Clock is ticking. Should I call her? Help!

[bugsquish]

Guys... I got this subject down on another post, but it's 9pm here and I still don't know if I should call her.

To cut a long story short I been seducing her for a while, took her out on a date on Sat, screwed her brains out, and established us as a couple.

The thing is, she put me through a lot of tests which I failed miserably and now she's got all the power. We said we should hang out tonight but I txtd her last night and never got a reply.

There's no time to hang out tonight but I don't know if I should still call her, or wait until tomorrow. I don't know if she was testing me because she wants me and is worried about getting hurt, or to see if I'm a wuss who will bend to her will.

Full story.

Should I call her? I probably have about 45 mins before it's too late. Time is ticking some advice is urgently needed!

 

[toot86]

The fool proof

call her then hang up before she answers...

if she is a keeper she will return your call and if she doesnt return the call ...


Its your call ..

 

[TheLadiesMan]

No..... DO NOT CALL HER.

It's barely a few days.... wait, control yourself.

 

[bugsquish]

I know the typical DJ advice is don't call her. But these are strange circumstances. She has showed extremely high IL, and a cronic fear of being used. Plus she is technicaly my girlfriend now. If I don't call she will think I'm a player. But then... this is a good thing? I'm not sure! You need to read my full post to understand. Can't tell if she's playing games or being genuinely unstable lol

 

[GirlCrazy]

Dude don't call her. Yeah maybe that's typical advice but it's good advice too.

The fact that you feel this urgency says that she still has the power. The way you take the power back is to relax and not worry about it so much. Watch a good movie, read a good book, take a long drive, whatever your hobby is.

Do you really want to be P-whipped from day one of the relationship? Break the cycle right now, and trust me you'll be glad you did. Not only will you be glad you took the power back, she will too. She'll probably mellow out once you do.

If she thinks you are playing her just cause you're not clinging to her like white on rice, that's her problem. If she's wanting you to prove to her she's not being played by acting like a needy chump, how do you think this is gonna end?

 

[bugsquish]

OK I get it. Worrying about whether not calling is going to put her off is AFC. Right? I'll call her tomorrow.

 

[The Real Deal]

Dude, can't you read? DON'T call her

 

[bugsquish]

Ever? I told her I'd call her at some point... She was expecting it today at least. So tomorrow should be ok...

 

[The Real Deal]

I would wait untill she's called you at least 3 times, and by that I mean not answering her calls either. If she doesn't call, forget her.

 

[bugsquish]

Man, that seems a little harsh... Did you read my other post? She won't call me cuz I told her I'd call her. If she's worried that I just used her for sex then surely not calling her will qualify that suspicion....

 

[Jay26]

I wouldn't call her, she'll call you if she's interested, you already txted her once and she didn't respond right? Don't get whipped within the space of 2 weeks of knowing her.

If her IL is high, she WILL call.

 

[MrMetropolis]

get a hobbie. besides this board. Pot works wonderfully for just wanting you to sit around the house and do nothing. LoL. If you can't find a hobbie.

Mr.Metro

 

[fan27]

I had a second date with a woman this Saturday and she wound up staying the night. She feabally attempted to hold out, but she never had a chance. There was somewhat of a concern on her part that I wouldn't call, but she wasn't overly dramatic about it. So when should I call? If so, how many days should I wait? should I wait for her to call me? To tell you the truth, I could really care less about the answers to these question. Wether I call today or a week from now, I Know I am not a AFC and she knows it to. What I wound up doing was sending her a very casual email today describing my day which I spent with my 3.5 year old nephew. All I am communicating by doing what I did is that she will probably see me again and she doesn't feel like a slut for sleeping with a dude who is never going to see her again.

 

[Frosty]

What I wound up doing was sending her a very casual email today describing my day which I spent with my 3.5 year old nephew. All I am communicating by doing what I did is that she will probably see me again and she doesn't feel like a slut for sleeping with a dude who is never going to see her again.

Fan, you did the right thing. I believe that it is necessary to call a woman the next day after you sleep with her for the first time. Don't debate it nor try to seem DJ by waiting any longer or try to get her to call first if you plan on seeing her again. Many women are very sensitive about this one (Will you respect me in the morning?)

You didn't call but at least you sent the email. It is not the top choice but it works for the reason that you described above. Thumbs up.

 

[bugsquish]

Agh! So you guys think I messed up even more by not calling? One of the main things that is messing with my head is that she said "i miss my ex". I did text her though ("I had a great weekend, skint but worth it will call you through the week x"), does that qualify for your theory Frosty?

 

[Grey Fox]

You may have played out most of your hand so she knows what your about. Its best to use some time to time to add a little doubt to the situation so you can gather up some more cards to play with.(Forgive the poker analogy) If the situation seems pointless no harm in forcing her hand, just say "I know what you're doing, and I know why you're afraid. You need to trust me, but I need to know if I can trust you."(Thats only if your a breath away from the LJBZ.) Otherwise do nothing and let it play out, she's got your number and she will call if she is interested, she knows you're around, let it be.

-Grey Fox

 

[Grey Fox]

Scratch that, I just read your other post about this girl, just walk away completely. If she comes back to you or calls, establish the fact that this EX is in fact an EX.

-Grey Fox

 

[bugsquish]

After the weekend we had, I owe her at least one phonecall. Otherwise I might as well just have used her for sex. But yes, I hear you. Those alarm bells about her ex are getting louder by the second. And yes, he's definetely an ex, because she told me she was just out of a relationship when I met her.

I was gonna call her and say "Look babe, if you miss your ex then there's not much to talk about. Go and think carefully about who you want to be with, and give me a call when you think you're over him."

 

[iqqi]

don't judge her or give her an ultimatum if you JUST had sex with her for the first time! That is a BIG ****ing deal for most women. give her the benefit of the doubt THIS time. go ahead and call her.