Closure and knowing when to let it go.

[Bear X]

I met an amazing woman online after being single for 3 years after a failed 17 year marriage. We lived a state away from each other and visited each other many times over about year and it was an intense relationship in very good ways but one day she became distant and then soon friend zoned me. She was one of the most amazing women l had ever met and even though she LJBF me she contacts me online fairly regularly and l understand where l have gone wrong, especially after reading the Rational Male by Rollo but l am still feeling a heart ache l can't shake. How can l get past it?

 

[IKO69]

You preoccupy yourself with other things/women.

I have also been in a similar situation a long time ago. It did not work out with a particular woman and it messed me up for months. I didn't even go out and try to meet other women during that time. I did **** all, absolute ****. What did I gain? Not a ****ing thing in the end with all the sulking, feeling down, pondering the "what if's"....It was just a waste of time.

I think you would rather make good memories than relive terrible one's so it's better to cut your losses and move on. As special as she may seem, there will be other women out there who will be just as better and perhaps you may even find someone you spend years with. Take care man.

 

[Atom Smasher]

You are simply going through a drug withdrawal.

Read the e-book in my signature. You will absolutely get over this girl in a hurry if you do. It changed my life and stopped my pain within a day.

The book is "How to Get Over Anyone in a Few Days". It works better than any advice you will read here, not because our advice is wrong, but rather because of the way the author presents it. Click "Books" on the menu bar and you will find it.

 

[Bear X]

You preoccupy yourself with other things/women.

I have also been in a similar situation a long time ago. It did not work out with a particular woman and it messed me up for months. I didn't even go out and try to meet other women during that time. I did **** all, absolute ****. What did I gain? Not a ****ing thing in the end with all the sulking, feeling down, pondering the "what if's"....It was just a waste of time.

I think you would rather make good memories than relive terrible one's so it's better to cut your losses and move on. As special as she may seem, there will be other women out there who will be just as better and perhaps you may even find someone you spend years with. Take care man.

Thanks man, it's messed up to feel like this but you are right of course. Putting myself first and following my passions instead of crushing my own fire inside is the only correct path. You take care to man.

 

[Bear X]

You are simply going through a drug withdrawal.

Read the e-book in my signature. You will absolutely get over this girl in a hurry if you do. It changed my life and stopped my pain within a day.

The book is "How to Get Over Anyone in a Few Days". It works better than any advice you will read here, not because our advice is wrong, but rather because of the way the author presents it. Click "Books" on the menu bar and you will find it.

You are right in saying it's like a drug addiction withdrawl. l will check this book out! Thanks friend.

 

[L0bsang]

Hey man,

Sorry that your 17 year marriage and your recent relationship ended. I am not sure how many people here have gone through that much time with one person and actively post here. You are in a lot of pain I still imagine and will be for a while. It’s ok to be sad and talk to your friends about this. Please start exercising or get a bike to get outta the house. Follow some sort of workout routine and stick to it. Also this video helped me immensely, please watch it and watch it again so you don’t dwell too much. Take care brother. Let us know how you are doing

 

[Atom Smasher]

You are right in saying it's like a drug addiction withdrawl. l will check this book out! Thanks friend.

Let me know how it works out for you. The book changed my life and it not only helps with women abut has a broader application to life problems. The author's native tongue is not English so you may see n awkward way of turning a phrase here and there, but the message comes through loud and clear.

 

[Bear X]

Let me know how it works out for you. The book changed my life and it not only helps with women abut has a broader application to life problems. The author's native tongue is not English so you may see n awkward way of turning a phrase here and there, but the message comes through loud and clear.

I will! Thank you again and this community. This forum is very valuable to reviving a man into owning his life.

 

[Bear X]

Hey man,

Sorry that your 17 year marriage and your recent relationship ended. I am not sure how many people here have gone through that much time with one person and actively post here. You are in a lot of pain I still imagine and will be for a while. It’s ok to be sad and talk to your friends about this. Please start exercising or get a bike to get outta the house. Follow some sort of workout routine and stick to it. Also this video helped me immensely, please watch it and watch it again so you don’t dwell too much. Take care brother. Let us know how you are doing

Thanks brother, yeah pain is right and been with me for some time but guys here have given me hope. Exercising again and putting my self first now and feel more confident than l have in a long time. This video was great and spoke a simple but important truth. I will keep in touch.