Luke Skywalker
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I'm making this off-shoot thread from my bootcamp dealing with building confidence using vocubulary - or the belief that having certain 'words' will help with tone, confidence, or what not given it's authoritative content.
For example, if number closing, instead of saying in a timid way, "can I have your number", it would be easier and more confident if you walked a way and said "Oh, BTW, I almost forgot [contact-close]"
Espi, put an example of starting some statement with "You know..." as a bit of a cue in.
The Game books says, when introducing a topic to girls in convo, to appear more natural always start it with "my friends were having a discussion about this, and I wonder what you think", or "I watched a TV show on this last night, etc..." and introduce topic.
Sort of some buffer concept, but I cant put my finger on it.
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So, how to convey confidence with vocubulary -- let's face it, we can be very confident when we have a structured frame.
I know I can confidently approach any hb and ask her if she's finished with a machien - because that 'content of speech' has enough confidence in it to carry through.
Anyway, maybe I"m not getting through with what I'm trying to say -- but I'm sort of brainstorming ways of making it easier to approach women with some voculbary aids. I know the 'by the way' aid sounds like a good cue on, can anyone think of any others?
For example, if number closing, instead of saying in a timid way, "can I have your number", it would be easier and more confident if you walked a way and said "Oh, BTW, I almost forgot [contact-close]"
Espi, put an example of starting some statement with "You know..." as a bit of a cue in.
The Game books says, when introducing a topic to girls in convo, to appear more natural always start it with "my friends were having a discussion about this, and I wonder what you think", or "I watched a TV show on this last night, etc..." and introduce topic.
Sort of some buffer concept, but I cant put my finger on it.
**********
So, how to convey confidence with vocubulary -- let's face it, we can be very confident when we have a structured frame.
I know I can confidently approach any hb and ask her if she's finished with a machien - because that 'content of speech' has enough confidence in it to carry through.
Anyway, maybe I"m not getting through with what I'm trying to say -- but I'm sort of brainstorming ways of making it easier to approach women with some voculbary aids. I know the 'by the way' aid sounds like a good cue on, can anyone think of any others?