ok, so me and my ex have been dating for a while and she gets a job on a cruise ship as a dancer and she's sailiing all the time and im in college, but i really like this girl (whether it's due to the fact that she spent A LOT of money on me and got me whatever i wanted, or the fact that she broke up with me and now i actually do really like her) this is still being questioned. so she bought me a ticket to come on a christmas cruise with her while we were going out and now were broken up and she still says i can come out with her.(we broke things off because she said that we never get to see each other and it's really hard..bull****..but anyways, she is dating some dude from england now and im still going on the cruise. he might be on the ship when i get there and he might not.....but she says that WE( me and her) are only friends and not to expect anything when i come aboard... i need to know what i need to do to "win" her back over when i come aboard...i mean do i flirt with other single ladies in front of her showing that i can handle it or what?!?!!? please help...it's just around the corner and i need to be prepared to put something into action.
Christmas cruise with the ex-girlfriend... please help!!
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Umm you could act like your single. Oh wait, you are. Don't let her control how you go about on a cruise, its supposed to be relaxing. Personally, I wouldnt even go, fvck cruising when you can go diving or something with people who don't stimulate awkward pauses.
Ignore her or treat her like a regular friend, show no interest whatsoever.
Ignore her or treat her like a regular friend, show no interest whatsoever.
doctorj
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meet other girls while on the cruise, and make sure she finds out
Desdinova
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Let's count the red flags, shall we?
Why are you dating your ex? There are reasons that the two of you broke up. People generally don't change, so you're likely going to experience the same problem after you get back together with her.
Women who are entertainers get constant attention from other men. The better looking she is, the more attention she gets. She can pick and choose just about any man she wants.
The woman is almost never home. Add that to Red Flag #2 (being surrounded by guys) and you've got yourself no chance of keeping her around for a LTR. She is NOT LTR material. Do yourself a favor and find a woman who works locally and isn't an entertainer. She'll be more stable.
Do yourself a favor: Sell the cruise ticket and buy yourself something nice.
Oh yeah, and scroll down to the bottom of the page, click on "DJ Bible" and READ.
Red Flag #1cdy4261 said:
Why are you dating your ex? There are reasons that the two of you broke up. People generally don't change, so you're likely going to experience the same problem after you get back together with her.
Red Flag #2
Women who are entertainers get constant attention from other men. The better looking she is, the more attention she gets. She can pick and choose just about any man she wants.
Red Flag #3
The woman is almost never home. Add that to Red Flag #2 (being surrounded by guys) and you've got yourself no chance of keeping her around for a LTR. She is NOT LTR material. Do yourself a favor and find a woman who works locally and isn't an entertainer. She'll be more stable.
The only reason for you to go on the cruise is to get yourself strung along for the whole trip, and to have your feelings stomped into the ground by her.
It may be a cover for her to date any man she wants, but she's right. She can't spend enough time with you to maintain a LTR.
Sounds like a fun trip. You're going on a cruise with the woman you're in love with, and you're going to be masturbating the whole time while she fvcks some guy from England. Sounds like a vacation in paradise
You can't. Women don't turn attraction on and off at the flick of a switch. Attraction is something that can fade in or out. Your turn with her is done and over with. Any attempt to 'win her over' is a waste of your time and a waste of emotion. You'll come back from your cruise frustrated and hurt.
Do yourself a favor: Sell the cruise ticket and buy yourself something nice.
Oh yeah, and scroll down to the bottom of the page, click on "DJ Bible" and READ.
SandHawk
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Fvck her, go on your free cruise. She got you a free ticket, you might aswell use it. Never waste a free ticket to *****, even if it's the ***** from another girl. Hell, I'd probably try to hit up a girl in front of her.
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It is not clear whether she bought you this cruise ship ticket or she just said it is ok for you to come along. Either way, it is not prudent to got to this cruise ship particularly since you're not together with her. Perhaps, her new boyfriend is not sure whether he will be going or not so she's tagging you along just in case he does not come. If you have the ticket, sell it; if not, don't even go.
WC2
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Read over Desdinova's post.
Going on this cruise is a huge waste of your time unless :
1) You're completely over this girl and have a new girl to bring
2) It doesn't matter because you're not.
Do you think of the consequences of your future actions? Sometimes we all don't, which is what makes us men.
However when dealing with things that phuck with your head like an ex, YOU MUST.
You realize that when you go on this 5 day cruise, not only will you be depressed for 5 days when she's making love to her new BF's c0ck in the cabin next to you, but you will be depressed for months after this.
You're setting yourself up for failure. She dumped you. For whatever reason, she didn't need you anymore. What makes you think she needs you now. MOREOVER, even if she does need you now, what makes you think she will a few years down the road?
Bro, I've fallen into a relationship just like this (over 3 years ago) and I'm still licking my wounds from this chick. And I have had 2 GFs since!
Women like this are a drug and like to give you half a pill, so you'll be convinced that there's a whole pill sitting at the end of the rainbow. There isn't. And if there is, it's not going to last forever.
It's time to move on with your life and drop this girl's name out of your life for good.
Hell, I've got my ex calling me every other day begging me to do things to her that some girls never do and I still turn her down. She calls me offering to take me out to dinner every weekend, and I turn her down. They may think they want to be with you, but in reality their mind is just seeking gratification.
Find a fresh girl who doesn't need this gratification (as much at least).
Going on this cruise is a huge waste of your time unless :
1) You're completely over this girl and have a new girl to bring
2) It doesn't matter because you're not.
Do you think of the consequences of your future actions? Sometimes we all don't, which is what makes us men.
However when dealing with things that phuck with your head like an ex, YOU MUST.
You realize that when you go on this 5 day cruise, not only will you be depressed for 5 days when she's making love to her new BF's c0ck in the cabin next to you, but you will be depressed for months after this.
You're setting yourself up for failure. She dumped you. For whatever reason, she didn't need you anymore. What makes you think she needs you now. MOREOVER, even if she does need you now, what makes you think she will a few years down the road?
Bro, I've fallen into a relationship just like this (over 3 years ago) and I'm still licking my wounds from this chick. And I have had 2 GFs since!
Women like this are a drug and like to give you half a pill, so you'll be convinced that there's a whole pill sitting at the end of the rainbow. There isn't. And if there is, it's not going to last forever.
It's time to move on with your life and drop this girl's name out of your life for good.
Hell, I've got my ex calling me every other day begging me to do things to her that some girls never do and I still turn her down. She calls me offering to take me out to dinner every weekend, and I turn her down. They may think they want to be with you, but in reality their mind is just seeking gratification.
Find a fresh girl who doesn't need this gratification (as much at least).
sodbuster
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Separate rooms? Same room? Separate room-chase every tail on the ship but hers. You can be so busy on a ship you never see her-try to make it happen[not seeing her] IF she's a dancer, employees have different sections of the ship than passengers-you can avoid her for the whole trip unless SHE tries to find you. THEN maybe tap it,but she isn't LTR material.
