Choices, choices: What's a DJ to do?

[WestCoaster]

OK, most of my life has been feast or famine on the dating scene: Either I'm meeting and dating a few women here and there, or I'm in a long drought of very few dates.

Right now, thanks to sosuave, I'm in the feast period and seriously, I'm not sure how to handle it. Before I get flamed or anything let's just say I'm a very ethical and honest person and in the past, that still hasn't stopped women from crapping on me. I don't believe in cheating because I've been cheated on and it sucks. So there's some background.

Here's the current:
Gal I've been after for a long time -- kind of a dream gal to be honest -- is FINALLY warming up to me and I could be FINALLY getting out of the friendship zone with her.

Gal 500 miles away is warming up to me via e-mail and we're meeting in a few weeks.

Internet personals gal wants to get together soon.

My priorities are to close the deal on girl No. 1. I really don't want to f' this up, but there's the possibility of being fried there. Heck with any woman there's the possibility of being fried.

Want to stay in contact with No. 2 because I think she's awesome, but distance is a huge factor.

Haven't met No. 3 but I'm intrigued as heck!

No flaming, no AFC calling or anything. I'll just tune it out. I would like some sound advice. I'm just getting out of a drought and need to polish up here, fellas!

 

[DJ_Dork]

This will be your last adventure into "Long distance relationships"

Good luck.

 

[Chemistry]

Go with #1... it seems like a concrete thing, you know her how she is and the rest

I'm not a fan of the email rapport with anyone to be honest, so maybe I'm biased on this second one... but girl could turn out to be a total drag and not have the confidence in real life to act out what she says in her emails... she's only C & F and a blast when she's got a username to protect her... but see her, see how it works out and see if you can **** her... end of the day you're not exclusive with number 1 so why not have some fun with #2 since a serious relationship isn't too plausible given the distance

As for #3, it may not even come through... again, if it does treat it in the same vein as number 2... hope she turns out to be as glam as built up to be and have that same attitude when you meet her as she seems to portray through the email contact with you, or just in her personal ad...


#1 is the gold tho...

 

[WestCoaster]

Some clarification

I've known No. 2 gal (e-mail) for almost a year so she's not hiding behind a name. We're pretty good friends.

I think you're right on No. 1. Pretty solid there.

Thanks.

 

[Chemistry]

Yeah, but I just think insecurities are much less apparent when you have that barrier between you... regardless of how well you think you know her, the telling time we be when you hook up in person... will she handle herself the same as she does when she emails you / IMs you, or will the very shallow nature of the world catch up with her, and she ends up being much more uptight and unwilling to express herself in the same way that she could in an e-mail, with that element removed?

Just somethin' to mull over as a possibility...

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Bro no offense, but your FRIENDS with both of these chicks!! Give us some examples of how you believe there attitude towards you has changed recently so we can give you better advice. And the internet personal gal is advertising herself on there for a reason........LOL Anyway, give us more specifics and we can help you out better.



PIMP

 

[WestCoaster]

Examples

I guess the details are with No. 1 things have changed dramatically in conversation, KINO, IL from her. It's been a huge difference than just a few months ago. A good DJ doesn't need it verbalized, he can feel it.

As for No. 2 -- and Chuckles is right, you don't know behind an e-mail -- is conversations are deeper, IL appears (emphasis on appears) heightened. No. 2 gal and I started to pick up steam right before I accepted a job and moved out of town, thus the "friends" tag. Might have been different had I stayed around, but I needed a good job, got one and had to move.

No. 3, no idea. Just sounds intriguing from a personal ad.

That's the details right now. I know you just had this sosuave message board urge to call me an AFC. Don't even go there. I'm not one and I won't listen to it. :>)