Cold approaching in the gym, feedback pls!

[tomwesten27]

I know this has been talked about many times but I started up at a new LA Fitness. It happens to be in a very popular area of Los Angeles so no matter what time I go its PACKED with hot girls.

I am obviously there to keep myself in great shape but the distractions recently have been insane. The outfits these girls wear....and the stretching, and the bending over, drives me insane haha.

I approached a few being friendly (not hitting on them) and when I bump into them often they always say hello and talk about random crap.

The few I did try hitting on lightly and being flirty with always either have boyfriends, or just not interested.

Is the gym a numbers game? I feel most women in there are just there for attention. Is the gym NOT a place to just not pick up women?

I always have this thought that if I don't approach a girl in the gym that I am attracted too I could be missing my opportunity.

What do you guys think? Please school me. :crazy:

 

[MOTU]

Really tough place to open girls IMO

Agreed, and you have to be really ripped because the competition is fierce. I do think women like to be ogled a bit at the gym, but the pool of regulars is probably smaller than you think and you don't want to be labeled a troll.

Best bet is to be friendly, smile and make eye contact then hope you see them out somewhere and open with "don't we go to the same gym?"

 

[Thorninmyside]

When I go to the gym I don't talk to a soul and don't want to be spoken to either. Maybe it's a culture difference because Americans seem to talk more about picking up at the gym than over here in Australia.

 

[VladPatton]

Gyms are hard. It just screams "I came here to get hot chicks".

 

[Ray S]

You don't want to start creeping chicks out in your local gym. Start off with general gym chat then make your move. When you go up and start talking to her she going to know what up.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

lol, it can be easier than clubs. Although you have to be smart, since you might get into trouble if you have club approach. If you frequently go to the gym at the same time than a certain girl it's super easy. Although you have to be indirect, and you can do a gradual approach spreading your action for several days.

For instance, if she is using a machine or a certain weight you "need" you can ask her to take turns with you. When you run with her the next time, you can just say hi, because she'll remember you.... Another time you can start jokingly complaining to her about how tough gym is...

Things like this, of course doing all the work in one session is not appropriate and probably won't work... I now speak to a few girls in the gym because of stuff like this. Guys who are "naturals" speaking to every person they meet, do things like this without even thinking...

In addition, if you are out of college, it would be very silly to disregard gym because it's the next place you have to meet hot young chicks (besides clubs). Gym is like another "school" and the environment can be quite familiar.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

I know this has been talked about many times but I started up at a new LA Fitness. It happens to be in a very popular area of Los Angeles so no matter what time I go its PACKED with hot girls.

I am obviously there to keep myself in great shape but the distractions recently have been insane. The outfits these girls wear....and the stretching, and the bending over, drives me insane haha.

I approached a few being friendly (not hitting on them) and when I bump into them often they always say hello and talk about random crap.

The few I did try hitting on lightly and being flirty with always either have boyfriends, or just not interested.

Is the gym a numbers game? I feel most women in there are just there for attention. Is the gym NOT a place to just not pick up women?

I always have this thought that if I don't approach a girl in the gym that I am attracted too I could be missing my opportunity.

What do you guys think? Please school me. :crazy:

I guess that's why Randy Newman said in his famous song "Look at these women, ain't nothing like them nowhere", the gym I work out at now is Gold's Gym, I used to go to L.A. Fitness before, maybe I should switch back or go to 24 Hour Fitness, lol

 

[tomwesten27]

I agree with all of you. It is a tough place to pick up one on the first try on a cold approach.

Not to boast or sound like "mr ****y" but I am in extremely good shape. Been working out for 10 years and I'm 27 now.

I do agree that being friendly, smiling, asking to share equipment etc is a great "in" so to speak.

A great example was today a girl was having trouble changing the weights because the handle was stuck, so I went over and helped her out, and she ended up laughing with me and we had small talk. I didn't say "WHATS YOUR NUMBER!!!!?" haha but I did get her name. So next time I bump into her ill go over and be friendly and see what happens. I guess the gym is a long game type of deal?

On a side note, these girls out here in LA are so hot its insane. This latin chick today was wearing those TIGHT black spandex pants and she had a NICE ASS with her little blue belly shirt on. OF COURSE she has to use the exercise ball on her stomach in front of where I was lifting....LOL I was dying.

Anyway, any more experience stories in the gym would be great, keep um coming thanks!

 

[JdelaSilviera]

I was actually recently "approached" by a girl in the gym. The girl kept staring at me all the time, and at the end of the training when I was doing cardio with all the machines free, she came exactly to my side... and then it was pretty clear her intentions, now I have her number.

Women also do things like this... I would say that, gym is another kind of game, if you are going completely direct the result will be a disaster. But with a gradual approach your good to go. Gym has also the advantage of getting new people every year. It's really a second "school"/college, and you are no stranger if a girl sees you on a weekly basis, which increases their receptivity.

Now for guys restricting themselves, putting aside women from work, or from gym... you are just cutting a huge supply of women. And then be ready to come over and over to sosuave complaining how *****y women are at the clubs or walking down the street.

I agree with all of you. It is a tough place to pick up one on the first try on a cold approach.

Not to boast or sound like "mr ****y" but I am in extremely good shape. Been working out for 10 years and I'm 27 now.

I do agree that being friendly, smiling, asking to share equipment etc is a great "in" so to speak.

A great example was today a girl was having trouble changing the weights because the handle was stuck, so I went over and helped her out, and she ended up laughing with me and we had small talk. I didn't say "WHATS YOUR NUMBER!!!!?" haha but I did get her name. So next time I bump into her ill go over and be friendly and see what happens. I guess the gym is a long game type of deal?

On a side note, these girls out here in LA are so hot its insane. This latin chick today was wearing those TIGHT black spandex pants and she had a NICE ASS with her little blue belly shirt on. OF COURSE she has to use the exercise ball on her stomach in front of where I was lifting....LOL I was dying.

Anyway, any more experience stories in the gym would be great, keep um coming thanks!

 

[Peterpack]

Gyms are hard and you better be in good shape because that is what everyone there is going for (to improve physically) so that is how everyone is judged

I actually find the parking lot as girls walk out after a workout is good to get them chatting

otherwise don't try and hit on girls at the gym, just take opportunities when you see them.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

I was actually recently "approached" by a girl in the gym. The girl kept staring at me all the time, and at the end of the training when I was doing cardio with all the machines free, she came exactly to my side... and then it was pretty clear her intentions, now I have her number.

Women also do things like this... I would say that, gym is another kind of game, if you are going completely direct the result will be a disaster. But with a gradual approach your good to go. Gym has also the advantage of getting new people every year. It's really a second "school"/college, and you are no stranger if a girl sees you on a weekly basis, which increases their receptivity.

Now for guys restricting themselves, putting aside women from work, or from gym... you are just cutting a huge supply of women. And then be ready to come over and over to sosuave complaining how *****y women are at the clubs or walking down the street.

Well congrats and I mean it truthfully instead of sarcastically, that is truly a matter of luck, women, especially attractive ones almost never approach guys first but glad to see there are exceptions, I know those type of girls are out there but I am just saying it is very rare

 

[pdx1138]

Nice post JdelaSilviera. I had that happen once (looking at me all the time) but that was back in my afc days and I was too scared to approach.

I did hit up a hot trainer once. Had some good conversations and horribly awkward ones (my fault, I had her on a massive pedestal).

For any gym game, just take it very slow and easy. The last thing you want to do is get into a weird situation like i did where the person might start avoiding you.