class pick up .... worst case scenario

[jayhu12]

There was a girl I saw at my school like 2 years ago, she hot and I really liked her for a while. I had classes with her, but never really knew her. Well, last semister I tried to get to know this girl. I made friends with her and chilled with her on occation. At the end of the semister I tried to hook it up, and got rejected.

Theres nothing wrong with rejection, I figured I wouldn't see her often after. I was wrong. It turns out her majors in the same as mine. So this semister shes in all my classes. You have no idea how weird it is when to see some girl that you liked for so long, and rejected you, every single day. Its harsh messing me up emotionally. Me and her are on a I ignore you, you ignore me basis so we try to avoid each other. But there's always that weird group discussions or wait time in the halls before class.I try and forget about her, but when you see a girl you like everyday its really hard.

If you thought that was bad, it turns out she has a boyfriend. He usually meets her outside the class when it ends. Which is the major kick in the ass.


I'm taking 5 classes atm, which is a pretty big load. I find that I'm stressout a lot. When I go to sleep I can't stop thinking about her. I started working out to help relieve some of the stress.

So heres some advice from someone who has been shot in the ass.

-Don't mack girls in your class unless its a sure thing.
-make sure they don't have a BF
-make sure you won't see them too often in a worse case scenario.

Peace.

 

[Shiftkey]

-Don't mack girls in your class unless its a sure thing.
-make sure they don't have a BF
-make sure you won't see them too often in a worse case scenario.

These aren't your problems and these are bad pieces of advice. You should never be affraid of taking risks because you can't really be sure of anything with women. If you want to analyze where you went wrong with this girl, take a look at your AFC behavior when with her.

I made friends with her and chilled with her on occation. At the end of the semister I tried to hook it up, and got rejected.

The friends first approach rarely works and is a common AFC tactic. You should've tried to hook up with her early on, not after becoming her friend.

You have oneitis, but this is completely in your control - the best way to get over her is to find another girl. Are there no other girls in your five classes? Do you have other means of meeting women? I say take advantage of every opportunity.

 

[1hepcat]

I know it sucks when there's somebody you still like that you see all the time. I had a date last year with this girl I really liked, kissed her, and then she went weird on me. (I don't think my first-date performance was that good -- my nerves screwed me bigtime) I run into her every week or so but she always wants to be friendly to me. It pisses me off because I wish she would die or move or something... (I'd also be cool with it if she jumped on me and stuck her tongue in my mouth -- but not just say hi and pretend like everything is great). But that's the risk you take when you go for someone you will see again for sure.

One mistake that you made that I used to make is that you waited forever to go for it, and then tried the friend route. It's best if you're interested to go for it right away before you get really attached. That and you wasted so much time worrying about someone that didn't even like you. You could have been spending that time with someone who _did_ care about you.

The best thing you can do now, and I know it's hard, is to pursue other women. The sooner you do this, the sooner you'll forget about her. And if you find yourself a nice girl and she likes you, you'll forget this one ever existed.

Now don't let it bother you so much. Part of the reason it's bothering you so much is because you're letting it. Take control. Remember, you are the man! Why let her ruin your day? She's probably not that great anyway! Find as many things as you can that you don't like about her and dwell on them! Every time you see her, think about them.

 

[duke007]

Interesting point how you get pissed off when she acts all friendly to you like everything's alright.

That's how you should be acting.

I do this to my old oneitis at Uni by giving a wide confident smile and a quick hello whenever we cross paths. It's easy to smile because I keep thinking, "Hehehh what a stupid b1tch..."

Each time her return smile and wave gets more and more animated. I can sense she's regretting her rudeness before.

 

[One on One]

Just take the high road, man. When you make eye contact and are in her proximity, say "hi." Nothing more. Don't try to start a conversation, but just say hello. Sooner or later, she'll be like, ok he is over me, but still wants to be friends.

 

[1hepcat]

Originally posted by duke007
Interesting point how you get pissed off when she acts all friendly to you like everything's alright.

That's how you should be acting.

I do this to my old oneitis at Uni by giving a wide confident smile and a quick hello whenever we cross paths. It's easy to smile because I keep thinking, "Hehehh what a stupid b1tch..."

Each time her return smile and wave gets more and more animated. I can sense she's regretting her rudeness before.

Well this is interesting. I get pissed off inside thinking, "J- you stupid b!tch, suck my d!ck." But on the outside, I'm much different. At first I didn't feel comfortable around her at all. Then I got to the point where when she would say hi to me I would say hi back and then she would start talking and I would act like it was the most uninteresting conversation I had ever had, but wouldn't act pissed off -- more like I was going to go to sleep out of boredom. Then recently I started going up to her once in a while and being super friendly -- touching her on the arm and stuff and asking how she was and acting really interested. One time I even told her I'd give her a call sometime, which, of course, I never intended to do. Other times I would pretend like I didn't even notice her. I hope she's really confused now.

I figure if I can't get rid of the b!tch I'll have as much fun as I possibly can. And if anyone has any ideas on how I can screw with her head more, I am open to trying them.

/EDIT:
I agree the wide confident smile is good. I need to make sure I'm doing that.

Also, did you mean to say that's _not_ how you should be acting?
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[A1SteakSauce]

Messing with their heads

I strongly believe in revenge as a dish best served cold and messing with a b!tch's head is the best way to do it. Here's what's worked for me:

1. Make friends with her friends. There was a chick in college who pursued me all summer. I thought I wanted her but turns out I didn't. Anyway, I basically left her cold and after that she was very unpleasant. What I did was always introduce myself to her friends and start conversations with them while ignoring her. I'd show myself to be a charming outgoing friendly guy to them while with her I'd be aloof, cold, even nervous or AFC-ish. I know they all figured she was the one with the problem and I must be a great guy. Hopefully she started to feel that way, too.

2. Gang up. The worst female experience of my life was dating an employee. She was a b!tch and a user. I was blind b/c she was so damn sexy and 21. Fortunately the rest of the guys who worked for me were guys and helped me out. I didn't even have to ask, b/c if a women dates her boss the guys will treat her like dirt behind the bosses back. Once I started to diss her too and they realized it was over they never missed a chance to point out how her work was second rate. By the time she finally quit a year later she was a fat wench with half the self-esteem of the girl who tried to fvck her way up. As far as I know the little ***** is still unemployed.

3. Wait and get her later. I tried to get a girl online to go out with me but she wouldn't. And she wasn't all that. So several months later I saw her profile and it pissed me off. I made another profile and this time used more DJ tactics. I think she was very eager to meet this "new" guy. I let it build up until finally she was like let's meet already! But she wanted to know my name, and I couldn't tell her (she'd know it was the same guy). So I basically said I was only there to play around, I would never actually go out with anyone I met online, I hope she hadn't taken it seriously. At the least she must have been disapointed, at the most she might've taken an ego hit and felt like a desparate biatch.

All three of these methods are far better than being made to feel like a bad little boy b/c the ho in question thinks her ***** gives her entitlement to rule the earth. Fact of the matter is her pvssy gives her the opportunity to bear your kin if you are so inclined to trouble yourself, and that's it.

A1

 

[divega]

I did a similar thing but at work. True it was weird seeing the girl that broke up with you at work everyday, but I say it shouldn't deter you from pursuing that kinda thing. We did that ignoring **** a bunch too, but everytime I did it, I just felt like a child. We're broken up, so I can't even act normal anymore? F' that shiz. I learned to just play it cool and move on.

I wouldn't do this ignoring stuff that you're doing though. Just play it cool, and strike up normal conversations. You are mature, and you can get past the crap from before. You need not change your behavior in her presence. You're way better than that, am I right?

Also, class is a great place to meet girls. Especially if it's a small class with discussion. You can scope 'em out, and see what their mind set is. It's an easy place to find people with like minds.

 

[Frank Zappa]

When I was in 10th grade, I was a total AFC to one chick and got the old LJBF garbage. Then I had tons of classes with this biatch in 11th grade and I had been through this site and was macking it with other chicks. We were in total ignore mode and it was weird in the beginning. The DJ skills got me in with her friends and I still ignored her until she finally came around and opening communication with me. In which I DJed her this time around. Later on in 12th grade, at a party she told a bunch of her friends that she should've gotten with me when she had the chance. She's been real close to me and we almost got with each other countless times during my 3-year LTR because we always sleep in the same bed at parties, visiting each other at college or even casual get togethers at my house. She knows I'm over my ex and mentioned how much fun no-strings sex would be and how she's looking for that a little now. I plan on capitalizing in a few weeks when I fly home.

Anyway... my story was to give you inspiration that if you just ignore her and mack other chicks, good things can and will happen. ~Zappa

 

[jayhu12]

Well weird thing happened, outa no where today she comes and asks me for some help on her assignment ( all smiley and stuff ). So I'm shocked outa my mind and I basicly give her quick no interest responses. So she asks me if I could help her, I say yes and to meet in the library( I didn't go just snubbed her out). The next day we gotta hand in our assignments and she comes up to me again and acts like nothing happened, and asked if I did the assignment and how was it. I say yes, it was hard blah blah blah. I'm wondering wtf. I don't understand girls at all.

What do you guys think? I don't really want anything to do with this girl anymore, but class is hella weird still for me. It be nice to stop the akwardness, but I still like her and I don't think I could be her friend.

The reason I didn't want to talk to her was cause I thought it would look stalkerish. Loosing dignity to a girl sucks ass.

Another thing is in 2 of the classes I take with her, theres always a guy trying to mack her. Today I saw some guy with his arm around her and it wasn't her boyfriend, and I gotta admitt it made me kinda mad. I just really confused to hell.

 

[raven_82]

My philosophy on dating and courtship is that it is just a process for finding your perfect (or very close to perfect) mate. I believe that if it doesn't work out with some female, than she isn’t right for you. But don't despair; there is some other one out there that is right for you. But you have to find them. And when you do, you will know it. But you will first have to get through all of the ones who aren't right for you to get to the one.

But trust me, you will not be able to guess who will be right for you. If you are having difficulties with the girl you are pursuing right now, you most likely haven't found the one.

So you should thank this female for "rejecting" you and allowing you to get one girl closer to the "one".

Thats my two cents.

 

[vdk]

Reading that was painful. I have a girl in college that is 'the package' i.e. the type that would make a good wife, looks, sweet personality (definately not a b@tch). I did the DJ thing and asked her out within 2weeks of meeting her, got rejected and basically LJBF'ed.

I ignore her and what happens next pissed the hell out of me. If I was doing shopping or eating a restaurant with friends we would suddenly see each other.

Next semester I had a couple of courses with her and suprise, suprise we got the same tutorial class. Everytime I try to block her out she always appears in my life again. O and it doesnt help the fact she has the finest body. When she sits next to me in class (we are still friends) all I want to do is tear her clothes off and jump her

 

[BobbDobbs]

Re: Messing with their heads

Originally posted by A1SteakSauce
1. There was a chick in college who pursued me all summer.

2. As far as I know the little ***** is still unemployed.

3. I tried to get a girl online to go out with me but she wouldn't.

You got issues.