and who the hell is that? Why don't they understand, that THEY are the true Don Juans!

- We separate from ourselves to obtain cash, slaving in a soul destroying job for years, claiming there's no way out, bloney. In TODAY'S ECONOMY, there's more ways out than in! There's more chances to start a business and seminars going that teach you HOW to succeed in business going on today than EVER BEFORE! It's the salaried jobs that are shrinking, the hourly jobs. Why? Because more and more people are starting to realize that Freedom is not just a Positive Speech....it's a REALITY.

I keep telling these folks around here, what's wrong with being you? What's wrong with the natural, pure, YOU.

They tell me, that John, women don't like guys like me, I am this or that, I dont' have a 6 pack, I don't have great looks.

And when I explain to these guys that they stuff doesn't matter anyway, they get pissed off, why?

Because they are separated from themselves. And when my posts, (which all my posts are geared to being guys BACK to themselves), when my posts are put up, the guys that are separated from themselves are pissed off! Well, listen to them scream......

 

[DJF or John]

"John! You have no experience! How could you say that gettign women is natural and very simple and very easy, just be in sexual state? You svck John!"

"John! How dare you tell a guy it's okay to be himself and there's nothing wrong with him? Obviously there's something wrong with him! John do us a favor, stop posting!"

"John I want to straight kick your azz!"

And it goes on and on.

What did Velvet just say? He say strive to be the best YOU.

Wehre does that start? Well, it starts with accepting YOU.

Your soul, your spirit, is the real YOU. Get to know it, get to feel it. Get closer to the God of this world my friends.

Because the question isn't "Who are you?" The question is, "Who's are you?"

You belong to God.

"Wait hold on...what are you talking about John?"

You have life because you have a SOUL. Without a SOUL, you would have no LIFE.

He's given you everything you ever will need in this world on the inside of your soul, but YOU must dig in your soul and pull it out! Guys with no success, have NOT digged on the inside! They keep digging on the outside! Fellows....the treasure is buried DEEP IN THE SEA...not floating on top of the water!!

No, no, no! You will NOT read a tip on this site and go out and become successful with women UNTIL you first become one with your SOUL! It's how the successful PUA takes bits here and bits there and informs himself. Everything is not for everybody....but of course you won't know what's for YOU..if you haven't been in connection with YOU for 5 years!

No, no, no! You will NOT become financially free until you become ONE with your soul! There's tons of business opportunities out here, tons of sales postions, tons of business advice and seminars! But again...again, again. Everything isn't for everybody (or maybe it is, hell the opportunites wont' stop coming to me)....but of course you wont' know what's for YOU if you haven't been with YOU for a lonnnngggg time.

For your soul is YOU...God put all your blessing in that soul...it's deep in there, and only YOU can get in there and get it out! Here's a shovel...on the count of 3...I want you to start diggin...1....2......3!!!

 

[DjVelvet]

In the past, I heard this phrase again and again but yet cannot internalize it and think that it's bull****..


Love yourself before other people love you


I got it now..

I am in love...... with myself =)

 

[DjVelvet]

Oooo my god...

I was reading this my own post today.. And to think i got attached to the wrong woman and got really down.. Where is my determination when I first set up this topic.

Restart~ and go again!