Complimenting girls....

[MikeYikes122]

I have never been exactly sure as to how I want girls to respond to flattery. I always go for the hair and responses are mixed. Sometimes I get nervousness and even blushes. Sometimes I get simple "Thank you's." Sometimes I get enthusiastic "Thank you's." Sometimes I get other crap. What exactly should you be looking for? What do you think some of those mean?

Just a side note: If you learn anything from any of my posts, please learn that the best place to compliment a girl is her hair. If you have any friends that are girls, you'll know they're way concious about hair. And also, hair compliments don't seem out of place at all. My mom tells me that, and it's nice to hear sometimes. If your girl has absolutely awful hair, and you couldn't possibly compliment her on any knew hair do she is sporting, go for how she is dressing or how tan she is or something. DO NOT say something cheap and contrived like. "Your eyes are so beautiful." Only say this if it's really necessary. Otherwise, you'll come off looking sappy and weird and stuff.... Unfortunately, I know from experience....

 

[KiInCollege]

When I approach, I avoid complimenting completely early on. It's a sign of insecurity. Some guys may be able to get away with it, but I'd rather focus on just talking to her about other things.

An exception is if you are C&F with the early compliment - more like a neg. hit. Or if you're a smooth talker...for example.

Man: Hey. I like your hair.

Woman: Uh, thanks...

Gay.

Man: Hey, I noticed your long hair. Thought I'd come over here.

Woman: Oh, hehe, wassup to you, too.

Much better.

 

[MikeYikes122]

hmm I see, but I have never really used it in either of those contexts I guess. But I will take heed. I mean like a girl I know or am friends with or am acquainted with or am kind of seeing or a girl I want. You get the idea. It's never really a conversation starter. I always know the girl

 

[Shiftkey]

It's generally best to compliment girls on things they have control over. When you compliment a girl's hair, you're really complimenting her on her taste and the effort she went through to make it look better. That's why complimenting a girl on her eyes usually isn't as effective - you can't do a lot to your eyes and other body parts. It's also best to compliment sparingly - it makes the compliment seem more genuine, which it should be anyway.

 

[Jay26]

I think compliments are great, if you use them sparingly and if you're sincere. People like compliments and girls in particular often need to be complimented, doesn't cost anything to give one and I've yet to get a negative response, but don't go overboard or all mushy.

 

[xblitz44x]

You're thinking too hard about this one. Say whatever you want. Period. If you like her hair then say it. If you like her outfit then tell her. There isn't shame in it. You're saying what you want to say, when you want to say it. You're doing it not because you are trying to get approval but because you feel like speaking your mind. Jay26 said it, sincerity is huge.

-Blitz

 

[davelmn2003]

do girls like to hear "I see that you've got some healthy sun tan"?

 

[OddTech]

Word up to most of the repliers here. Also, one of the things that I avoid "complimenting" is the body. It's hard to say how secure girls are with their physique. On the other hand, one of my favorite aspect to compliment is fashion. Most girls like to be acknowledged that they have good fashion sense.

 

[HappyHobo]

PLEASE RETUEN TO HIGH SCHOOL FORUM

Originally posted by MikeYikes122
Just a side note: If you learn anything from any of my posts, please learn that the best place to compliment a girl is her hair.

If thats the best thing we will learn from your posts i dont think im going to bother reading anything you post anymore

that is pure lame and afcish.... why dont you stop worrying about complimenting girls and start getting motivated about getting compliments from girls ... Who the hell cares how you compliment girls ... all a compliment needs is to be authentic and nothing more ... it doesnt matter WHERE you are complimenting just HOW you are complimenting!!! and that big HOW is authenticity (An honest compliment) Need i say more?

 

[Mazman]

This happened to me recently. It's not exactly what you where looking for though, but thought I'd share.

I had a suit on that night. This woman, who typically just sees me in casual clothes, complemented me.

Her: "You look very sharp tonight. You're looking good in that suit."

Me: "Thanks. And you, as usual, look lovely tonight."

Her: "Oh you're just saying that. I just came back from the gym"

She was wearing sweat pants and a t-shirt.

Me: "No I'm not. It doesn't matter what you're wearing. All you need is that wonderful smile of yours."

She blushed and gave me a big smile.

BTW-She's very cute and does have a great smile.

 

[vdk]

Its how the compliment is said that counts. If you act nervous, she will know. When I compliment, I hold eye contact, never look down and she her reaction. 7/10 times they act nervous. The key is to act indifferent and not like some servant complimenting a king.

 

[MikeYikes122]

Re: PLEASE RETUEN TO HIGH SCHOOL FORUM

Originally posted by HappyHobo
If thats the best thing we will learn from your posts i dont think im going to bother reading anything you post anymore

that is pure lame and afcish.... why dont you stop worrying about complimenting girls and start getting motivated about getting compliments from girls ... Who the hell cares how you compliment girls ... all a compliment needs is to be authentic and nothing more ... it doesnt matter WHERE you are complimenting just HOW you are complimenting!!! and that big HOW is authenticity (An honest compliment) Need i say more?

Shutup, then don't read my posts... I read an article on here about how the hair was the best place to compliment AFTER I posted that. Go find it, and then go back to high school.

I like how none of you guys even answered my question. You all gave me advice about how to compliment. Jesus christ I know how to fvckin compliment. Everyone on this website has this problem of looking way way too far into things.

Here is an analogy

I work at a grocery store. Someone walks up to me and asks me where the bug spray is. Instead of simply telling them where it is I decide to explain to them how to use it, where it is is best used, and how long it will last. Granted, this may be helpful to someone. But usually, if this person is buying bug spray they know how to use it. I'M NOT FRIGGIN HELPING THEM.

I think there are certain people here who just get off on telling people what to do. Out of all you that responded maybe two of you responded to the actual question at hand. This is the general trend of people on this message board.

Don't get me wrong, this website is great. I thought I had girls figured out a month ago. I thought you were all losers. But boy was there some stuff I still had unanswered questions on.

The website is great, but this forum is often a joke. You all are probably going to flame me to hell, and frankly I don't care. You're probably going to say "If you don't like it, then don't post on here anymore." Which is probably the advice I'm going to follow.

 

[Mazman]

Each girl will respond differently. You've experienced that.

You're giving a complement to let her know you notice her. This is the main reason for the complement. And she will get this message.

"I have never been exactly sure as to how I want girls to respond to flattery. "

I'm a bit curious to this comment. How you want the girls to respond? Most people will say "thank you", it's pretty much a given.

"What exactly should you be looking for? What do you think some of those mean?"

I don't look for anything. They mean exactly what they say. I think you're trying to over analyze it.

It also depends on the context. If I walk up to some stranger and tell her "Your hair looks great..." I'll probably get a "um...thanks."

If I'm already talking to a girl and mention something about her hair, I'm sure I wouldn't get a quick "thank you".

 

[Cremasta]

I prefer to compliment on their clothes.

But if its a girl you see fairly regularly, they generally respond well if you notice something about them is different or if they have changed something. Doesn't really matter what... had their hair cut, eyebrows waxed, different colour nailpolish, etc... You don't even have to be all that complimentary, just that you noticed it and follow up with a simple "looks nice".

It's hard to say what kind of response you should be looking for as it will depend on the girl. I think if I get a smile that isn't a "hurry up and take the bloody picture" smile, but a real one, then I am on the right track. What they say is probably not so important.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Compliments AREN'T afc, only if you say them wrong. If you compliment just make sure it is sincere, and you mean it, and don't compliment on something she has heard a million times. The best thing to compliment would be something which she put a lot of time and effort into because she can instantly start conversation about it with you w/o thinking twice, and it shows that you notice little things so all her work wasn't for nothing

So complimenting her on her makeup would be a good one because she probably spent 15-30 minutes getting it correct, same goes for hair that is why it is a good compliment

Try not to open chicks with compliments because unless it is real sincere, it can make you look like a stalker. Use it when the chick is feeling/looking a little down to brighten her day.

 

[princelydeeds]

When I compliment I tend to be a tad dramatic with it. I compliment in the over doing it sense. I intentionally want to give off a slight, emphasis on the word slight, impression that I compliment and try to flatter all the ladies. So I say it in a nice, pleasant, but sappy, full of BS kind of manner. I will say something like, "Wow you are so pretty I bet you break a lot of hearts. Im scared because im senstive and I wouldn't want you to hurt me like you do all those otehr guys." I change my intonation to sound a little sappy, but I do it in such a manner as to get a is he full of BS or is he serious thought.

I find it brings women into me and makes them focus on what Im saying, trying to figure me out usually takes all night. Usually their response is im not a heartbreaker blah blah blah or they say oh u are so full of bs stop playing, but they are laughing while saying it. If they give me the laughing ur full of bs line, I turn it around and say so are you telling me you dont get alot of attention and alot of guys dont try to talk to you? Chicks love to talk about themselves and the guys that they reject, this gives me another 30 minutes of convo easy.

 

[KiInCollege]

Right, Princelydeeds. Be C&F or time that compliment perfectly. Be sincere, but also don't sound like you're supplicating.

Even if you've already established a relationship, you don't want to say something that may sound out of place just because you feel you should.

 

[Bonhomme]

Complementing on clothes is great

Also, complementing on something others aren't likely to notice. If it's for real and you have something to go on. For example, complementing a stunningly beautiful woman for a very interesting chat, or for being very friendly, warm, and nice.

If you can do itin a somewhat ****y and funny way, all the better, but that takes skill, appropriateness, and/or subtlety. Don't try too hard to be clever. Much better to just play it cool than overdo it and come across as a dork.

One that worked reall good for me was telling a real hot rocker chick she has the cutest little overbite.