Co-Worker flirt

[Dukester]

I just got a new job, about a month and a half ago, and there is this cute girl that works here, a HB8 I'd say. I have talked to her a few times, and one day, I talked to her for a good 2 hours out of the day. I used my old flirting techniques on her, before i read these threads and posts.

She seemed interested at times, and other times she didnt. Recently, I have been doing the DJ thing, and that seems to be working really well on her. I think I got her in a comfort zone, which is good. I think I've lowered her barrier and got her to open up to me a few times, but that was without DJing.

I dont get to see her much anymore, becasue I moved into a new office way in the back. I try and make time to see her, and when I do she always seems happy to see me. i.e:
Her- hey, shouldnt you be working
Me- I thought i'd take a lil break, see what people are up to
Her- well I'm glad you came up here, it can be lonely sometimes...
Me- ya, well I'd rather be lonely than stuck up here w/ you all day
(she laughs)
Her- Very funny...
(I actually only wanted to talk to her for a lil bit, cuz i did have a lot of work to do, but i ended up talking to her for around 45 min.)

I was using all the DJ skills I know. I was being C&F a lot, which really seems to work on her. She was giving me a lot of the buying signals too. She was making great eye contact, playing w/ her hair, etc...

I'm thinking that next time I see her, I will either as her to go to this campus party at school w/ me, or ask her 4 her num.

I gotta do it all smooth and DJ style though, of course. And i plan to do it like that.

I guess the real point of this message is to ask if co-worker relationships really work? This one seems great so far, but is it destined to fail. I dont wanna waste my time when their are other HB's out there....

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Originally posted by Dukester

I guess the real point of this message is to ask if co-worker relationships really work? This one seems great so far, but is it destined to fail. I dont wanna waste my time when their are other HB's out there....

Maaaaannnnn, leave that alone...Trust me, Ive been through this too many times....

 

[Six-String Samurai]

Six-String Samurai's guide to co-worker macking:

-If you work at a retail job or some job where you make less than 10 bucks an hour, go for it

-If you work in a law firm, corporate office, or salary-based job, swallow your pride and forget it

-If seeing her every day in a workplace environment after she rejects you/after you've seen her naked/after you've seen her with your jizz on her tits bothers you, forget it

-If sexual harassment has been a problem in your workplace and you think there is no kosher way to bring up the possibility of dating, forget it

-If you're already looking for a better job anyway, go for it.

It's quite simple, and I'm sure you're detecting a pattern. I have friends who met their g/fs at work, and I have friends whose work lives have been devastated by bad love triangles. I personally see where you're coming from, as one of my main prospects at the moment works with me. However, I have recognized that I am trying to get a better job within a month and I have very little to lose (I work at a shytty retail job). Think for yourself man, decide if it's right for you. If you want her and it's worth it, then take her. If it's not a good situation, then walk away. Use your head!

 

[wjh]

Let's not forget that in the US that even so much as talking about sex around a woman - not even TO her or ABOUT her - can lead to her filing a complaint with HR with NO evidence over sexual harassment... which CAN lead to an investigation AND your suspension or complete termination.

it's not fair but it's what happens... these days large firms (read: solomon-smith barney) don't even take these issues to court and settle for [potentially] millions of dollars - so it's a risk many firms aren't willing to take - if you don't care about your career, do it... if you care about your paycheck and/or career STAY AWAY.

besides, plenty of bishes elsewhere to not have to risk it.

 

[DreamyChick]

After reading this post I am definitely weary of dating coworkers. Recently I developed a thing for my 30 yo coworker. I am an intern at a small law firm but I think the rules apply more so in my case. I can definitely see the points in keeping it cool at work. Just today our boss was telling us that we now have a new unlimited long distance phone plan. I made a comment that it was great...and the coworker cut in and said that I shouldn't get any ideas about dialing 900 numbers. I was kind of lost with that comment but I got the feeling it was a sexual joke and just played it off. I was really surprised that he said it in front of the boss though. But I wasn't offended or anything but its definitely a tricky situation sometimes.

 

[cave dweller]

bread

Forget her.

Rule # 4 is:

Don't put your meat where you get your bread.

cave dweller