College Post:Respect

[Heyjose25points]

Hi Sosuavers. College has been great. I know alot of people on campus, can't remember their names . I Know alot of people in my resident halls. Know alot of girls. But I got one problem on my mind, Respect. It seems like I always seem lower compared to my dorm mates on my floor, for some reason, like I can't be taken seriously. I think I have real confidence now, But it seems like I still get teased/picked on(in a soft manner) by my dorm mates. Its funny, but at the same time, I feel like a little kid compared to them. I don't know what it is, it just seems like no matter where i go, I'm always the guy who they treat like "hey XXXXX, its aright, don't worry." "XXXXX, pass the ball". I just feel like they don't treat me as their equal or somethin subconsciously. I even got pissed of about it, when one of them told me to Shut Up when they were playing Halo. They saw that and apologized. But its still happening. What should I do? I wanna be treated as their equal. i am an outgoing guy who likes to say hi to everyone. And finally am accepting my new extrovert personality. But what could I do to show that with the Outgoing person, yet deserved to not be lower than them?

NOTE: I aint muscular, but im of medium build if u want to know what i look like, and am around 5'11.

ANOTHER NOTE: This has subconsciously happened all throughout School. Starting with elementary school.

I just want to know how to stop being treated as a lil kid compared to them.
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Plus, Thank You So Suave for the pre-college info. some of it was bull **** on how easy it was to get laid to hot chicks, but its possible tho. !

 

[Dapper Swindler]

What do you think is the reason people treat you like this?

 

[AlwaysExcel]

Your question is broader than seduction and is about social dynamics. I feel you because I struggle with the same issues. I used to resent my friends who were more dominant, natural, and socially successful than me. I avoided going out with them when I wanted to practice seduction. That is until I realized what a great opportunity friends like these are.

Describing stuff on the internet is limited. Body language, voice tone, and attitude are hard to convey through written words. These dominat friends are a wealth of social info! You get a first hand demonstration of alpha behavior. Instead of focusing on your status vs. theirs and feeling bad about it, watch how they interact and carry themselves. Try to identify which things they do to convey their dominance. Even ask them why they do specific things (don't tell them you've been watching them, trying to figure out their alpha ways though). Sometimes they'll be half aware of what they do and why. Then model them and adapt these things to your own personal style.

You can also check out the advice given by the Real Social Dynamics crew, notably TylerDurden, on www.fastseduction.com These guys have social commentary mixed with seduction commentary. A lot of people here don't like that site because there's a lot of jargon, analyzing, and a focus on techniques. I've really been digging it lately though. Once you get past the sucky layout and the jargon, the social theory is fvcking amazing and well thought out.

And contrary to popular belief, they do put a lot of stock into inner game like this site preaches. Except this site doesn't go far enough imho. I had a super interesting life that I love, and then I would find myself under social pressure when I encountered women and BAM! back to AFCland. Inner game is NOT just about improving every other aspect of your life. You must confront the fear where it lives. That means FIELD EXPERIENCE!!!

 

[Don_Marko]

Originally posted by AlwaysExcel
You can also check out the advice given by the Real Social Dynamics crew, notably TylerDurden, on www.fastseduction.com These guys have social commentary mixed with seduction commentary. A lot of people here don't like that site because there's a lot of jargon, analyzing, and a focus on techniques. I've really been digging it lately though. Once you get past the sucky layout and the jargon, the social theory is fvcking amazing and well thought out.

And contrary to popular belief, they do put a lot of stock into inner game like this site preaches. Except this site doesn't go far enough imho. I had a super interesting life that I love, and then I would find myself under social pressure when I encountered women and BAM! back to AFCland. Inner game is NOT just about improving every other aspect of your life. You must confront the fear where it lives. That means FIELD EXPERIENCE!!!

Yeah bro... although we are hijacking the topic I must give props to this.
ASF takes you to another level and TD could probabbly earn a PhD in psychology with all the knowledge there.

 

[AlwaysExcel]

Word. Cool to hear from you again Don Marko!

 

[Dukester]

a true DJ doesnt let that shiz nit bother him, and he lets it roll off his back

but, since your a DJ in training, do this:

let them know you dont wanna be treated like crap. stand up to yourself, and let them know who's boss. dont take crap from other- just dont get in n e fights!

 

[Revolution_AM]

It's tough to get past preestablished social roles the people around you have set up. Like all those geeks in HS who the summer before college hit the mall and totally redo their look and turn themselves into whatever they want.

I'd say get a new set of friends and spend as little time around the dorm as possible. Get out and do stuff. Get into clubs (the cool ones, chess club will not get you far). First, that'll keep you away from their stupid remarks, and it'll show everyone that you're too important to just hang around the same old place. Which creates interest on the part of the ladies, and respect on the part of the guys.