college student in trouble.

Thorns

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Hey this is more of a "Any ideas on how to deal with this?" Thread than any whiny complaint cr@p.

So I have been diagnosed with severe depression and am bipolar (or however you announce that). I'm 19 and went up North for a semester of college (Freshman) though I never really fit in with the whole crowd. When I came back for winter break my parents (divorced don't see dad, so I mean stepfather) had basically decided that I should move back here (CA) and go to this community college.
Since then my mother has been using her psychological guilt control over me (start at age 7) to make me do what she wants. My step father has to be gone most of the time but he always tries to be the one no one hates. My siblings are coming back now (I'm oldest of four) and I know that I'm the black sheep in the family so that is going to be more reason for my mother to use me as the scape goat.
I've thought about moving out but I can't support myself out here and I have personal responsibilities to tie me to the house. My mother also loves to try and control every aspect of my life, and counters me with some form of reasonable guilt trip (She and my step father/sisters all have learning disabilities, bizarre migraine trouble and a huge host of other medical phenomena).
So any thoughts that might help? I decided to turn to this site because you guys have helped me so very much in the past (Especially getting an 8 gf that can't get enough of me. Though that's not going well either because of all my home issues...)
Anything would help, sorry it's so long and b1tchy.
 

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You shouldn't let your mother influence you. Are they paying for your college tuition?
 

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your mother can decide whatever she wants if she's paying for your college. If you really think she's wrong to make you go to a local college instead, explain to her why (in financial terms) and convince her, or come up with enough loans to pay for it yourself. Why does she want you back? Is she just crazy, or are you blowing off school and wasting your parent's money at some distant college?
 

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Tough spot to be in bro, California isn't cheap.

I would suggest trying an out of state school, are you exceptional in anything? Scholarships are plentiful, and if you're in a "rare" major (Engineering, Science based) they want you to have the money. However, avoid student loans.

As far as the depression/bipolar issue, treatment can be costly. Your school should have something/some one that can help you deal with it.

Best luck to ya.
 

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If your mother tries to control you like that move out at ANY cost! Even if it means getting a job and finishing college later, it will be worth it. This is no different to having negative friends who hold you back.
 

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your first priority has to be getting your schooling done.

get a degree, get a good job and you will never have to listen to anyone ever again in life.

you need to FOCUS on school. it has to more important than anything.

pick a good profession.
get good grades.
try to get summer jobs in your field so you can get experience.
network with anyone and everyone related to your field.

don't think short term. think long term - ask yourself where you want to be in 2,4,6 years down the road and then work towards getting there.
 

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Pimp101 said:
If your mother tries to control you like that move out at ANY cost! Even if it means getting a job and finishing college later, it will be worth it. This is no different to having negative friends who hold you back.
i disagree with letting your mom cause you to delay college.

i don't have any suggestions on how to deal with her, but surely someone must have written a book on this subject.

[goes and looks on amazon]

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_g...aps&field-keywords=controlling+mother&x=0&y=0


there you go, tons of books on this subject.
 
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