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Confident in face of low IL: Field Report

The_King

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Guys....do not be put off by apparent low IL

Ok, heres the deal. Chick, ring sme up invites me out, I reply, maybe I will join you later ( I was always going to, but can not let her know). Anyway, get there, and Fvck me...she hardly says a word...convo really struggling...so I say

"am like I am going in a minute get back to my uni work"

she expected me to sit there until the end but I have the power of walking away. She then says can you give me a lift home. Thats when I know its on....high IL

Things get heavy in the car. She then says,

"your not my type"

.. I am like "I don't care if I am your type, I am not changing for you"

. I then say

"why are you here then, get out and walk if you want"

. She then replies but

"I feel attracted to you".

I reply" so you should"

I then basically gave her the line of attraction is not a choice, going for abit of the speed seduction vibe. She agrees. I then Fvck her

This is the chick who likes to play games, sayng I she is not intrested in me and that she is a b^tch to me. I just tell her, how can she be playing games, as it does not affect me, I take what I want.

Stay calm, as one post put it confident persistence.
 

stevey_2000

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fair play mate, you did v.well to turn a potential mind game girl into a fvck the same night, this is, indeed, a girl who just wanted you to start crying when she said your not my type but then you showed her you we're no pushover, that is what a DJ would have done BUT i don't agree with telling her to get out and walk (unless with was done with a smile on your face, intending to be humourous).

i need to practice my skills on a girl like this.

Ste.
 

The_King

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It was humourous remark.... the get out and walk then. I knew full well so would not and I would of not let her. It was to reinforce the fact she is in my car and she does not want to leave it.

Here is another thing...she was saying

" I normally go for nice guys, but there is something about you"

LOL....she wants a nice guy but wants me. Point proven to all those AFC's. You AFCs thinking I will change and be nice to her etc, but then comes someone like me or another DJ, who she can not help but feel attraction for....and poor old mr nice guy gets heart broken.

Take note...you have been warned
 

stevey_2000

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she was probably bullsh!tting mate!, girls never go for nice guys unless they have loads of money or low self asteem ;)
 

xblitz44x

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This wasn't a case of low IL. Her IL was high the entire time. The reason that she wasn't talking is because she was intimidated/uncomfortable in front of you. She won't express herself until you make her feel comfortable. You didn't change the way she felt about you, if anything you almost fvcked it up by trying to be a bad ass. Congrats on getting laid, relax with the Vin Diesel costume next time.

-Blitz
 

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"she was probably bullsh!tting mate!, girls never go for nice guys unless they have loads of money or low self asteem"

Nope. You're completely wrong. Women go for jerks when they have low self esteem because that's how they feel they DESERVE to be treated. They think they SHOULD feel like crap, and the jerk does that for them.
 

stevey_2000

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ok, so some/the majority of the low self asteem girls go for the jerks but i personally know a quite a few women who go for the nice guy to have a boost to their confidence (we all know how a nice guy's personality goes, showering the women with gifts/flowers and basically making them feel special) and to take him for every penny he has, women have personally told me this and i have seen them do it to men before my very eyes.

AFC's eh?, DOH!!
 
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