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Cold approaches in High School?

S.Y.L

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I have no idea what to do, on how to cold approach girls at school. Once I know them, I can get anyone easily, I'm really good looking, I work out tons, and I have confidence in everything I do (well almost lol)

But How would I say, approach a girl I have no Idea, who they are or anything, whos in the hall walking by me or something.
 

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Don't. Cold approaches are overrated. They don't work as well, and they aren't easy to pull off. Not impossible, but not easy without coming off as a creep.

The best approach is either to network or to hook up "by accident".

The first is simple. Networking is your biggest tool in highschool. Do you have friends? Do your friends have friends? Do your friends have female friends? Do these female friends have MORE female friends? Honestly, the more people you are introduced to through your friends, the better off you are. You'll build a large network of friends and meet some females along the way effortlessly, just make an effort to hang out in large groups and don't be one way about this. Introduce your new friends to other friends you have. with an army of friends, both male and female. Social proof - check. Female company - check. Now it's just a matter of picking out the girls you are interested in, and when you meet a new girl you might be interested in, game her from the start, don't wait til you are too familiar or it will be hard to avoid the friend card.

Second, is the accidental approach. If you overhear something you have a good one-liner for, say it. If you see a girl who looks like she might need help with something, offer it. If you run into a girl looking at something you are interested in, comment on it, strike up a conversation. It's fairly easy to do this as well.

The only thing that even comes close to a successful cold approach in high school is that first day thing. When you walk into a class for the first time, it's not unacceptable to sit down next to a cute girl and introduce yourself and strike up a convo. That's also a clean way to meet girls.
 

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So I have no chance at getting with random girls in younger grades, who ive never seen anyone I know around them?
 

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PRetty much.
Your only hope is things like the lunch line and stuff, and you have to work fast and perfectly.
 

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Wow, I guess I could wait for the school dance, and prob randomly approach there
 

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I cold approached in high school all the time.

"Hey, I haven't spoken to you before. What's your name?"
Something like that.

It's easier to start a conversation if you're walking in the same direction (walk past, get just ahead, turn your head to look at them, and open. That way you don't look like you were following them.)

It's best to give them impression that you were just passing by, if you've heard of opening "over the shoulder", you'll know what I mean.

If they're sitting, they're an easy target, use a false time constraint when sitting down after opening them (e.g. "I've got to go back to my friends in a moment, do you you mind if I sit down?")

If you're good looking or seen as being popular, that helps.

Like Following said, networking is important (anywhere.)
 

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Haha yeah, I just need a few openers. Then I got em in the bag
 

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S.Y.L said:
Haha yeah, I just need a few openers. Then I got em in the bag
It's easier to open girls in high school, since the cold approach isn't 100% cold, it's a little melted (they go to school, you go to school, so you've got a reason for being there.)

"I haven't talked to you before, what's your name?"

There are plenty of things to ask their opinion about.

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Reached my post limit, so:

It comes across as socially uncalibrated
Young girls la-la-LOVE calling people creeps, so keep your highschool rep in check.
They won't call you creepy if you approach correctly.
That can take practice, though, so you may want to practice outside of school. Remember, at school, you hav a reason to be in the same place as the girl.

work on your game dude. Work on DJ ethics like non-attachment, leading the interaction, all-itis, attraction, comfort. Having balls in high school will get you farther than you can imagine.
This is good. It's not too hard to stand out in high school. Work on your game, make friends with all the guys, have lots of social proof, and have balls of steel.

Don't concentrate on cold approaching,
In high school cold approaches are needed far less (than places like clubs.) You'll still need them for outside school.
 
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Dude, you're in high school. Cold approaching is for bars, clubs, and public daytime gatherings. It comes across as socially uncalibrated. Ok, at a school dance or something maybe it's good because thats very similar to nightgame.

Don't concentrate on cold approaching, work on your game dude. Work on DJ ethics like non-attachment, leading the interaction, all-itis, attraction, comfort. Having balls in high school will get you farther than you can imagine.

High school and college game have different rules than nightgame. Social proof is key so become a key that's easy to get along with. You're in the prime of your life, you have the DJ bible at your disposal. Use it wisely.
 

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thefonz said:
Dude, you're in high school. Cold approaching is for bars, clubs, and public daytime gatherings. It comes across as socially uncalibrated. Ok, at a school dance or something maybe it's good because thats very similar to nightgame.

Don't concentrate on cold approaching, work on your game dude. Work on DJ ethics like non-attachment, leading the interaction, all-itis, attraction, comfort. Having balls in high school will get you farther than you can imagine.

High school and college game have different rules than nightgame. Social proof is key so become a key that's easy to get along with. You're in the prime of your life, you have the DJ bible at your disposal. Use it wisely.
I never get one-itis anymore, thank god. I did awful before I saw this site, on an HB5. I don't understand why I did. God damnit.


But what about an approach like, Hey, how do you get so tanned or like, hey, do you die your hair, it looks really nice?

And since they are young they will fall for silly stuff llike that. Think it would work?
 

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Young girls la-la-LOVE calling people creeps, so keep your highschool rep in check.
 

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Hehe, if I were still in high school I'd pull some secret admirer stuff just to see if it'd work. Like leave little notes in her locker for about a week. Then leave one with your phone number or e-mail and see if she responds. I'd pull the same thing on maybe 10 girls. I doubt you'd get crazy results, but it'd be a fun project.
 

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SickAgain said:
Hehe, if I were still in high school I'd pull some secret admirer stuff just to see if it'd work. Like leave little notes in her locker for about a week. Then leave one with your phone number or e-mail and see if she responds. I'd pull the same thing on maybe 10 girls. I doubt you'd get crazy results, but it'd be a fun project.
That would come off as very creepy.
 
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SickAgain said:
Hehe, if I were still in high school I'd pull some secret admirer stuff just to see if it'd work. Like leave little notes in her locker for about a week. Then leave one with your phone number or e-mail and see if she responds. I'd pull the same thing on maybe 10 girls. I doubt you'd get crazy results, but it'd be a fun project.
That sounds AFC as it gets. And even I think thats creepy
 

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WHAT!?!?!

Don't cold approach in HIGH SCHOOL? I started out in high school when I was learning this and the point I'm at right now is AMAZING. Plain and simple...

COLD APPROACHING = Being Social

Being a social person is weird? Stop thinking cold approaches is where your some hunter jumping out the shadow and trying to bring her in the bushes. Your a social person so you go around chatting people up (opening) it's not that serious. My social circle has seen me APPROACH on the street an they love it because I'm just a social person. I self-amuse and joke around with random people.

You need to just learn...

Don't worry about the opener as it's irrelevant a simple "Hi" will do just like "STOP!! Hallway patrol, IDs, liscense and registration". It all just comes down to express yourself.
 

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That makes more sense to me. I didn't see the point of that you can only talk to people you know or are associated with, that seemed dumb to me
 

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Yeah, that makes sense. Start up with like, hey do you die your hair, (answer) oh really, you have really nice hair, you must be blessed! then lead up to something like, oh hey whats your name, I havent see you around. And bam
 
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