Coffee shop approaches

[Shivastorm_88]

How do you guys usually initiate the approach? I usually feel like I'm bothering if I don't have a legit excuse to approach :/

It's a shame because there are so many HBs in the coffee shops I usually go to study, it's insane

 

[oneboy21]

You don't approach them at coffee shops, you will start a conversation. it should be natural not like intentional.
Not all coffee shops are friendly enough to approach, starbucks are worst.
I never had success at coffee shops.

 

[Vice]

I've gotten a lay out of a Starbucks.

I was reading a book, and I overheard the girl say something to her friend so I commented on it. We ended up talking, and I got her email. Added her on Facebook (This was last summer when I still had one) and we went out, and ended up sleeping together on the first date.

It can be done; you need to look for opportunities. Or the classic "Hey I saw you over here and wanted to meet you" will work great if you're good at direct game and making your intentions clear. Or you can ask her what she's reading/studying.

Coffee shops were my prime hunting grounds before I turned 21, and I'm thinking about going back to them when the cold weather comes around.

 

[oneboy21]

Book stores are little better than coffee stores.

 

[Vice]

Book stores are little better than coffee stores.

Can you elaborate on this?

 

[oneboy21]

Women don't stick them selves to their computer, book stores are larger in size. you will see more women coming in and going out.

 

[yuppaz]

I do pretty awesome at coffee shops. Honestly, do you think she can't crack her book / laptop and read at home? maybe she's there to study AND possibly meet someone. Trick is what ESPI mentioned. Just be subtle and start talking about something. I prefer to be less direct in those settings because if she doesn't like you and you can read the subtle signs of that then it's simple enough to stop talking without making you or her uncomfortable. If she does then it should be easy enough to tell that through reading of her body language as well. I like to think myself an interesting person and get curious about other people which people are happy to talk about (talk about themselves) when they share something you can too, that's how you build a connection.