Christmas Drama

[hockeyfreak79]

Bltches be loving drama. So a plate of mine BLOWS up this evening, accuses me of hitting her! I barely even touched her. It was so fvcking dramatic & over the top she ALMOST had me convinced that I hit her. Wow just wow, scratching my head right now.
We were joking around, so I went in to pinch her but I didn't, she immediately jumped out of bed and flinched like I hit her? When the craziness begins it doesn't end fellas.

I called her out right away, AND then she has the audacity to say: You can't be mad at me right now, you hit me. ------> FUBAR!

I have never laid a hand on a woman in my 34 years of life. I immediately got on my jacket grabbed my stuff and left. There have been a couple minor red flags in the 3 months or so since I've known her but this 1 takes the cake.

My first immediate thought was: This woman is delusional, alright I've seen enough REDFLAGS. RUN----:woo:

My question is: Do I return the presents her aunt and uncle gave me? I can do this without interacting with her. It just feels odd/not right by accepting gifts from them and then dumping her.

 

[slikkmeister]

I had a BPD does to me a couple of times. If you don't get back with her she'll call you a thief, scumbag, woman beater etc. You only give them back if you're really done with her this time. That means NC even when she tells everyone you hit her and text you 500000 times telling you what a piece of **** you are.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Yeah I'm fully aware of BPD traits, I don't think this is the case. BUT either way this broad is not worth it after experiencing what just happened. I'm still scratching my head, we've had some good times up until this incident.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Hockey,
Just calm down and do nothing....lotsa stress this time of year...you put a lot into this,at least save a plate for when you have a dry spell!

 

[VladPatton]

Chill for now, let it slide. Then dump her when she least expects it with no explanation. Drag it out for another month or so if you can.

 

[abe0]

I second VladPatton....do not return gifts. Let her calm down and dump on your terms and in your time frame. But dump you must!!!!!

 

[switch]

hahaha what a cvntbag. sounds like she is not tingling anymore and wants an excuse to ride new cowboys.....

 

[Atom Smasher]

More women than one might think are capable of this delusion. This girl is capable of intermittently losing touch with reality and is extremely dangerous to deal with. We all know that in this feminized society virtually everyone takes a woman's word over a man's.

The return of the presents has both pros and cons. I'd be inclined to keep them and just handle business.

I agree with the others... you need to dump her on YOUR terms. That means very matter-of-factly with little drama or emotion. This b!tch needs to be punished in the most severe way possible. Let the smoke clear, then reject her without emotion and most importantly, without getting into a verbal pissing match.

If you engage verbally, you WILL lose. You would want to approach her with your mind made up. You are stating the fact that she is no longer qualified to be in you life. After that, punish her with ABSOLUTE NC.

My favorite line to use with misbehaving women is, "I don't accept that". It's a show of enormous strength because it portrays you as a rock with principles.

Her: "Why are you breaking up with me?"
You: "You accused me of hitting you the other night when we were playing. By now you know damn well that you imagined this. I find your behavior extremely offensive and I don't accept it."

End of discussion. She now knows that your leaving is directly linked to her dramatic outburst.

Edit: I do believe that rather than just going ghost, a man should make sure the woman knows the exact behavior that caused the problem. If you discuss, you lose. If you declare your intent and leave, you win.

 

[Big Nuts]

Is she setting you up for a domestic violence charge??? GTFO...now....she sounds like she knows a little too much about the consequences of male on female violence. This is very erratic and strange behavior.

 

[abe0]

I do not agree with "punish"...I think its best to use your head (the one between your shoulders), plan accordingly and in a month make your sweet move and dump her in a matter of fact way without the drama, emotions, or anger. Heck, make her think she dumped you....that is what I do so I never has had an angry lady coming after me. I make it think its there idea that its not working out and then I never have to look over my shoulder with a crazy bpd b#tch. Abe

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Thanks for all the response, SDJ's and MDJ's. I appreciate the clear cut advice, most of it I expected and I wasn't a surprise by it.

So I pulled the freeze out method, it's more or less natural to me now as I have done in the past with ex's. Long story short she did apologize and made up some stupid story that is pointless to explain.

It's kind of entertaining to me it's almost like this broad wants me to dump her ass! The fvckin drama does not stop, we'll be good for a week or so and then she will AGAIN do something really fvckin stupid. She disrespected me yet again, not going to go into details. It's not worth explaining. STOP WASTING TIME ON LOW QUALITY ATTENTION WH0RES BLTCHES.

 

[Zunder]

Bltches be loving drama. So a plate of mine BLOWS up this evening, accuses me of hitting her! I barely even touched her. It was so fvcking dramatic & over the top she ALMOST had me convinced that I hit her. Wow just wow, scratching my head right now.
We were joking around, so I went in to pinch her but I didn't, she immediately jumped out of bed and flinched like I hit her? When the craziness begins it doesn't end fellas.

I called her out right away, AND then she has the audacity to say: You can't be mad at me right now, you hit me. ------> FUBAR!

I have never laid a hand on a woman in my 34 years of life. I immediately got on my jacket grabbed my stuff and left. There have been a couple minor red flags in the 3 months or so since I've known her but this 1 takes the cake.

My first immediate thought was: This woman is delusional, alright I've seen enough REDFLAGS. RUN----:woo:

My question is: Do I return the presents her aunt and uncle gave me? I can do this without interacting with her. It just feels odd/not right by accepting gifts from them and then dumping her.

How can she be a plate if she (and her uncle!) are buying you presents???

 

[hockeyfreak79]

I don't understand your ? Zunder? We are dating/fvckin wouldn't that make her a plate?

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

We are dating/fvckin wouldn't that make her a plate?

So...uh, don't mean to change the subject, but....when are you breaking up with her??

You know, just wondering....

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Excellent question P&V, at this point her attitude has been so disgusting I feel like going NC.
I would imagine her crazy a** will be visiting my place and throwing a fit. Idk, I would really like to avoid that kind of situation. She doesn't have any valuables at my place so that's good.
Fun fun fun

 

[Albatross953]

Kind of cut and dry and not subject to debate isn't it? Does she not pose a legal and reputation risk? Does that not far outweigh anything she can provide? Is it not crystal clear that you need to dump her ASAP?

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Excellent question P&V, at this point her attitude has been so disgusting I feel like going NC.
I would imagine her crazy a** will be visiting my place and throwing a fit. Idk, I would really like to avoid that kind of situation. She doesn't have any valuables at my place so that's good.
Fun fun fun

Well, good luck my man. You may need to lock all you doors and windows for a few weeks. And park your car the garage....

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Good points Alba, I've meet plenty of crazy but my brain & gut tells me she exceeds the previous. We've even joked about it in conversation. Crazy with a side of princess syndrome.

P&V yeah I'm not worried about it too much. Last year this time I ended it with a Latina (13mo or so) I thought she would go Latina nutz on my ass. She just cried & begged alot & blew up my phone. She treated me like a king too, but I had to do it.

 

[Zunder]

I don't understand your ? Zunder? We are dating/fvckin wouldn't that make her a plate?

Hey mate, I will expand on what I was thinking, which was that if your relationship has got to the stage where you are getting presents not only from her, but her aunt and uncle - is that not a bit more of a serious relationship rather 'than 'just a plate'? I mean, how is it that you are meeting the aunt and uncle of a chick with just plate status? Why would you meet any relations of chick with just 'plate status', and not only that, these relations of her's like you well enough to buy you presents?

Ergo, you maybe have a bit more emotion invested in her than you realise - especially for a chick that should only be "plate status" in your mind. I mean, if she is not your girlfriend and really just one of a number of plates that you are currently spinning - who cares about this little episode, after the initial natural reaction of getting pissed off being accused of something that wasn't true, it shouldn't really worry you should it? What should worry you is that if you keep spinning her, and the crazy bytch calls the cops on you and makes up some bullshyt - then you could be deep in it - and for what? For just a plate? Makes no sense to me.

Anyway, if this is just plate, you must have a few other plates on the go. That being the case, just phone up one of your other plates and go bang them, and forget about this one totally - wipe this plate, and go the spin the others. So, yeah, that's what I was meaning. Cheers.

 

[Atom Smasher]

If you're going to do it in person you should consider recording it. This girl is dangerous. By the way, the BPD usually comes out in full force at the 3 month mark.