Concerned about a "Dating Tip"

[Cloud-uk]

Hmmmmm, I just got this in my inbox, and I'm unsure about it:

Quote:
"** It Works Like Magic **


Here's what I do and say to a girl when I want to get her number. It
works like magic, yet it's not magic.

If I see a girl I like, whether or not she seems interested in me,
I'll walk right up to her. And it goes like this...


Me:

"Excuse me."

(With eye contact and genuine smile.)

"Hi, my name is Sol (my name)."

(I extend my hand to shake hers. We shake hands and she'll usually
say hi and tell me her name. If not I'll just say, "And your name
is..." And then she'll always fill in the blank with her name.)

"The reason I came over here is because I find you very attractive..."


HER:

"Oh..ah..thank you! (She's blushing as she's thanking me.)


ME:

"...And if you're not already seeing someone, I'd love to take you out
sometime to get to know you better."


HER:

"Oh..wow..Yeah, I'd like that. (Right here they are usually a bit
flustered. Even the really hot girls tend to get a bit clumsy at this
point, haha.)


ME:

"To do that I'll need your number to call you and set things up."


HER:

"Ok!" (Gets out a pen and writes her number down. If she doesn't
have a pen handy I'll offer mine but only after letting her search for
one.)


ME:

"I was nice meeting you "xxxx". I'll give you a call and let you know
what the plans are."


HER:

"It was nice meeting you too, Sol. Bye!".


BAM, it's that simple.

Go up to her and do it. Remember to smile and keep a cool demeanor.

If you let out a slight little laugh to let off the nervousness you
may be feeling, it's all good. She may even find that cute and take
it as a sign that you don't do this to every girl you see. Therefore
you're not a player and she feels special.

Don't worry about messing up.

Who cares if you're nervous or scared. It's ok to be nervous and
scared cause what counts is not whether you're scared, it's whether
you do it. Be nervous and scared while you're talking to her. Be
scared outta your mind if you really want to. Just do it."

Now, there's a few things about this that let off warning bells in my head. Though I think the emphasis my be on the "just do it" aspect, grab your balls and dont stand around beinga tit, I don't like the "I find you very attractive" line. Surely this is giving the woman all the power? I know that she knows I'm talking to her because I find her attractive, (but who knows that you know that I know that she knows what I know? no? ), but surely "I find you attractive!" is like telling a woman you like her, which the other newsletter directly singles out as an instatnt way to kill attraction!

Now, I'm a bit pissed at the moment, so I don't quite know what I'm getting at. Possibly that the two newsletters shouldn't be contradictory. But actually I suspect that the quoted writer ment for his advice to be about "doing something" rather than repeating what he said to the letter.

I dunno about you quys but that just seems like a really bad way to get into a womans pants.

I'm also not too keen on the hinting sugestion she gives him her number. Now I dont mean to bad mouth the author in anyway, well, maybe a little I just want to pick apart what he said, I'm just being analytical. It just seems the emphasis was in the wrong places. Hope this clears(?) this up for any confused newbies that have subscribed to these newsletters. If I've confused you more...well..tough!

 

[ShizamDaMan]

The best way to know if it works is to go out and try it yourself.

 

[es_mer8]

Try it. It probably works. Like many people here say, the DJ Bible is not the only way to get girls. Come back and give us the results.

 

[fragmentor]

TBH so many of these "Dating Tip" type newsletters SUCK.

 

[donshawv]

yeah

i agree with this post. i read that e-mail tip and it smelled like bullsh*t

 

[Smooth as Anything]

I don't like it, but each to their own.

 

[Shadow Dancer]

hahahah

That was my post I submitted sometime last year. Was a trip to see it got put into the Dj tip newsletter. And lucky for you youngins, I've stopped by the high school forum today. First time ever and looky what I find. A thread about my "tip".

So you don't think it works huh? hahah. I've done that countless times. More often than not, I get the info.

You kids need to read between the lines. Pay attention. It's all about confidence. If you've got it, you can say almost anything to a girl and she'll be cool with it. Hell, when girls ask me what I do for a living I tell them I'm a Dolphin Trainer for the local high school. Yeah, a real dolphin trainer. Pretty stupid huh? Sho is! But it doesn't matter. I'm confident in myself and it shows and therefore they just roll with what I say.

Once you get past being an internet Don Juan and actually try things out for yourself, enough times to get a good idea, then you won't need to make posts about what you think will and won't work. You'll already know for yourself.

Are you gonna complain some more or are you going to try something on your own?

*edit*
Ok, so I know what it was like back in HS. Not getting the girls and trying to figure out exactly what needed to be done. I hated it! Anyway, now that I'm older I have much more experience and it's easy. Since I know where you're coming from, if you've got any questions, ask away. But this isn't 20 phucking questions. So first you tell me what YOU'VE done so far and then ask what you like and I'll be glad to help.


-Shadow

 

[fragmentor]

Originally posted by Shadow Dancer
hahahah

That was my post I submitted sometime last year. Was a trip to see it got put into the Dj tip newsletter. And lucky for you youngins, I've stopped by the high school forum today. First time ever and looky what I find. A thread about my "tip".

So you don't think it works huh? hahah. I've done that countless times. More often than not, I get the info.

You kids need to read between the lines. Pay attention. It's all about ......

Wow that wasn't patronising in the slitest