Commitment/Crucial step!!

[Rainman4707]

I've been seeing a HB7 for 10 weeks now. I like her. She's the best gal I've met in the last 18 months

Now my main way of meeting women is through POF because I work 60 hours a week. I am reluctant to go on that site now as HB7’s friends are on there so theres a good chance I would get caught out. In an ideal world I would continue to go on POF..spin plates & keep seeing HB7, but don’t want to spoil things with her by getting caught out as I have been seeing her for 10 weeks

I feel like I’m in a relationship, just that it hasn’t been confirmed. I am reluctant to propose to her the thought of becoming official because I read on here that I should wait for her to ask me about becoming official with her so I don’t come across as too keen right? Should I suggest becoming official?

I’ve only fu*ked her once..i just wondered what you guys would make of this. Opinions would be appreciated. I realise this is a crucial step! Hmm how will I tell her lol think am just going to text her something along the lines of “I’ve had a few lasses enquiring about meeting up with me, but obviously i'm seeing you so I wont see other lasses if you don’t see other lads??” I’ll have to be very careful what I say in my text to her pmsl

My opinion is i think it’s worth a shot my fellow don juan’s

 

[trent_afc]

I've been seeing a HB7 for 10 weeks now...
I feel like I’m in a relationship, just that it hasn’t been confirmed... Should I suggest becoming official? ... I’ve only fu*ked her once..

I must be missing something.

 

[papawapa]

keep seeing her and wait for her to bring it up. if she is into you she will.

dont worry about getting busted out by her friends. the two of you arent exclusive. keep spinning plates.

 

[El Payaso]

Seeing for almost three months and only f*cked her once? Hmmm....

 

[SingleMalt]

I've been seeing a HB7 for 10 weeks now. I like her. She's the best gal I've met in the last 18 months

I’ve only fu*ked her once..i just wondered what you guys would make of this.

My opinion is i think it’s worth a shot my fellow don juan’s

Are you listening to yourself? If this is your track record non-exclusive, brother you ought to be worried.

 

[Rainman4707]

Thought about it & I think I'd rather be with her than spin plates

 

[papawapa]

You facked her once in ten weeks. One of two things is going on...

A. She is repressed sexually
B. She is getting c0ck elsewhere

Either way, why do you consider a woman that is not facking you regularly as relationship worthy?

 

[Rainman4707]

You facked her once in ten weeks. One of two things is going on...

A. She is repressed sexually
B. She is getting c0ck elsewhere

Either way, why do you consider a woman that is not facking you regularly as relationship worthy?

She probs viewed me as boyfriend material so didn't want to spoil things.


Anyway. Thanks for the feedback. Always helpful
Maybe sometimes I think I'm correct when I'm not.
You guys are probs right. I enjoy sharing on here. It is difficult to
think of something to return the favour & help all you guys out.

I know where you guys are coming from. I read Rollo Tomassi's post
"Plate spinning" & the girl would know from the offset that he was spinning plates.

Is it such a bad thing to commit to one girl? I also think that the person in the situation who knows all the details has a lot more of an idea what is going
on. I feel as though I have spent to much time on this matter already =)

I understand spinning plates, but if I apply this she might tell me to get lost!
If she was interested enough she is the one to propose becoming official right, but then again after reading a few threads over the past couple of days some guys on here have took the red pill & seem to be against marriage (the idea of reaching out to a woman i.e going down on one knee & proposing) Once again I can understand how this makes a male more elusive/attractive/unavailable..a challenge =)

My number one goal in life is to replicate.

One more thing in my mind is that I don't think I was very good in bed with her & after all i have only fu*ked her once so I do realise that it is to early to enter a LTR. I don't want to risk losing her by spinning plates though hmmm

Just my thoughts

 

[DragonBlood]

think am just going to text her something along the lines of “I’ve had a few lasses enquiring about meeting up with me, but obviously i'm seeing you so I wont see other lasses if you don’t see other lads??”

You want to ask her for a relationship via text???? This is some weak ass BS.


“I’ve had a few lasses enquiring about meeting up with me, but obviously i'm seeing you so I wont see other lasses if you don’t see other lads??”


My Translation.


"Im lying about the few lasses bit to make you jealous, and to be honest Im scared you wont take the second part seriously... which is be my girlfriend PLEASE. p.s. DONT CHEAT ON ME BISH IM NEW TO THIS"



really bro?



If your goal in life is to replicate then you dont need ONE girl.


It seems you understand the content well but as you move towards these relationship ideas your giving away your power and asking more and more if things are OK with her. "I don't want to risk losing her by spinning plates though hmmm" Who is the PRIZE here??


My recommendation? Have a cold shower NOW and delete the word relationship from your vocabulary unless your discussing engineering, soldering or chemical reactions.

 

[dasein]

My number one goal in life is to replicate.

Ah, just go ahead and propose marriage then, ten weeks, one f-ck... time's a wastin, get replicating!

 

[Rainman4707]

You want to ask her for a relationship via text???? This is some weak ass BS.


“I’ve had a few lasses enquiring about meeting up with me, but obviously i'm seeing you so I wont see other lasses if you don’t see other lads??”


My Translation.


"Im lying about the few lasses bit to make you jealous, and to be honest Im scared you wont take the second part seriously... which is be my girlfriend PLEASE. p.s. DONT CHEAT ON ME BISH IM NEW TO THIS"



really bro?



If your goal in life is to replicate then you dont need ONE girl.


It seems you understand the content well but as you move towards these relationship ideas your giving away your power and asking more and more if things are OK with her. "I don't want to risk losing her by spinning plates though hmmm" Who is the PRIZE here??


My recommendation? Have a cold shower NOW and delete the word relationship from your vocabulary unless your discussing engineering, soldering or chemical reactions.

Appreciate the advice bro.

Text her two & a half hours ago :-

Rainman :- Hi HB7. I've had oppurtunities this last week to see other women, but didn't because I'm seeing you. I wont hook up with other women if you don't hook up with other lads & we can see how we go?? x

HB7 :- Ok yeah see how things go =) x


Yeah really. We're getting on well so why not give it a go?

I'll still probs play about with other women without her finding out

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Edit: (That was too harsh, and you'll probably miss the meaning.)

You want to ask her for a relationship via text???? This is some weak ass BS.....

If your goal in life is to replicate then you dont need ONE girl....

My recommendation? Have a cold shower NOW and delete the word relationship from your vocabulary...

Good advice here IMO, it seems like you thought the same....

Appreciate the advice bro.

Then why did you go ahead and do the exact opposite?

Text her two & a half hours ago :-

Rainman :- Hi HB7. I've had oppurtunities this last week to see other women, but didn't because I'm seeing you. I wont hook up with other women if you don't hook up with other lads & we can see how we go?? x

HB7 :- Ok yeah see how things go =) x

holey lord.

 

[VladPatton]

I dunno, man, 10 weeks, one bang, that's not so great. A chick that is into you sexually would tend to be a little more turned on and want to have more fun. I wouldn't worry about her being girlfriend material just yet. Spin some more plates and see where this one goes.

If you find a girl that'll bang you 9 ways till Sunday 3 times a day, I guarantee you you'll forget about this girl faster than you can change a rubber!

 

[DragonBlood]

No problem sounds like your doing just fine on your own.

I would definitely keep an eye out for some one more eager at the same time. She might start investing more while you spin for better girls. This is quickly becoming win win. keep it up!

 

[lexa]

say "so are we suppose to be seeing other people?"

 

[Rainman4707]

Then why did you go ahead and do the exact opposite?

Texted her before I read Dragonbloods post.

It's done now. I think the reason I done it for was because I felt we had a good thing going & felt as though I couldn't spin plates as my main way of interacting with chicks was POF & her friends are on there.

I hear what Dragonblood & Vlad are saying & they are probs correct as I also FEEL as though I need to spin plates.

I think i'll keep seeing other woman, but she is my number 1 unless I find better.

Realise I probs aint made much sense, but these have been my thoughts wrote down.

She texted me 2 hours ago asking what I'm up to tomorrow night? I'm not going to reply as I'd rather her not know.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Texted her before I read Dragonbloods post.

Gotcha, I see that now. My bad.

That's good that you're going after other plates, but I'd also try that whole sex thing again with your #1. Go for round two. First times don't always go that smoothly, maybe it will be better this time, and become a recurring thing.