co workers -says no car how can one have a gf or date

[joe45]

ah i was talking to one of my co workers, slow day for the week and we were talking about cars. he tells me he has a 04 Civic coupe and he asked me about my car ,which i said i don;t have one. he says he doesn;t drive anything older tha a 98 and hates american cars and has high standard in cars....
he tells me how can a 24 yr old can not even have a car, and how that not having a car-meant no gf-what kind of girl would date a guy without a car.

my meaning is what do u guys think of this comment. do u guys now any guys or gf or ppl that have no car-the guy that is and still dates and or has a gf. how do they do it.
do girls really care about the car if u have one or not. i'm not talking about ppl in their teens but in their mid 20's or older and has no car-how do u guys date, and can they date. i met one before 31 asian guy named Derick who had no car, he said u have to improvise, like meeting them their, but i think he is the minority.

how many guys out theire mid 20's or older don;t have a car and has a gf or u now freinds, of freinds or ppl of ppl how do u do it

 

[brenbaus]

it really depends on where you live, most urban areas have public transportation so you can get around and not HAVE to own a car (your actually doing the envirornment good this way), so be proud you dont have a car if there are other ways for you to get around

 

[mattb717]

If he has such a high standard in cars ask him why he dosen't have the Civic Si. That's like bragging about having a V6 mustang.

 

[brenbaus]

If he has such a high standard in cars ask him why he dosen't have the Civic Si. That's like bragging about having a V6 mustang.

Yeah, I drive a '95 ford taurus (not SHO, I wish!), don't try me!

 

[Delta]

it depends on what the "norm" is in your area. if most adults in your area have cars and you don't, that can be a problem. remember, girls compare you with other guys. and if other guys have a car and you don't....

also, a car represents certain things - ABILITY and FREEDOM. not having a car makes your world smaller and that is an issue. a man should have an expansive life, not a small one. i know of where i speak, i had a VERY small life... had to fix it.

also, think about it practically - how can you pick a date up? meet there? meet at the bus? how do you get her back to your place? also, there is a certain connotation about her picking you up that doesn't work in your favor.

if you live in NEW YORK, NO PROBLEM! everyone rides public transportation or takes cabs. but if this is not the norm in your area, honestly, you have a problem.

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as in all things, never NEVER be self conscious. don't let it get in the way until it actually gets in the way.

BUT

you will make your life much easier by getting a car.

don't feel bad that you don't have one. you're young. you have time and energy.

get a car.

delta

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Obviously the guy has never lived in Manhattan. None the less I'd be more concerned if I didn't have my own place as opposed to having a car. Like others have said, if you live in a major metropolitan area there may not be any need to have one. Your bud may just associates his status with his car; that doesn't say much about him, does it?

 

[Weak_Game]

I didnt have a car for 8 months. Due to financial issues. I had to take the bus to work and the gym. It was pretty inconveient due to horrible public T in my area... it bothered me at first but after i got over not having a car. I was still able to bang girls. Even a few from work, who would give me rides home back to my apt, then come in and hang out. People were pretty cool about it. Just don't let it bother you.

 

[Delta]

alas,

status symbols are important. and it is just as demeaning that a woman considers it important as it is demeaning for men to want a hot chick.

don't get me wrong, you've never met a person who has so strongly despised status symbols his whole life than me.

but in regards to the mating/dating game, i find that it is really really important as well as what it signifies - social standing. and this is coming from a person who's not wallowing in wealth or porsches.

but i do think it is a mistake to dismiss it as "superficial".... in regards to seduction - it is ALL superficial and very little to do with "reality". "what is not seen counts for nothing." and unlike what we tell our kids, we will be judged on appearances. just as we judge others.
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and per testimonies, it is possible to get laid without all manner of things - car, own place, shirt on back, etc. but sometimes it is inadvisable to model yourself after exceptions to the rule.

you could get laid with bad teeth and body odor... it's possible. but it makes your game much harder.

so if it is within your means and if the prevailing local attitude is that non poor adults have a vehicle, STRIVE TO GET ONE.

also, you're 24. WHAT IS PREVENTING YOU FROM GETTING ONE? i think that is a the 800lb gorilla in the room that no one is addressing that should be addressed.

delta
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errr, i fear i may be coming off as materialistic and cold... but i speak from personal experience.

my first car was an 81 camaro (color:rust) that i purchased for $500 during my second year of college. my second car was a gold nissan pulsar that barely functioned.

and it is through this that i say that having a car makes your life easier, is considered necessary by many even in urban areas (an adult not having a car in los angeles is pretty close to being unacceptable - a far departure from the norm) and is possible on even the most meager of budgets... and especially for someone who is young, there is no reason to think about devising life around not having a car. rather, the emphasis should be on getting one.

peer pressure? maybe. but you can't dismiss it.

 

[oranges]

Anyone that can't drive/doesnt own a car I see as someone that doesnt seem to be motivated in their life.

I apply this to any women I meet as well, of course, many women at college can't afford a car, but if they did'nt get a licence before college, does this person come across as someone whos got things sorted in life?:nono:

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Anyone that can't drive/doesnt own a car I see as someone that doesnt seem to be motivated in their life.

I apply this to any women I meet as well, of course, many women at college can't afford a car, but if they did'nt get a licence before college, does this person come across as someone whos got things sorted in life?:nono:

Visit Manhattan, it will disprove everything that you've said.

 

[aftershock]

This is a question that comes up frequently. The guy who said about the "norm" in your area is spot on.

Being British, our network of buses and trains, (outside of tiny villages etc) tends to be adequate, and petrol is very expensive ($7ish a gallon). Plus we can drink at 18 and therefore social life revolves around drinking.

I basically have a choice: car or social life.

And I like my nights out, thank you very much.