Cold Approach vs Social Circle Game

[BeTheChange]

On one side of the fence you have legit posters like @DEEZEDBRAH who swear by it, having been forged in the fire through cold approaching hundreds of women.

On the other side you have posters with clear experience such as @stormrider who basically says cold approaching is useless for getting hot women since they'll always prioritise their social environments first and therefore why would they choose a stranger over someone in their circle whose social dominance they have verified?

My situation: Above average looks (good enough to have HB8s open me in clubs). Below average social life due to work, business and generally not always being present when I'm supposed to be socialising. Also many close friends getting older, settling down, marriage, kids, etc.

On and off banging a 21 yr old HB8 who is currently breadcrumming me (asked her how her weekend was. No response and it's now Tuesday) when it should be the other way around. If I made any errors they've been minor. I think its simply the abundance of social options she has available to her. She ain't taking me seriously - which actually provides some merit to the social circle argument.

I want the power back and we all know the best way is to spin plates. That's really the answer to 99% of problems on SS. I want to build a life that enables me to meet and spin plates of her calibre (HB8+) on a consistent basis so would it be worth investing in social circle game or making cold approaching a habit instead?

 

[malz1]

I do both but lean more into social circle just bcus it's easier. Cold approach offers more variety while SC offers more stability in the interaction eg less **** blocking, **** testing, etc. It can be hard to develop a good sc if you dislike dealing w/ ppl or have bad logistics but try atleast. Just make sure they're respectful and normal.

 

[BeTheChange]

Do both.
If you only do social circle you will be limited by the girls IN THAT CIRCLE and trust me, seeing the same girls everyday can be boring and their appeal fades (familiarity breeds contempt). This is where cold approach is awesome as there is endless novelty.

If you only do cold approach be prepared for that awkward moment where the girl asks you if you have friends or if she wants to meet your friends. You will also never feel "at home" if you have no social circle. Its good to know people have your back and it helps with cold approach as you seem more "friendly" and less like a creep which is most PUA's.

Now if you HAD to choose one (again, stupid, do both) I would say cold approach. Here's why. Social circle is incredibly limiting. But besides that you get other benefits. Doing cold approach makes you step out of your comfort zone. It also opens up a whole WORLD of opportunities. I have done cold approach on girls where I later find out they are friends with girls in my social circle. What do you think that does to my status and impression on them? It boosts it 10X as they think I know a lot of people. Lots and lots of cool things can happen in this situation.

Cold approach also forces you to hone in on your social skill. In college when I went hard in cold approach god damn was my social skill sharp. Its dull now as I stopped doing it as often (will start again) but god damn was I witty as hell during that time. It also helps you put you out of auto pilot in day to day life and is something fun to do when bored.

The best situation is you having a tight social circle in your city and doing cold approach. This is a small world. Guarantee you will meet a girl who knows one of the people in your social circle and sh1t just explodes from there. I have approached a girl in a club in my hometown and later figured out she went to my college (I went to a school that is pretty small) and hit it off. Granted we didnt have sex but I knew people who knew her and again it just expands.

This post got me excited about cold approach and how I should do it again. Lol.

This post has got me excited about cold approach too.

Thinking

Monday - Wednesday: Start of the week, focus on social circle while energy levels are high

Thursday - Friday: Monk mode, focus on recharging the batteries, business, reading and other sef improvement

Sunday: I live close to my city's biggest shopping mall so ample opportunities. I like setting myself tangible goals so thinking 10-20 cold approaches and try and make it a regular weekly habit.