Communicating That I Live With My Parents

[mastersylar]

Hey, I just graduated from college and looking for a job and I am living with my parents. I am 24. I was wondering if this is a big deal when talking girls? I mean I have two degrees and it is only a matter of time before I find a job and I should be making over 40000 by next year.

 

[kdnash82]

Stop worrying about what you have and don't have. If a girl is worried about those things, then you don't want her in the first place. She's shallow and deserves have bricks thrown at her.

Also, this is the last thing you should be talking to girls about in converstations. Unless she asks you a specific question regarding what you have and don't have, should you even answer. If she is a shallow tramp that asks these questions direct, either turn it around with c/f or drop the rat completely.

Most girls will stay away from these things anyway. As far as living with your parents. If they don't have a problem with you bringing girls over, then I don't see the big deal. When I was still in high school I would bring girls over all the time. We usually always sat in the living room watching tv anyway, and my parents would always give us our privacy. If I wanted more, I would simply go to my bedroom. Me and my family had an understanding that I wouldn't do anything while they were around and this made my girl more comfortable so that when I did wanna break those rules it wasn't a big deal.

 

[Interceptor]

Nothing to worry about as long as you have a clean, nice car, and have money for a hotel. I assume you have good hygene, and are well groomed, correct?
Always remember, it's not purely about the money or house or car...it's about how you make the woman FEEL.

 

[lYlasTer]

it dosen't matter if she's attracted to you. if I were you though I'd speed up the job search and get a bachelor pad asap!

 

[Gangster Of Love]

All the gents who have responded above are right.

It is no big deal, unless you either make it, allow it, or she has an agenda. Don't worry about it. If you are in a situation where you feel you need to adress the issue, you can say "I live with my parents, and I am able to do it because I do have my privacy", but you're better off not even getting into it.

If she is your age, and/or younger, she will usually also be living at home. Cost of living is expensive overall. The more she is into you, the less she will want to ask or put you in a situation where she comes off as judging you.

 

[mastersylar]

Thanks for the advice. I don't feel like it is a big deal now. I think I could always go to her place. If she lives with her parents, I could always take her back to my place. I still have my privacy.

 

[blueguy]

Sometimes I wish I still lived with my parents.

Why?

Because I have known several guys, poor, 30-35, who lived with their parents and scored good poon. Living with mommy/family, it covertly communicated to the girl that this guy is moldable, not a player and is interested in a long-term relationship -- potentially marriage. And that's how they all played it. Much different than the average guy she is used to.

A couple of these guys actually did get married. But the others who knew what was going on just ended the relationship once they got bored.

So yea, she thinks marriage is in the works. Of course, once you get bored after a month or two, you can end it,... it's time for the next girl.

So make it work FOR you. Because it can.

 

[Monster]

Get your own place as soon as you can. Not for the girls but for yourself. I recently due to certain circumstances had to move back home after living on my own for a couple years and let me tell you, I cannot wait till I improve monetary situation so I can leave. It's just something about the independence and that is really great.

 

[theunflushables]

^^^ Agreed generally unless the topic comes up, I wont admit to living at home. And if it does I tell them its not something I want to do but do to my situation a neccesity and I will soon be out.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

^^^ Agreed generally unless the topic comes up, I wont admit to living at home. And if it does I tell them its not something I want to do but do to my situation a neccesity and I will soon be out.

Disagree. If you are living at home, you can say you'll be moving out but don't turn it negative. Don't start apologizing, qualifying yourself to her when most likely she won't even be thinking of that on her own.

It is always better when she knows you could move out but choose not to than the fact that you can't stand your parents and the living situation, yet you have to. It is always better to come from the frame of "I do it because I want, not because I have to."

Yes, if you want, and you can, by all means, it is always better to do your own thing. So do plan for that.

 

[JDA70]

If she asks you " where do you live?" you say
"Right here in Louisville, Ky"
Then if she says "No I mean do you live on your own?"
or anything like that.

This is a really good time to use C&F or tease her.
Like this ... " What? We just meet and now you wanna know where I live?"
What next? Buy me a bunch of drinks and then try and take me home and seduce me?"
"Women, their all the same."
Make sure you smile and let her know your just playing around.

After that you can say something like " Why do you ask?"

If she says " I was just wondering"
Then be honest and tell her your staying at home
untill you get a job so you can live on your own.

Now if she says something like " you don't still live at home do you?"
that's when you need to step up and not worry about making her mad
and say..."Why? Do you have a problem with people living with their parents?"

If she has this belief that living with your parents makes you a loser
then shes just a b1tch and you should ignore her and move on.

 

[zerocelcius]

I almost posted DON'T tell her. I almost posted Get some buddies and move in together some where fast.

BUT than it hit me...

You said you just graduated.... do you still have friends in the dorms?

JK

Go with the C/F approach and don't tell her unless that is where you two are headed.

Than if you want a relationship from her you are going to have to move out.

 

[reset]

You can communicate anything you want when you don't put your identity and self-worth in the hands of another human being.

 

[theunflushables]

It is always better when she knows you could move out but choose not to than the fact that you can't stand your parents and the living situation, yet you have to. It is always better to come from the frame of "I do it because I want, not because I have to."

I'm going to have to disagree. If you choose to stay when you could move out on your own that pretty much makes you a momma's boy and we al know how many women like that. But don't take my word for it, go read Luke Skywalker's quest to get laid thread.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I'm going to have to disagree. If you choose to stay when you could move out on your own that pretty much makes you a momma's boy and we al know how many women like that. But don't take my word for it, go read Luke Skywalker's quest to get laid thread.

Let's face it. Luke Skywalker's issues have more to do with everything else about him a lot more than just being a mama's boy. That kid is clueless.

I do agree, somewhat, the wording came out wrong. The point is, it is much worse to be in a situation and not being able to do anything about it than to be totally ok with being with your parents and have the option of moving out.

There are plenty of mama's boys who know how to handle themselves and have plenty of women. There are mama's boys who women are repelled by. There are plenty of guys living with their roomate who are so frustrated (we have a bunch here), etc.

The point is, women are so adaptable, if they are attracted, they will rationalize as the guy having a great relationship with his mom. If they are not attracted to him, because he's a wuss, or any other type of lesser guy in her eyes, she will look for the first thing she can blame it on. Who cares?

reset said it best in his post above.

 

[theunflushables]

That is true, but I think if Luke was to stop suckling off his mom's teat and move out, maybe some of his other issues would drop away. But that it is a big maybe.

And I see your point about being in a situation that you can't change.

Damnit there I go with my liberal flip-flopping again.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Did you see that **** Cheney video? He must be a big time liberal. Anyway, I'll stop before they shut down this thread.


Haha, he is such a flip-floper that his first name gets censored here.

 

[theunflushables]

haha **** Cheney :crackup: