Cold approach in the gym... my first ever...

[Knicknack]

I was ranting about how I never cold approach in the gym because I was afraid of disturbing a girl's workout. Well some recent threads about cold approaches in this forum inspired me.

I saw this HB9 on the elliptical machine as I was walking towards the free weights. I couldn't tell if she saw me at first or not. Later, I walked by her acting like I was gettin a drink of water. This time I noticed she caught a quick glance and then tried to pretend she wasn't looking at anything. She went with the cold dead stare into nothing, like she just enjoys pondering nothing. I knew she was approachable after that little stunt.

So I later see her and her friend doing some crunches in the corner. I saw one of my friends (thank god I'm a regular at that gym) working out near them. I went up to my friend, who is gay by the way, and acted like I came over to chat with him. He stood up and did a little kino on me and gave me his gay little smile. He commented on how tall I was, so I used that as an opening with the hottie. I looked down at them and said, "hey, did you all just hear how tall I am?" The friend stood up and got shoulder to shoulder with me. Now I had an opening (phew! no more gay guy hittin on me).

I got their names and quickly diverted my attention to the HB9. She sat up from what she was doing and looked me in the eye. We talked about school and work and she was very receptive. I was ready to end the convo and go for the number. I said, "well, I better be gettin back to my workout. I don't have my cell phone with me, so you'll have to find a pen and paper to write your number down." The HB9 looked around and said, "I don't have a pen or paper, why don't you go get it." I immediately thought to myself, "dammit DO NOT supplicate!" Her damn friend turned around to me and pointed to a room with a pen and paper and said, "just go get it in there." I caved in and got the damn paper and pen. I came back with it and suddenly the HB9 "doesn't give out her number, but she will take mine instead." I knew I looked like an AFC caving in and that cost me.

I'm wondering what I could have done in this situation. I'm sure she is going to toss my number in the trash can ASAP. I'll let you know if anything besides that happens.

 

[One on One]

Some of you are way too harsh when it comes to getting the number. You expect a girl to get up and go get pen and paper so you can get her number? Here, try this: "yo *****...get me a pen so I can get your number." That will be just about as effective. It's one thing not to be a push-over, but it's another to be a ****y *******.

 

[squirrels]

That's really a lose-lose. You asked for a phone number and you weren't prepared to receive it. This is why I carry my cellphone around ALL the time now.

There's really nothing you can do...if you tell her to get it, you seem like a prick for making HER go in there and get the pen and paper to write HER number for YOU...unless there's very high IL, it most likely won't work. And if YOU go, then they sit there and laugh about how willing you are to scurry.

You should've just told her to give you the number and you'd write it down when you got a chance.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Don't beat yourself up over this one bro. No big deal. Just be prepared next time w/ a cell phone or pen and paper like squirrels said.

However, when I got a girls number in the gym, she was a preson who I had known from school and we both walked over to the front desk to get a pen and paper to trade numbers.

You're doing the right thing, maing. You keep putting those orders in and you'll get one soon enough.

 

[Click Here]

You gotta be like, "You seem like one of the more interesting girls ive talked to, i wanna continue this some other time " Then she'll OFFER HER NUMBER, and if she doesn't just tell her "Lemme get your number so we chill later on" something along those lines with a ****y smile is deadly.

P.S. - I thought the gay thing was really really wierd/ You seem like u held the convo on way to long, you gotta swoop in for prey 30 sec convo then number you sound like you revealed your whole life to this stranger and there was nothin left to say.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

For next time

Here's one thing you coulda done:

"Hey John, can you go grab me a pen while I chat up these pretty ladies here?"

or similar. Odds are he'd help you out.

 

[HowardRoarkLaughed]

Phone numbers are 7 digits for a reason. That is the number of numerals that most humans are able to remember. I would have said "hey, just tell it to me and I'll remember it" Then I would have made damn sure I did remember it!

 

[Microphone Fiend]

lol, nice to see someone getting there first approach, you are beating a lot of the people here already (including me ) I don't really think that was supplicating when you got her a pen, it aint like you got her a rose and candlelight dinner, all you did was get a paper so that SHE COULD WRITE DOWN HER NUMBER.


p.s. watch out for the gay guy, lol, first the kino, then he complimented ya, next thing you know you have theses "weird" feelings for him and feel closer to him.

 

[KiInCollege]

Hey, I like the suggestion of memorizing when given the options above. That was your ticket out.

By the way, when she say, "Tell me YOUR number," reply, "Do guys still fall for that line?"

I never give my number for this reason: It takes your power away. Now you're the one wondering when she'll call and falling for her games. That is a distraction. Always get her number. An interested girl will give it to you.

 

[Julian]

Damn dude that sucks, you got straight up sheisted.

 

[Knicknack]

the convo with the gay guy lasted about 30 secs... when he saw that i just came over to talk to the ladies, he bolted.

for the record, this was not my first cold approach ever. it was the first one in the gym. about a month ago a girl tried to get my number, and i quickly reversed it and got hers. i'm never going to give my number out again. this situation just threw me off guard because i was handing her the pen and paper and she quickly reversed it on me. in the future i'll make a c/f comment like someone suggested and not give in. i'd sooner not give her my number and forget about her just so i didn't lose the power and feel like an AFC.